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These Breasts were Made for Feeding

Posted: 05/14/2012 10:51 am

TIME magazine recently ran a cover story about long-term breastfeeding. It depicted a cover photo of a woman standing and staring into the distance, a 3-year-old boy standing on a chair in front of her, attached to her breast. Needless to say, the photo and article caused an uproar. Some people thought it was obscene. Others, myself included, thought it was misleading, to say the least.

It doesn't surprise me that breastfeeding -- not to mention breastfeeding to an age that more naturally suits biology -- has come to the fore in the public consciousness. It fits right in with the resurrection of the war on women, statements by politicians that women should never have been able to vote, laws that force women to share their sex lives with employers and basically anything that says women cannot and should not be able to determine anything about themselves -- most especially their sexuality or anything related to their bodies (unless they are getting their breasts cut off because they have cancer, then it is okay).

All this furor over women breastfeeding children beyond an age our culture has deemed appropriate belies a greater underlying issue. Ultimately, any discussion of breastfeeding as obscene is part of this American cultural hostility against women. Our culture would like to maintain that women's bodies are property and should be available at all times as sexual playthings. Seeing the female body as life-giving and nurturing (i.e., breastfeeding) is a far more powerful message, and certainly not something that can be owned and controlled.

The TIME photo is offensive precisely because it is obscene, but it is not obscene because the young child in it is breastfeeding. Rather, it is obscene because it has taken something that is nurturing (and arguably scientifically best for children and women) and turned it into something salacious and indecent. Nothing about the photo is in any way representative of breastfeeding as it is. It seeks to make breastfeeding seem suggestive and forbidden, something tawdry that should be stopped before it gets out of control, something that should be hidden under a blanket. No matter that breasts are flaunted as sexual playthings in advertising and on magazine covers. In the latter context, breasts are kept in their place. It is the former that touches a nerve because it suggests that breasts might have another, more fundamental purpose, one that doesn't involve breasts as property or women as objects.

Perhaps the editors of TIME intended for the photo to inflame and kickstart further discussion about women's bodies and women's place in our culture. Perhaps they understood that breastfeeding is something so fundamental to being a woman, something as life-giving as the birth process itself, that it should be acceptable in our culture, without question and without blankets. Perhaps they wanted to make it loud and clear just how ridiculous it is to claim this act is obscene. Maybe they weren't just trying to sell magazines. I doubt it, but it is possible.

(In the interests of full disclosure, this article was written while my 2 1/2 year old daughter nursed in my lap.)

 
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05:35 PM on 05/15/2012
Can someone please provide the links with the "science" and "facts" that specifically say "breastfeeding" to an older age is better?

i understand that human milk is probably better for human babies than cow or goat milk, but where in that science does is say that breastfeeding is needed? Why can't a woman pump the milk and feed it to the child? Or better yet, teach the child how to eat on his or her own?
04:18 PM on 05/15/2012
'it should be acceptable in our culture, without question and without blankets." Thank you for this!!

So many people think that it's no big deal to cover up with a blanket while your baby nurses. It made my baby and I extra hot. My baby always had latching issues and adjusting her was extremely difficult with a cover. If all that wasn't enough, as soon as she was physically capable of doing so, she wouldn't stand for being covered and it ended up drawing more attention to what I was doing. I think that covering up should only ever be for the comfort of the nursing mother. I resent it when people say, "I'm fine with public breastfeeding, as long as they cover up". If that is how you feel, then you are NOT fine with public breastfeeding. I'm pregnant with my second child and this time I will not let anyone make me feel ashamed to feed my baby whenever and wherever he is hungry!
08:41 PM on 05/14/2012
breast feeding is fine up to a certain age. maybe 2 yrs or 3 yrs, but after that he/or she is not your little baby but a toddler who will start daycare and kindy. many many years age breast feeding was a necessity as you lived in a society that did not have a supermarket or convenience store in your neighborhood. also i recall when my daughter breastfed her oldest daughter to age 4yrs, the child was infatuated with breasts; looking at grammys breasts & touching them and moms when she was not breastfeeding made you feel totally uncomfortable-what do the little boys think?
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fallenarches
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06:08 PM on 05/14/2012
I look at the photo as something akin to 'shock therapy'. It is most definitely meant to shock -- whether to sell magazines or kick-start a discussion or both doesn't really matter to me. I see value in the shock, the result of which may be increased tolerance for breastfeeding as it ACTUALLY is. I can imagine someone who, prior to this, felt disgusted by even reasonably discreet public breastfeeding (without suffocating blankets) or perhaps disgusted by any amount of breastfeeding at all anywhere at any age. I further imagine that person now encountering a woman discreetly nursing her child as most do, and thinking, "See, now THAT is okay, unlike that freak on the cover of Time." If that happens at all, my hat's off to her and Time.
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LaurieAnn
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06:56 PM on 05/14/2012
Since your reply to me was deleted (why I don't know, there was nothing wrong with it at all) I had to chase you down but I do want to let you know that I like the non-cover photos just fine.  I wish the Time cover had shown a seated mother and child where the two of them are making eye contact with each other as opposed to looking at the camera.  I think that would portray much better the connection that is fostered between a mother and child.
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fallenarches
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08:45 PM on 05/14/2012
The moderating/filtering system works in mysterious ways. This post says essentially the same thing, almost in the exact same words, so who knows. Maybe there's a community Mod. in the other thread with a bee in her or his bonnet. ::shrug::

Anyway, I suppose I 'like' the interior photos better, too, and they certainly are a much more accurate portrayal. The cover is almost cartoonish, but I think there's a reason to appreciate the defiance of it.
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04:43 PM on 05/14/2012
I just saw a spoof of this cover with Obama nursing George Clooney.... Absolute hilarious.
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Lisa SpomerKrasnoff
02:44 PM on 05/14/2012
I'd like to ask the author, If the editors of TIME had used the breasts of Jenna Jamieson (herself a mother of young twins) would she have been in such agreement with their decision to go with it?

I support women's rights, consider myself moderate, but I think this photo is narcisstic on the mother's part. I don't see it aiding in the cause of women's rights. But that's just me...
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LibbySawyer
02:05 PM on 05/14/2012
I'd really like to see citations for this article. Specifically, all the information given in her second paragraph.
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fallenarches
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05:49 PM on 05/14/2012
Start watching the news.
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Lisa SpomerKrasnoff
01:40 PM on 05/14/2012
If you don't believe TIME did this to sell magazines, then I've got some swamp land down here in Louisiana to sell ya...
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12:39 PM on 05/14/2012
Rereading your article, my God, I whole-heartedly agree with you.
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latoussaint
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12:38 PM on 05/14/2012
I took my toddler to a female doctor who was absolutely HORRIFIED that I breastfeed beyond age 2! I jumped down her throat with all the facts and statistics. I am still fuming!
11:44 AM on 05/14/2012
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I have felt like such a minority this week as friends ridicule this mother. Being a Mom is hard enough without judgement from others. I would not nurse my children that long, but it is my choice. Just like it was this mother's choice to keep nursing. Why should it be anyone else's business? I loved your line "...should be acceptable in our culture, without question and without blankets." I hated having to constantly cover (and overheat) my son while he was eating just because it made others uncomfortable.