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De-mystifying the Guru: The Case of John Friend and Anusara Yoga

Posted: 02/23/2012 10:33 am

How many times have we heard the story of the religious or socio-political guru outed for his failings involving sex, money and corruption? The community is shocked. The higher-ups resign. The rest of the members aren't sure what to do: they either overturn the guru, instituting a democratic decision-making process, or they go down with him. In the case of Anusara Yoga founder John Friend, the jury's out.

I'm sure the feeling was similar at Kripalu in 1994 when the yoga and wellness center's guru-teacher-leader, Amrit Desai, was found to be having a number of extra-marital affairs:

Over the course of the next years, the community would go through a complete death and rebirth. Many of the senior members would leave ... The entire organization was restructured... But... the guru had to leave, and the idealization had to be irreparably broken.
I am glad for their sake that their community sorted through the issue and came out whole on the other side.

As for John Friend, I've read the accusations and it certainly seems that he is a fallible man, and that his situation is very much like that of Desai: he is a man who was supposed to behave with great purity of intention, and did not. The Anusara community is certainly extremely disappointed in and angry with their leader, for good reason.

Alleged special (supposedly 'Wiccan') sexual circles with teachers and students, including married individuals whose partners were not aware or had not approved? Frozen pensions with no notice and backdated paperwork to cover it up? Allegations of personal marijuana deliveries received by his assistants all over town? What was he thinking? (As to his response that the freezing of pensions was just a mistake, Friend worked as a financial analyst until he began to teach yoga full time in 1986, so that excuse will not hold.)

Fortunately, the studio where I practice yoga was founded over 40 years ago, before Friend's method was a twinkle in his own eye. So while it espouses the alignment principals of Anusara yoga, its spiritual practices go far deeper into the lineage of Muktananda and the gurus of India.

Now, who they were sleeping with, I don't know!

Oh, wait. There it is:

In 1983 William Rodarmor wrote an article... charging that Muktananda had engaged in behavior at odds with his own teachings and with wider societal norms. In 1985, [his disciple] Nityananda stepped down... and started his own organization."

Unfortunately it seems the 'guru complex' is indeed widespread.

It causes one to wonder: Do these leaders misuse their power because they have risen to such great heights that they have lost touch with reality, or have they risen to power because their egos knew no bounds in the first place?

Certainly, one factor in the 'guru-ization' of religious leaders, spiritual teachers, politicians, and even therapists who seem to be permitted to act above the rules that govern the rest of us, is that people are so beholden to them than no one will speak out against them. Another factor is that human beings are unfortunately often all too happy to be led into wherever they think they will be safe, loved, and taken care of.

We must be more discerning: It is always important to put our religious and spiritual leaders' advice and behavior in perspective rather than losing ourselves within it... and to not be surprised when religious leaders are flawed and spiritual teachers are human.

Ideally, those leaders would also take greater responsibility for their behavior and their attitude toward their position of power, becoming more responsible and ethical within it.

I am curious to see what Vira Yoga and other Anusara-affiliated yoga centers will do with this information and its fallout. I suppose that if the teachings can be separated from the man as some have suggested, then the principles of Anusara yoga can still stand even as their articulator steps down (or at least moves slightly out of the picture).

I do have to wonder if most of the high-ranking and very involved teachers didn't know what was going on, and if they resigned amidst the scandal because they were first learning of Friend's alleged actions, or because it had suddenly became public knowledge. I suppose I can understand that under certain types of peer pressure, public outcry provides the reason for the exit that has not yet otherwise been made:

"It was my social life, my professional life and my practice life. Resigning felt like I was ripping apart the seams of my identity and yet I didn't feel like I could...continue to work for change from within [the organization]." - From Christina Sell's letter to her students as she left Anusara, parting ways with Friend

Most disturbing has been my discovery that there are "high-ranking yoga teachers'" at all! And that Anusara is not only a method for achieving physical alignment or spiritual peace but is actually a company and a brand with by-laws! I would never have thought of it that way, and hearing it described as such was a remedy for my naiveté.

