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Keli Goff

Keli Goff

Posted: June 28, 2010 10:39 PM

Should the Children of Candidates Always Be Off-Limits? As Meg Whitman Reminds Us, Not Always

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There seemed to be few issues that the final candidates in the 2008 presidential election agreed on, except for one. Their families -- specifically their kids -- should be off limits. During her post-election appearance on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Sarah Palin lamented what she saw as the media's double standard in its willingness to adhere to President Obama's request that his family be treated as off-limits, versus the coverage hers faced. (I know what you're thinking. Sarah Palin blaming the media for something? I must be making that up!) Just a few weeks ago Glenn Beck did the unthinkable and actually apologized for a dig at the President, more specifically, for a segment on his radio show involving the President's daughter after it elicited widespread criticism. But despite the President and Beck's rare moment of agreement on this issue, the children of candidates should not be issued an automatic, lifetime free pass, just as they shouldn't be issued a lifetime bulls-eye on their backs either.

We judge candidates on all sorts of things, from the substantive (their policy positions), to the shallow (the way they dress, or in Palin's case how much they spend on the clothes). If parenting is the most important job in the world, shouldn't someone that you, as a voter, are interviewing for the job of representing you be able to be judged on how well he or she has done at that job?

I began thinking about this after viewing the new attack ad released by Meg Whitman's campaign targeting her Democratic rival for Governor, Jerry Brown. The ad argues that Brown's entire career in politics has been one full of failures as well as questionable judgment and leadership. However, as everyone with access to a computer now knows, Whitman's own leadership has been marred by at least one "alleged" incident of manhandling (or in her case woman-handling) a subordinate, an incident rumored to have been resolved with a six-figure settlement. But in my mind equally disturbing are the series of alleged incidents involving her adult sons. Between them they have been accused of assault and of having some questionable racial attitudes, to put it mildly. You can read about the allegations and view corresponding police reports here and here.

While I was initially hesitant to write about them at all, since yes, I know they are not the ones running for office, I thought about it and wondered why I shouldn't. Don't they represent one of Whitman's most significant contributions to the world, as does the child of any person? Also since Whitman cited her investment of time and energy in raising her children as being the primary reason she didn't register to vote until she had nearly reached the half-century mark (an egregious example of using your family as a political shield that should make feminists of all political parties shudder) then why isn't assessing how well her investment turned out, fair game? Furthermore, if Whitman has been accused of having temperament issues in the workplace and her children are accused of having temperament issues as adults as well, doesn't that raise questions about her leadership skills at work and home?

Obviously no person is perfect and no family is perfect (me and mine included) and we shouldn't expect them to be, but here's my question. If we hold elected officials accountable when their policies fail other people's children, then why shouldn't we hold them accountable when their parenting skills fail their own?

To those who think that the media has no business ever covering the children (adult or otherwise) of candidates, I ask this: If a candidate opposes gun control, and his own child accidentally shoots another child while playing, are we supposed to have a hands-off mentality, because the child did not run for office? Or, if an elected official argues that abstinence only is the most effective form of sexual education for kids, but then her child proves this to be false through an unplanned pregnancy, is the media supposed to operate with blinders? What about if a candidate campaigns on his tough-on-crime credentials but when his adult son is accused of sexual assault, uses his resources to make sure junior gets the kind of blind justice only money can buy? Does the media have a responsibility to do the right thing by not covering such stories?

I don't think so.

Years ago I remember having an argument with a friend about Mel Gibson and his father. I argued that any public figure who declines to publicly denounce or distance themselves from the views of a close relative who publicly questions the Holocaust is sending a message regarding his own attitudes -- and not a good one. My friend thought I was unfairly blaming Gibson for "the sins of the father" and that I was making an unjustifiable leap regarding his own attitudes towards Jewish people and others simply because he loves someone who happens to be a little nuts but whom he couldn't help being related to. Well a few years, and one drunken arrest later, we know that to some degree, the Gibson apple didn't fall too far from the tree.

