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Children and Prayer

Posted: 01/27/11 01:17 PM ET

Since children today, more than ever before, need comfort and security in their lives, nothing -- no thing -- is more important than to have girls and boys engage in prayer.

All children, even the youngest child, can learn God is always there for them -- at anytime -- from the moment they wake up in the morning, throughout the day as they engage in play outside and inside the home, as they share mealtimes, right up until they are tucked in bed to fall asleep at night, and even after that -- through dream.

Children must know they can pray about whatever is on their minds. Whether they are happy, sad, angry, frightened or deeply concerned over something, they can quickly learn to turn to prayer.

Youth today grow up in an oft-time tough world. They are confronted with a great deal of negative news via our media -- from radio and television to a variety of technological devices. Prayer can become a comforting time when all of the world problems can be turned off, when children can feel calm and at peace.

We can teach children that prayer is a way of saying 'thank you' for the multitude of everyday things they experience in life -- for friends, for the beauty of nature, for siblings, parents, grandparents, for the food we eat.

They can also learn that prayers need not be long. A simple 4-6-8-10- line verse can say a great deal which is why so many prayers for the young are in poetic format.

Hear My Prayer, is a book for today's youth. It contains simple, easy-to-read, easy-to-remember selections to involve boys and girls in everyday activities. In collecting the verse I wanted to emphasize the innocence of childhood. Spending time with very young children certainly brings out pure and simple thoughts such as:

BUSY

Dear God:
You now how busy
I must be today,
If I forget you,
Please
Do not forget me.

Sorting through hundreds of prayers, I couldn't find one connecting children with grandparents, people who are of utmost importance in children's lives. My own sister, grandmother to six, reminded me of this omission while I was compiling Hear My Prayer. I could not resist writing:

YOUR TOUCH

Dear Lord,
You touch us all--
Doctors, nurses,
Firefighters,
Teachers, crossing guards,
Window washers, writers.

Yet always remember
To give your touch
To Grandma and Grandpa
Who I love so much.

A favorite verse of mine, as well as a beloved one for many, written eons ago by an anonymous writer, says so much about linking children and prayer together:

ALL THOSE I LOVE

God bless all those that I love.
God bless all those that love me.

God bless all those
That love those I love.

And all those that love those
That love me.

Prayer is the mighty voice of children. Let them be heard.
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Since children today, more than ever before, need comfort and security in their lives, nothing -- no thing -- is more important than to have girls and boys engage in prayer. All children, even the yo...
Since children today, more than ever before, need comfort and security in their lives, nothing -- no thing -- is more important than to have girls and boys engage in prayer. All children, even the yo...
 
 
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Herkv
Caught in a loop . . .
12:56 PM on 01/30/2011
I'd be interested in knowing just why children need prayer at all, let alone need it more than ever before. Teaching children to put their trust into an imaginary friend is not better than teaching them how to cope - really cope - with problems and traumas. Indoctrinating them in belief at a young age is a disservice and an impediment to their future ability to learn and comprehend reality. It's just another opportunity for the religious to indoctrinate the helpless.
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HeevenSteven
20 Minutes into the future.
10:51 AM on 01/30/2011
"All children, even the youngest child, can learn God is always there for them "

Because our increasingly plutocratic society won't be. The surplus population needs to be kept docile; so let 'em eat prayers...
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DevonTexas
Eternal Optimism
01:13 PM on 01/29/2011
my son is the one who broke me of my "god habit". At age 11 he came to the conclusion that there was no god and that he had to stand up for himself as no one else was going to. There was no great, all-powerful being watching over him.

At first I tried to convince him otherwise. He had attended Cathoilic schools for most of his life and we attended mass together consistently. His mother was a strong Catholic who adorned the house with many icons and also regularly attended mass. So, there was no reason for him to dispute that there was a god; only his own reasoning.

His strength of resolve in this matter finally convinced me. I'm all the better for it.

