President Obama tends not to get out in front of image problems. In fact, his analytical leadership style inclines him toward quite the opposite. His response to the birthers and their latest ringleader Donald Trump is a case in point. It took the president a long time to put to rest the increasing storm of criticism around his birthplace.
Late as the confirmation was, in the release of his official Hawaii long-form birth certificate, it was followed by a flourish. President Obama left Trump's challenge in the dust at the White House Correspondent's Dinner by suggesting -- with exceptional humor -- that Trump could now focus on serious issues, such as whether we faked the moon landing.
Both responses succeeded in removing from discussion what the president described as "silliness" right before he, as Commander-in-chief, oversaw the serious, dangerous work of ending the threat of Osama Bin Laden.
President Obama did not, however, directly address Trump's latest academic insult, which asserts that the young Obama lacked the grades to get into Columbia and Harvard.
Should he?
It's a question we can apply to our own lives when dealing with personal attacks. When do you turn the other cheek and when do you deliver a comeback a bully will never forget?
First, you have to be able to differentiate along a continuum from offense to insult. The former is often accidental and the latter purposeful. Context makes a considerable difference. Some comments mildly offensive in one context are clearly insulting in another.
The question about the president's birthplace was meant to insult but occurred in the context of politics where credibility challenges are not unusual. As such, it was possible for the president to treat the birther issue as a challenge that could be posed to any president rather than code for "you're not one of us."
By addressing it, especially in a humorous way, the president put the issue to rest without escalating it to benefit the visibility Trump was seeking.
Trump's academic credentials challenge is a different kind of disparagement. It's an insult. It's obviously self-serving, code for "you only got in because you're black," and insults far more people than the president alone. It is over-the-top as insults go even in political contexts.
This is so distasteful an insult, so obviously intended to provoke that turning the other check on this one is, at least now, the best choice. Others are responding to Trump, especially those feeling the sting of an insult meant to negatively reflect by implication on the achievements of all minorities.
That's the difference between a comment that must be addressed to avoid escalating negative effects and an insult that goes so far that it is best to let the author squirm in the hole he dug for himself.
Some offenses take on a life that becomes harmful to one's credibility. That was happening to the president with the birther issue. Others along the continuum from offense to insult require responses when they distract from important issues under discussion or detract from the reputation of the person disparaged.
The president made these distinctions. It serves as a good lesson, a healthy reminder, of what to do and say in the face of public meanness becoming all too common.
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President Obama continued to grow and learn long after he left Harvard and entered public service. None of us would hold youth up as the brightest, smartest more productive time of our lives. What President Obama has done as President does matter.
Visionaries are looking forward because they can not change the past.
No. It didn't. He released his certified copy of his birth certificate long, long ago. It did not appease the Republicans because they did not want the issue to be resolved. So they decided it had to be the long form. That was just them with this ridiculous narrative that suited their purpose of painting him as "other" and as not being the "Real" President.
I am not saying it is or isn't but will it still be an insult if it turns out to be true? Isn't it true that there is a history of "reverse-discrimination" where schools have selected the minority candidate over the white one even though the white one was more qualified academically?
Now, how is that, Donnie, for getting in a exclusive college without any merit?
You don't need to do much more than simply compare Barack Obama to Dubya to Donald Trump himself to see who had good grades and was a good student who wasn't. It is more than obvious.
The real point is the insinuation by Donald Trump that he got into Harvard based on his color. My point is- he did not, however, Georgie Bush got into Yale only and solely because of his father. It's pretty ironic.
So, don't even start going there, it will turn to the GOP disadvantage fairly quickly.
Some people seem to not be shocked when benefits are granted to the rich and powerful without merit, but just because of their wallets and rolodexes. It happens every day. Why would it be shocking, then, that some get benefits because of their skin color? Is really it any worse?
And I'm not saying this with relation to Obama himself, who has an outstanding academic achievement. Rather, I'm saying this for all the black and latino people out there who got pretty offended by Trump's ridiculous allegations.
Go on c-span.org and check his speeches. The president never personally attacked Ryan personally nor demonized him. It's amazing how people from all sides, for & against, project onto the President what they want, instead of just listening to the words that come out of his mouth.
The more Ryan speaks, the more often we get a glimpse of his forked tongue. Ryan is an example of a nice-talking wolf in altar boy's clothing, caressing and applying ice to numb before the blow.
On the other hand, that is approximately the percentage that hates the Ryan budget.
That sounds pretty childish to me.
I rather thought that spoke for itself in terms of answering Trump's nonsense, which was indeed an insult to minorities everywhere.
Finally, I find it ironic coming from Trump who got a leg up in business from a rich daddy.
Only someone as magnificently ignorant and racist as Trump would try to make an issue of the President's academic history.