12 Ways to Love a Man (Or a Woman)

04/20/2015 02:28 pm ET | Updated Jun 20, 2015


Have you ever been in a relationship where you said to yourself, "I feel so much passion and chemistry when we have sex, but I don't feel happy and in love, when we're just together." Or, "She's so hot-looking and sweet, but we don't have much in common. We just don't seem to enjoy the same things."

Do you seldom meet someone who enjoys having fun the way you do, and who makes you feel happy and adored when you are in their presence? If you rarely meet somebody you feel a real love connection it could be because you are dating (or in a relationship with) the wrong type of man (or woman) to fit your love nature.

If your Sun signs are well suited you may feel a basic attraction to someone. And, if your Mars signs are well matched with the other person, you may feel a strong physical chemistry. But if you want to feel a real "love connection," it's important that your Venus signs are compatible.

Venus is the planet that rules love, relationships and pleasure. The way that Venus functions in your life, gives you valuable insight into your love nature and unique way of having fun and enjoying beauty. This planet is what gives your personality that special charm that draws others to you and the sex appeal that the right person may find irresistible.

Your Venus sign tells you a great deal about the kind of lovers you attract or that attract you. It describes the ways you seek enjoyment and express your sensuous nature. This planet shows your capacity to express and receive affection. Venus' influence on you also shows the way you relate to the opposite sex, and how you're likely to love them and want to be loved. So, it's important to know what sign your Venus is in - if you want to understand your intimate relationship needs and find someone who will really make you feel happy and loved.

At the end of this article, you can use the FREE Transit Calculator to find out your Venus sign. Then, look it up (in the list below) to learn about your unique love needs and the signs you'll be most compatible with in a loving relationship. Here is a list of the 12 Venus signs:

Venus in ARIES

Because you have an impulsive nature that follows the dictates of your heart, you can fall in love with someone "at first sight." You're a sensuous person who's often attracted first by a person's physical appearance even though you need there to be mental compatibility to stay interested. You have an enthusiastic and sometimes aggressive nature that can become demanding and selfish. But that side of you is often tolerated because of a generous nature that causes you to spontaneously show up with a gift for the person you love.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Aries, Leo, Sagittarius and Libra.

Venus in TAURUS

You are a sensuous lover who has a physical and earthly love nature that expresses itself through your strong sexual needs. At first you are cautious in pursuing a love relationship. Once, committed, you are generous and demonstrative, sometimes even possessive, because you need to feel that your lover belongs only to you. But you are loyal and will help a lover in need with your money and all your resources. You know how to have fun and enjoy all the finer pleasures of life with your love whether it's great music, great food (and did I mention sex?)

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn and Scorpio.

Venus in GEMINI

The secret to falling in love for you, begins with having a wonderful intellectual rapport with someone. At first, you're rather casual and light-hearted about love. When it comes to love relationships, there's no hurry to get committed too soon. Since you're use to engaging in so many pleasurable pursuits such as enjoying music and literature, socializing with new people, reading and traveling, you love someone who you can share your many interests. You need mental stimulation, since you don't "do boredom," or fall in love with bores. Your need for freedom and variety, can make falling in love and being faithful to one person - a challenge.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Gemini, Libra, Aquarius and Sagittarius.

Venus in CANCER

You are a sensitive romantic who finds being loved the most important need you have. You would prefer to be pursued in a love relationship or receive lots of reassurance to do the pursuing. Because you are cautious by nature, you need to feel emotionally secure in order to be vulnerable to your lover. Once you feel this assurance you become a passionate and sensual mate. Your caring and sentimental nature makes you someone who thoughtfully remembers birthdays and anniversaries. You enjoy being at home with your partner, cooking a special meal you can enjoy together.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces and Capricorn.

Venus in LEO

You have a warm, charismatic personality that makes you very loveable. You live for love and romance. Your generous nature causes you to buy romantic and often, extravagant gifts for the person you love. In return you need lots of attention, affection, and adoration from your lover. When you're emotionally happy (or upset) you can be a full-fledged drama queen (or king). But you are more than willing to make sacrifices for someone you want to make happy. When it comes to a love relationship, you are a loyal, passionate, die-hard romantic who enjoys pleasuring and being pleasured by your mate.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Leo, Aries, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Venus in VIRGO

Your shyness can make you cautious about falling in love. Your perfectionistic tendencies can cause you to be very critical of a lover before you decide they are worthy of you. You are a very discerning and intelligent person who is sympathetic; always ready to serve the person you love. You enjoy communicating, writing and teaching. Despite some of the reserve you show in public, behind closed doors you are an earthy lover who works like a craftsman to please your partner.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Virgo, Taurus, Capricorn or Pisces.

Venus in LIBRA

Love is a very romantic and sensual experience for you. You are charming and classy with lots of style. You enjoy partying and socializing but are turned off by crude language or vulgar behavior. You are a pleasure-seeking person who enjoys luxury and beauty. Your pleasures often include: great music, candlelight dinners, cheek-to-cheek dancing and amorous gifts from your lover. This puts you in the mood to enjoy what you were made for: a happy, harmonious relationship.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Libra, Gemini, Aquarius and Aries.

Venus in SCORPIO

Being in love is a deeply emotional and powerful experience for you. You feel love on a very spiritual plane. But you have an overwhelming need to express your passionate sexual nature in your love relationship. This is because of your physical need to feel a profoundly close connection to your partner. However, your strong emotional nature can lead to conflict with your lover when you display your possessive and jealous nature.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Scorpio, Cancer, Pisces and Taurus.


You enjoy the excitement and adventure of a love relationship. It can be hard to pin you down to one intimate relationship because you like having your freedom. The emotional commitment that is often a part of a love relationship can feel restrictive to you. There's a part of you that would like to be free like Peter Pan and not "grow up." But you feel a love connection when you find someone who is open, honest, spiritual, and enjoys learning and exploring as you do.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Sagittarius, Aries, Leo and Gemini.


When it comes to falling in love you tend to be cautious, careful and calculating. While you are practical in matters of love, you have a very earthy and passionate romantic nature. When you're in love you have a jealous and possessive side that can come out, because you are afraid of rejection. If you feel slighted by your lover you can become cold and distant. But when it comes to being in love you are loyal, faithful and reliable.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo and Cancer.


Your love nature tends to be more intellectual and detached rather than emotive. You gravitate toward platonic friendships that don't emotionally bind you or inhibit your freedom. You like being friends with your lover but dislike being possessed by him (or her). So, it's important that your lover give you lots of freedom to pursue your wide range of interests and many friends. Your personal magnetism and original style inspire the love of your partner.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Aquarius, Gemini, Libra and Leo.

Venus in PISCES

You have a love nature that is extremely kind, sensitive and romantic. You can be a chameleon who bewitches your lover to fulfill his (or her) fantasy. Sometimes your penchant for romance causes you to have fantasies about your lover that lead to disappointment. You're self-sacrificing in a love relationship and intuitively know how to please your partner. You are inspired to love out of a deep desire to connect with a soul mate who fits your romantic ideal.

For Love: You're very romantically compatible with those who have their Sun or Mars in Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio and Virgo.

To learn what sign your VENUS is in, use the Free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. It will compute your personal transits for 2015 and the planets in your birth chart. Then, make sure to scroll down to the end of the page, where you'll see your planets and the sign they're in. You will see the sign your VENUS is in. And, if you're curious to learn more about your personal Horoscope in 2015 and what it says about your love relationships, career, investments and health in: Order your customized Report: Your Horoscope & Future in 2015.

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