I don't know enough about the Whitman family to say the same, but I do know that voters and the media have a right to ask the question.

This post was originally published on TheLoop21.com, for which Goff is a political writer.

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04:00 AM on 07/01/2010
When are we going to start talking about what a poor businesswoman she is? She wasted Billion of shareholders money at ebay. Her Skype deal was a total fiasco. She way over paid by Billions and then never had a plan for what to do with the technology. ebay had to write off over 2 Billion dollars before they sold the company. Or how about how she blew the craigslist deal? She got in a big fight and everyone ended up in court cases in both CA and Delaware. Will she treat the legislature the same way she treated Craig?
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margoharris
I used to be Snow White but I drifted.
04:26 PM on 07/23/2010
Good questions. fanned and faved.
01:26 AM on 07/01/2010
Addiction
Bankruptcy
Billy-Beer
Divorce
Death
Drug-dealing
Illness
Insanity
Murder
Marriage
Pedophilia
Pregnancy

Connections between public figures and the fates of their family members are seldom material, but always significant, and vice versa. Public figures generally make it clear what limits they want the public to observe, although they sometimes make mistakes. Discretion lies only in the hands of the media, and unfortunately is exercised quite often only as a matter of whim - that is, as a matter of media respect or regard for a public figure and a figure's family members.
Journalists have their own scruples or codes, or lack thereof; but by and large among the great, teaming sea of seething investigators competing for stories that is our National Press, the matter of Who Is LIKED by Whom and Who Is NOT LIKED quite often is what sets the tone, renders the limits, and determines which stories are news and which are not.
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Kyrillos Wickenberg
07:58 PM on 06/30/2010
If a politician can't control their own household how can they govern a state?
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sistermoon3
Common sense cant be bought
10:12 AM on 07/03/2010
yep, the obama's were in huge debt, i guess luck of the draw got em out of it, it sure wasnt their business savyness
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margoharris
I used to be Snow White but I drifted.
04:16 PM on 07/23/2010
Who said the Obama's were in "huge debt" you lie! They didn't have big money until he wrote his best selling autobiography.
What would you call that? I call it the American way.

FAIL
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pbh493
It is better to travel well than to arrive.
04:53 PM on 06/30/2010
I agree completely. I think the cover needs to be thrown back to expose those that use their power and influence to get their relatives cush jobs, sweetheart contracts, out of trouble and the like. It speaks to their willingness to use their power for personal reasons, something none of us want in a representative.
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bknott
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01:59 PM on 06/30/2010
What you're talking about is the difference between gossip and fact. Reporting on incidents in the public record (whether alleged or not) is just reporting. Taking that information to try and make a better-informed decision on the candidate is fair, and a good idea.

