Yesterday my beloved sent me a text asking me if I had seen the news on twitter -- Al and Tipper Gore were getting a divorce.
"Who gets the internet?"
"Who would have thought that Bill and Hillary would last longer."
"I am so upset."
A few takeaways for me were as follows:
1- No one ever knows what is truly going on between a couple except for the couple.
2- Marriage is not a cake walk - even after, or perhaps especially not after 40 years.
3- Anything can happen along the journey, no matter who you are.
I don't know why Al and Tipper decided to call it quits after forty years.
I do know that for many of us the news was particularly devastating because in this modern age where few marriages last theirs "seemed" like one that was working despite of their great political success and that gave the rest of us hope.
Now we are left to our own devices and left to fend for our partnerships on our own.
I still plan on getting married overseas in a few months.
I am doing so with eyes wide open. I happen to be marrying a great man who is kind, generous, patient and incredibly loving but even so we still have our ups and our downs. (We are after all human.) I am hopeful that our marriage will last more than forty years, to the end of our lives where we both get to swing on the porch as old people holding hands; and though anything can happen along that journey, no matter who we choose to be I am hopeful that we are able to make it through, despite the odds, unscathed.
Marriage is not a cake walk- that we both know well but I am hopeful that we are able to make it through as a couple.
As for Al and Tipper, I wish them all the best and much happiness. Thank you for being a role model for us for so many years and thank you for having the courage to do what you both thought was best.