Still, if I understand it correctly, yoga should not be something you 'join' or 'leave.' It should not be an organization or a company. It should be a seeking of insight, tranquility and inner contentment. So if this whole issue provides any silver lining, perhaps it is simply to remember that.

CORRECTION: An earlier version of this post stated that Amrit Desai resigned in 1999. He resigned in 1994.

 
How many times have we heard the story of the religious or socio-political guru outed for his failings involving sex, money and corruption? The community is shocked. The higher-ups resign. The rest of...
How many times have we heard the story of the religious or socio-political guru outed for his failings involving sex, money and corruption? The community is shocked. The higher-ups resign. The rest of...
 
 
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07:22 PM on 03/05/2012
Most of the criticism of John Friend and Anusorry Yoga is way over the top. A yogi adept through the mystical process of Tantra is able to spiritually elevate an individual through coitus and this is probably what John Friend was doing out of compassion. Who knows, maybe many of them would have taken birth as hogs or dogs without John's love but now have been elevated.
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05:10 PM on 02/29/2012
This just hit the radar of the Pagan community, about the claims about 'Wiccan' practices, Kind of a familiar drill in the Pagan community: was there anything actually Wiccan about this, or was the media being ignorant, was the guy actually appropriating stuff for such own purposes, was he actually involved somehow and the media leapt to assume 'sex circles' or other sensationalisms, is he sincere, etc, etc. Still kind of at the 'Anyone even *know* this guy?' phase on our end. :)

Wicca or things the media calls Wicca often do get kind of sensationalized (Yes, Wiccans are sex-positive and often use that energy in practices, ...the idea it's some constant orgy (or that orgies are even common, ) is kind of more the imaginations of people who'd rather be scandalized at the idea. We do take the notion of anyone using it to exploit people very seriously, in general, of course.

I might take that bit with a grain of salt: a lot of people call a lot of things 'Wicca.'
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11:51 AM on 02/28/2012
Theres really alot of misinformation here. No where does it mention that John Friend made up his own hokey pokey style of yoga and called it 'Anusara', the poses being wierd alternates of Iyanger, with alot of the foundation yoga completely left out. No real yogi I knew took it serious (infact we made fun of it behind their backs). Though the co founder of Anusara, Desiree Rumbaugh is an excellent teacher and women. The American style of yoga in general would be the lowest style in India (what they would teach to hyper active kids). Futhermore the meditation aspect is almost completely ignored and is in Anusara. Meditation should be atleast be 50% of the practice. Also traditionally it was taught with gender seperation. Too many people in the west take yoga as a way to get a 'yoga butt', really it became the aerobics of the new century. Try finding a aerobic class in a gym.. now look for a yoga class) The NYT is claiming that Yoga origins are from tantric sex cults. Yoga took many different branches early on, but it's true origin is 'Shiva'.... Joking though I dont believe NYT for a sec.
06:33 PM on 02/27/2012
For you folks who believe standing on your head and other gymnastics will bring you closer to God, just be thankful this guy wasn't doing sweat lodges. Anyways, I never thought of yoga as spiritual as folks seem to do it to be sexy and yoga classes are just a healthy alternative to the bar scene. Everyone involved was over 18, right?
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01:19 PM on 02/28/2012
Standing on your head alone wont, but quieting your mind can 'bring you closer to God'. You are right about one thing though, Yoga in America took off where aerobics left off. It became about getting the 'Yoga butt' and not much spiritual anything (though it was a side effect for some). That is the fault of the shallowness of America not yoga IMO.
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04:02 AM on 02/27/2012
Too much history of abuse of power in American yoga scene. Too many people calling taking "teacher training" and getting "certified" as yoga instructors who advise people, for instance, on headstand in their first class... too many injuries b/c of lack of knowledge of teachers, besides the scary idea that so many teachers do not even understand the effect of asana on energy body (and no nothing about ayurveda).... yes governing bodies, some kind of organization -- like in education or medicine to prevent harm = a good thing, imho.
04:21 AM on 02/26/2012
From time immemorial people have consumed psychoactive plants, made love and explored spirituality in creative and diverse ways, and made human triumphs and mistakes through it all. Also from time immemorial others have gotten malicious pissed off about other people's adventures, especially when their own were lacking in substance. This whole even has far more to do with our culture's issues around sexuality, self medication and religion, than they do about anything related to ethics. Discussing yoga business ethics is very important. I'm glad it's happening. But our culture does't give two craps about business ethics. If it did we would elect more ethical people and make more ethical choices ourselves as neighbors and as consumers. But we do not. We are hypocritical to point accusatory fingers here. Ask critical questions? Yes. But business ethics has nothing to do with this scandal. Our culture loves scandal and controversy. That is the source of this situation. John Friend puts out a product. And either we find value in it and consume it or we don't. Clearly he has created a lot of value in his teachings and helped a great deal of people. For that to be forgotten in the name of our religio/medico/sexual/scandal hang-ups is for ourselves to betray the higher objectives of yoga, to which we all aspire, including John Friend.
04:34 PM on 02/25/2012
John Friend is Not a guru-please be clear with these terms. Unlike Amrit Desai he is not anywhere close to being or ever made claims that he is a realized master. He Is a devotee of GuruMai the sister of Nityanda who you mention. My understanding is Muktanda anointed them both as his successors and she pushed him out-there was no defection on his part.

