Everyone has a unique gift -- something that is just undeniably "you" and is precisely useful to those around you. It's much more than a skill -- it is an ingrained strength fueled by your deepest passions, and nurtured by an unwavering sense of purpose. Most people never find their unique gift, either because they don't realize they have one, don't believe they have one, haven't attempted to find it, or don't recognize it when it is staring them in the face. For those willing to start the search, this top 10 is for you.
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1. Revisit Your Childhood
You have probably heard this before. That's because it works. Think back as far as you can, to pre-school days if possible. Think back to times when you weren't influenced by peers or fears. Back to times when your parents' expectations of you didn't go beyond you playing and exploring in a safe environment. What did you do? How did you fill your days? What activities or experiences created the greatest memories? What was the most fun? The common thread in there is a message that, with a little reinterpreting to fit your adult world, will propel you down the path toward your unique gift.
2. Lost In The Present
When is the last time you lost track of time? Are there activities that you find so engrossing that you don't think about time, or eating, or sleeping? Do you have these experiences at work? Do your hobbies and leisure activities fall into this category? Moments of lost time point towards areas of strong interest and deep passions, another key stepping-stone on the path towards your unique gift.
3. Ask Others
Friends, family, associates, or trusted advisors get to observe you in ways that you cannot observe yourself. Their insights can be valuable, revealing, endorsing, and reinforcing. Many times, their observations have greater clarity than self-analysis that is surrounded by a fog of self-talk. Query some close observers about your strengths, skills, and unique talents. "What makes me unique? What do you think I do particularly well? What is my strongest skill or characteristic?" They may not nail your unique gift, but they will offer clues.
4. Learn From Assessments
There are numerous, scientifically validated assessment tools that can help individuals determine key personality traits, interests, skills, and areas of expertise. Myers-Briggs, DISC, and CDR are but a few. As with asking others, these tools will provide valuable clues. You must be willing to answer the questions as honestly as you can. If you've done these, try the Strengths Finder. I have found it to be very accurate and helpful.
5. Create Space
When you climb to the top of a tree, you see the forest, at the bottom you only see a few trees. Create some space in your life so that you have the opportunity gain perspective. This will help you determine the general direction you should be moving in, which will then lead to a more defined path, and eventually your own personal trail blazed with your unique gift. Unclutter your life from activities, people and things that keep you from having space.
6. Go Solo
This is the extreme of creating space. If you find creating space in your daily life difficult, or if you have created space and are ready to go to the next level, go solo for a week. Go camping, find a cabin, a deserted island, go sailing -- be alone for a week. No distractions. Start listening. After you overcome the fear of being alone with yourself, you will start to hear.
7. Journal
Write down your thoughts every day. Record observations, intuitions, feelings, revelations, and shifts in perspective. Your journal will begin to reveal patterns -- those created by common threads that represent areas of strong interest, honesty regarding feelings, awareness of special skills, and a natural draw toward certain people, places, and purposes.
8. Release The Genie
Imagine that you brush up against a magic lamp, and out pops a genie. The genie says, "I am here to grant you 20 experiences, of your choosing, to be enjoyed sometime in your lifetime." What would your list look like? This list represents more clues. These experiences represent your true values, your interests, and your passions. Then give yourself at least one of these experiences soon.
9. Re-Engineer Your Job
You don't have to switch jobs or your profession to find (or honor) your unique gift, though those are possibilities. Start by pulling out your current job description. Identify everything you really enjoy doing, and everything that you have to do but would prefer not to do. Next, identify items that are not part of your job description that you would like to do. Now that you've distinguished the wants from the shoulds, start to rebuild your job into the "perfect" job. Renegotiate what you can!
10. Butterfly Projects
You know the feeling of joyful anticipation as you look forward to a special event or day? Like Christmas morning, or your birthday as a child, or getting ready for vacation, or daydreaming in school on the first warm day of spring. These are positive butterflies, in contrast to those we get from nervous anticipation. Have you ever had positive butterflies while thinking about a project? Perhaps it's a special project at work, or coaching a soccer team, or fixing up the yard, volunteering at church, organizing a golf outing, or looking forward to a quiet day with a book, or preparing for a marathon. Which butterflies might represent your gift?
11. Just Do It
Everyone has something unique to offer. Give yourself the opportunity to find it. A fulfilling life will emerge from a conscientious approach to living and sharing what is in your talent DNA. If you find yourself stuck trying to name it, get a coach or find some like-minded folks and get unstuck. You need not deny yourself the joy of following a fulfilling path, and discovering your unique gift.
By the way, you have probably noticed that this top 10 list has 11 items. Isn't that unique?!
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I like to believe that our purpose here is to love and to accept love, whether it be expressed through art, writing, dance, a kind smile, a small deed, a well cooked meal, sports, etc. The so-called " dumb" people, that some posters have mentioned here, teach just as much as the so-called brilliant people. I think we are all here to learn and to teach each other..... just saying.
Thanks for sharing your knowledge and talent.
So nice to 'see' you. :)
For as far as I can remember I have always loved languages. When I was little I remember listening to songs in French, Italian, Portuguese, English and French and visualizing myself in those countries. I was always dreaming of wild adventures and in all of them I spoke the language of the natives.
Today, I have reconnected with that love. I am at present learning Hindi. I spend my time watching Bollywood movies, listening to songs on YouTube and practicing the language as much as I can. My dream now is to go visit India. I already fell in love with the Northwest part of India. I am super excited about the whole thing. Whether it happens or not, I am living the dream in my mind. Happiness I find is personal and relative.
This article is very apropos.
Since I was very little I have been fascinated with people. I try to draw people out, to get them to tell me about some of the remarkable things about their lives. Rich or poor, male or female, every person has stories to tell that are amazing to contemplate.
Sometimes we have the luxury to search for what the world has to offer, but often times reality grabs us roughly by the collar and tosses, turns and twists us, until, if we are very lucky, it let's us go to live a life of relative normalcy. Among the older generation, many people lived through the maelstrom of a war and broken families, and considered themselves gifted if they survived to seek a means to support themselves.
Life is a precious gift; live it.
Mind you, it could have been a gift bamboo flute. . . or a harp.