Pure gossip about candidates' families should still be taboo, and in fact, gossip about the candidates shouldn't be repeated, although that's asking for the impossible.
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margoharris
I used to be Snow White but I drifted.
04:19 PM on 07/23/2010
It is public record. Did you read the links?
She is a corporate shill that is buying an election. What has she spent so far of her own money....120 million! That is just gross.
01:54 PM on 06/30/2010
Hey! Keli! Leave them kids alone! All in all you're just another brick in the wall
12:20 PM on 06/30/2010
Kelli, ususally I agree with your posts, but you are wrong here. Unless relatives choose to inject themselves into a campaign, they are off limit, period. If you want to start condeming every parent for the actions or beliefs of their children, nobody with kids over 10 would be electable since one of the things kids do best is rebel against their parents as they try to find themselves and establish their own identity. Mel Gibson getting drunk is not enough evidence to make your case.
05:26 PM on 06/30/2010
Maybe not. But screaming racial and antisemitic epithets at officers who stopped him for DUI certainly is. I have not watched another Gibson movie since, and will not.
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11:45 AM on 06/30/2010
While whining about the press 'keeping its hands off' the replacement governors kids - Freakshow Palin was waving her kids - including the super pregnant one in everybody's face until we all realized the baracuda had nothing of substance to say and was using her off spring as a diversion.
Time would tell - Palin set the bar so low in so many ways - but this hypocrisy ironically made the rules.
11:31 AM on 06/30/2010
Sounds like a gossip's self-serving rationalization to me.
"I want to dish dirt on anyone anywhere near politics, so here's a reason why I should be allowed."
Under this rationalisation, journalists can waylay-interview Mr Obama's kids on their views on race, religion and sexually active grade-schoolers with impunity.
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margoharris
I used to be Snow White but I drifted.
04:23 PM on 07/23/2010
They have arrest records. It is public record. Her negitive ads during the primary were disgusting and turned off my 2 daughters who live in CA. It was really bad 24/7 nastiness bought with all of that money she can buy the election with.
Gross.
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JScott
John Galt's last name is McGuffin-Smithee
10:22 AM on 06/30/2010
Yup it's fair game Meg's running for Ca. governor not president. So go ahead write and talk about her kids.
03:50 AM on 07/01/2010
It's adult kids not grade school kids.
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Kitster
10:08 AM on 06/30/2010
If the adult child of a candidate gets in trouble, that should have no bearing on the candidacy. If the candidate uses her wealth and influence to help the child avoid any responsibility or consequences, that should certainly be an issue.
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Willie12345
09:02 AM on 06/30/2010
They should be completely off limits, unless they start campaigning as adults, then anything goes.
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Darwinita
Goddess Divine and certainly an acquired taste...
10:01 AM on 06/30/2010
Maybe you should google her children and learn what kind of over-entitled a$$holes she produced before you say that.

They're over 21, and as far as I'm concerned, the author of this post has a great point. That bit about not voting because she was raising her children? Riiiight.

I didn't know voting took that much time, and reading a newspaper to inform oneself isn't impossible with children in the house. This woman's trying to pull a Bloomberg and buy California. Difference is, Bloomberg can govern- and had lots of success before this. Meg's a clown.
08:50 AM on 06/30/2010
The only ones off limits are the families of Dem canidates.
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Darwinita
Goddess Divine and certainly an acquired taste...
10:02 AM on 06/30/2010
Or eleven year-olds as opposed to promiscuous hypocritical pregnant teens?
11:36 AM on 06/30/2010
Palin made her daughter a target when she started rolling her out on the campaign trail. She used her family as a prop in the campaign, so yes, we have every right to know something about them. Obama did not use his daughters on the campaign trail, so they were not part of the campaign. There's a difference.
03:54 AM on 07/01/2010
You're forgetting about the older son who had to join the Army or face the consequences for vandalism. The other teen daughter is reported to have been involved in some trouble too, but so far none of the girls have been charged the last I heard.

Why do conservative women think they can buy their bratty kids way out of trouble?
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Rendy Bee Mulyono
Someone with constant stream of
08:23 AM on 06/30/2010
Go ahead, dear. Blast Whitman!
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smayhew
11:46 AM on 06/30/2010
Do you KNOW anything about her history?
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Neets101
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08:23 AM on 06/30/2010
An observation regarding the ACTIONS of a child, but not mocking a child I think are within bounds.

Mocking a child, no.

When a child becomes an adult, they are responsible for their own actions.

There is no good excuse for the MOCKERY of a child, or someone who has no control over their situation or is unable to mentally understand their own actions IMO.
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Darwinita
Goddess Divine and certainly an acquired taste...
10:03 AM on 06/30/2010
The "children" were in college when they behaved poorly and were busted for it. Grown humans, as far as I'm concerned, and societal disapproval is one of the most effective ways of checking anti- social behavior.

Over 21? Getting charged with assault? FAIR GAME.
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12:15 PM on 06/30/2010
Yep. Over 21 is an adult.