Mother's Day can be especially trying for newly single moms. In the past it was their significant others who planned the day and assisted the kids with picking out cards,flowers and activities. Now, on your own, it might seem just like any other day being a mom. Nothing special. But it doesn't have to be. Here are some low stress ways to celebrate the amazing solo mom you are with your kids.
1. Do something you can all enjoy. When my children were younger we would each pick our favorite activity to do together, write them on a strip of paper and toss them into a bag. I made sure all the choices were something relaxing and fun for everyone (including mom!). Then I got to draw the winning activity. As an example; we live close to Disneyland and have annual passes, which makes it an affordable fun day, so that was frequently our activity of choice.
2. Steer clear of the brunch and instead do lunch. It can be unsettling for a new single mom to see huge family groups together. To you they may look like the quintessentially happy American family celebrating their mom, which might make you feel less than as your family unit has diminished. If that's not enough, most restaurants on Mother's Day are noisy and overcrowded places where you are served less than stellar meals by grouchy overworked waiters. Instead how about picking up take out and bringing it to your mom. If she doesn't live nearby or is no longer with you celebrate with a surrogate mom. Or visit a home for the aged and bring some of the ladies there, who might not have their families around, a surprise Mother's Day brunch. It is a wonderful lesson in giving for your children and will make you feel so good!
3. Collaborate on a multi-single mom Mother's Day celebration. Get together with a few of your other single mom friends and their kids to enjoy a potluck picnic at the park. The kids can entertain each other on the swings and jungle gym. Meanwhile, you can revel in some unabashed girlfriend time. Add a dash of champagne and OJ for adults and you've got a fun-filled relaxing day.
4. Spoil yourself at the spa. Many resort spas all over the country are offering Mother's Day specials. I've listed some great ones for you to explore in my window or aisle column. You should feel no guilt about about treating yourself to a relaxing pamper day. It is not only good for your overall physical health but a boost to your mental acuity as well.
5. Take a new family photo. Call your favorite local portrait photographer and plan a family photo shoot. You and your children will have fun picking out outfits, doing your hair and make-up (for the girls) and find a location that best exemplifies who you all are. It is the perfect way to honor your new family unit.
Ultimately the goal is to enjoy the most stress free day with your children possible. Truly savor each and every moment focusing on the fact that they will be irreplaceably cherished memories for all of you.