So John Friend engaged in alternative lifestyle choices. That some of his partners were not apparently in open or polyamerous relationships is not his fault; they may have been less then honest as well. As well, many yoga practitioners -and this is a dirty little secret-smoke marijuana-it is considered the sacrament of Siva. frankly the worst allegations are around the mishandling of pension funds, which poor judgement in financial straits may have contributed to. Judy (Jothyi Jai) Jackson Jayanda Forensic yoga
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03:53 AM on 02/27/2012
This is much more than alternative lifestyle choices. Sleeping with students is and will always be an abuse of power, and there is no inherent consent... I would like to see the Yoga community have governing boards, or whatever you may call them, like in teaching and medicine that make behaviour like that sanctionable or worse.
10:45 AM on 02/27/2012
There have been many instances of teacher-student relationships blossoming in academia that ended in marriage. It is one thing when a professor coerces by intimidation or offers of advancement and honors, but, there are instances when two responsible mature adults, one of whom just happens to be older fall in Love! In this current climate many now wait until post graduation to actually pursue for fear of reprisal. As a society we have gone too far in stipulating that All such encounters imply abuse.There is an ethical code in Yoga that strongly discourages sleeping with students, and discriminating discernment around sexuality in general is emphasized. That said, however, this is not akin to a Dr. or therapist abusing patients. These are adults who may be attracted to a person of power and dazzled by fame but, they do have a choice. Yoga emphasizes ethical behavior in all settings so to me the deception around lifestyle choices is more egregious then his having been self-indulgent.
03:57 PM on 02/24/2012
Thank you, snowboarder4249, for your insight. You are right that the melding of yoga and business is a tricky path to walk, but also that it can be done and in fact needs to be done in order for yoga practitioners to make a living!
I was simply voicing a realization that I was having about yoga as a business because I never think of it that way (even as I pay for yoga class!) and it was a good learning for me to realize that it does function as such.
I guess I am being idealistic by wanting yoga to be 'purer' than a business - I suppose pure and non-commercial is just how I want it to FEEL, even if it IS a business.

ALSO: Apologies for the mistake in the date re: the Kripalu incident that I spoke of in order to frame the issue. Desai's resignation did indeed take place in 1994. Thank you for the correction.

Namaste,
Lauren
10:49 PM on 02/23/2012
Good heart felt article. It was actually 1994, the Desai story at Kripalu. I was there in his last graduating class two months before the sad news broke and broke the community. And they survived for the better. All part of the yoga play, the evolution, God's lila. Best!
10:30 PM on 02/23/2012
Hi,

Thanks for writing this article and bringing light to a serious and all too common issue in the yoga world and beyond. I have to disagree that yoga should not be an organization or company. The melding of yoga and business is a tricky, sticky path to walk down, but it can be done. Not only are they sharing their love for yoga with the community, but they are also making a living and I see nothing wrong with that. Yes, there is the possibility that egos can steer people down the wrong fork in the road, but I wouldn't generalize that all yoga "businesses" or "companies" are bad. Without these companies, yoga would still be practiced behind closed doors or in wildflower fields while people avert their eyes and look the other way. It wouldn't be widely accepted as it is today (and claiming that it is widely accepted is even a stretch). No need to stay attached to an ideal of the past. Yoga has changed. And change isn't always a bad thing.
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03:58 AM on 02/27/2012
Good comment. And as I stated above, there are benefits to organizations, yes. For instance, I would like to see the Yoga community have governing boards, or whatever you may call them, like in teaching and medicine that make behaviour like abusing power for sex (sleeping with students/patients/etc) sanctionable or worse. Many drawn to Yoga are drawn to self-growth and therefore are not always evolved (and yes it is a process) so to rely on self-ethics... not such a great idea. Plus there are far too many people calling themselves Yoga instructors that lack true knowledge of Yoga, not to mention the injuries their students have due to the fact they really are not educated properly. These are only abbreviated comments, much more to be said on both sides. Namaste.
08:04 PM on 02/23/2012
Thanks for linking to Carol Horton's blog post which quotes Stephen Cope's analysis of the Kripalu situation. It would have been nice to acknowledge them by name since you trust them completely as sources of information. Oh--except that Carol says the scandal became public six years earlier than you do, in 1994, which fits with my firsthand recollection. Maybe you got 1999 from the top of her blog post where she gives it as the date of SC's book?
08:04 PM on 02/23/2012
Namaskar,

Thanks for your thoughts and insights. Personally I feel that the Guru-disciple relation is alive and well if one is a true guru - above all selfishness and doing to serve the Supreme. Those gurus certainly exist but they do not pose as "leaders" the way JF did, i.e. infatuated with himself rather than dedicated to an ideal.

Here are further thoughts on this...

http://www.renyoga.com/blog/issues-of-yoga-movement/the-john-friend-scandal-the-great-benefit/

Definitely appreciate the thought and care you put into your article.

Satyam
05:01 PM on 02/25/2012
I must point out again-if my post is printed- may be redundant, But John Friend is NOT a Guru and never called himself one-others put that status on him perhaps.As you say though The REAL relationship is alive and well for sure. This is not my practice and know little of the organization or him personally so perhaps his behavior WAS selfish and against the principles of the Yamas and Niyamas we live by, but how do any of us know he was infatuated with himself perhaps just a man with ample opportunity to exchange sexual energy who indulged his senses too much?
05:56 PM on 02/23/2012
Lauren, don't you agree that there are many ethical businesses, including yoga businesses(maybe your local studio?) trying to balance survival and growth with ethical, ecological and community responsibility? It sounds like you think yoga teachers should earn a subsistence elsewhere, providing for their children/elderly parents/own current and future health & shelter needs and donating their yoga teachings. Maybe yoga certification and/or apprenticeships should not be advertised either? Not even most non-profit job would meet your criteria of purity--no branding no business--tho and of course any org with a mission & principles beyond survival/growth will find its owner, board, employees, consumers differing about how to apply the mission/ethics.
You say"yoga should not be an organization or a company." Of course you are correct, in the sense that music or dance or physical assistance for the handicapped or invention or childcare, like yoga, are all occupations/endeavors that have human joy, love, history, creativity, meaning and interpretations and have been and will be practiced in many forms and settings. Lauren, organization and business are also human occupations/endeavors that can tap into and disseminate human creativity. ingenuity, brilliance, and meaning. I hope you can think of arts organizations and businesses that have spread joy and allowed more folks to participate in life! Why can't yoga be shared and evolved using some of the techniques and forms we use to share music, science and arts, like modern media & ethical business?