Lesson learned: Sometimes chldren are better at discerning a scam than adults and rather than trying to train them in our myths and superstitions, we should learn from them.
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merrymay
02:39 PM on 01/29/2011
Having been involved with Catholic schools for years, I'm surprised your son lasted till 11. I'm Catholic and mad as he**. The Church needs a huge overhaul...total makeover of soul and body. Tell your son a devout Catholic thinks he is right to think for himself...but not to become a cynic about life. God has no grandchildren.
07:37 PM on 01/28/2011
As an atheist, I think praying is a waste of time. An omniscient supernatural being can't change what it knows is going to happen. Other than that, if anyone gains anything from talking to an imaginary being, does it need to be a make-believe god?
01:04 PM on 01/28/2011
Belief in a god, or any religion, comes to children as "truth" because they believe what their parents say--because for children, parents are the source of truth. But a child is not born a christian, or muslim, or anything...a child is born, then taught to believe...and they grow up in that belief because it becomes synonymous with their culture and identity. Disentangling religion\belief from culture is VERY difficult and for most, even if they may grow to doubt their belief, they may practice religion because of its cultural connections. It is wrong to tell a child there is only one way to spiritual or religious truth--it is like purposefully denying them access to knowledge. Why teach them to pray if truth and comfort might just as easily be found in yoga or tai chi? Why not let them find their own way to their faith and understanding of themselves in the universe...they may find their way back to their cultural faith, or they might find themselves somewhere just as fulfilling. Telling a child how to pray is like crippling them...instead, teach them by example and experience. Show them the beautiful variety the world offers, then let them surprise you with their questions! You may end up learning something from their open minded approach to the world and its mysteries...which may have nothing to do with "god" and everything to do with truth.
11:59 AM on 01/28/2011
If one's deity is all knowing and all powerful, then why does it need to be bothered and begged? Why does you deity not just give you what you want without being begged?
03:00 PM on 01/28/2011
Good point WBP. This is an article typical of someone who condones the brainwashing of children from an early age. It has never crossed his mind that if God is omniscient, he knows when you are going to pray and what for. So what would be the point, unless, as you suggest, God loves to hear begging.

"All children, even the youngest child, can learn God is always there for them -- at anytime -- from the moment they wake up in the morning, throughout the day as they engage in play outside and inside the home, as they share mealtimes, right up until they are tucked in bed to fall asleep at night, and even after that -- through dream."

Telling children this is deceitful, especially as they are unlikely to reason or rationalize why it is that their friend died of leukemia or an accident, when God is meant to be "there for them." Perhaps when they get older and they hear on the news that 27 million children die on the planet every year, they might ask the question - but are likely to be fed pathetic platitudes by their parents, pastors or teachers about how "God wanted them to be with him," (Suffer little children to come unto me) or some such nonsense.

As Delilah above says, you could end up crippling them. Conditioning children into believing myths about something for which there is not a shred of evidence, is the same as brainwashing.
11:09 PM on 01/27/2011
A more accurate introduction: Since children today, more than ever before, will have access to critical thought and scientific discovery, nothing - no thing - is more important than establishing blind faith and fear and distrust of reality.
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syntax facit saltum
We do not live in a 2 story universe
12:50 AM on 01/28/2011
That is so exactly what it means to love God.
03:12 PM on 01/28/2011
Worried neighbour said: ".........establishi­ng blind faith and fear and distrust of reality."

Syntax said: "That is so exactly what it means to love God."

Hardly a Damascene moment for me there.

Syntax, a day or so ago you suggested I should try harder to join the intellectuals amongst us. I fear you must try harder yourself.

This is hardly an intellectual assertion. Establishi­ng blind faith and fear and distrust of reality is not good advice. Some reality should be feared and distrusted, but much can be rejoiced in, and looked forward to. It's real and tangible as opposed to loving a sky fairy who only exists in a flawed book and inside your head.
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Blair C Johnson
This 2 politicalparty game of tag needs to end!
08:57 PM on 01/27/2011
Dear Lee Bennett Hopkins,
I have to disagree with you, on pretty much every point you are attempting to make. In most part because that is something a child is taught. Yes you can claim that
"All children, even the youngest child, can learn God is always there for them -- at anytime -- from the moment they wake up in the morning, throughout the day as they engage in play outside and inside the home, as they share mealtimes, right up until they are tucked in bed to fall asleep at night, and even after that -- through dream."
Yet who is responsible for teaching them this? Someone who was taught that exact same thing as a child, who learned it from their parents who were possibly forced to learn it out of life or death, who had been chosen to go and teach it by a King, who learned it from a Book, that was written by a somebody, who learned it from an angel, or a bush or a star, and thus continuing on until the someone teaches them about individuality and free will.
Free Will, Love,& Reason should be taught long before personal "beliefs" should be given to an innocent minded child.
Therefore laying the foundation from which a child has the inalienable right to choose, for themselves. Then so be it if they choose to pray, to a God/ Goddess, Luck, Murphy, Karma, Science, etc.
Free Will and Choice.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
08:20 PM on 01/27/2011
I agree communing with GOD is important. It is these time that the "Be in the world, But not of the World" is easier to see. Just not any more important.

"establishing justice" of the constitution is the right action and righteousness Christ, Buddha, Krishna taught us all. It cannot be eaten, but it is the bread we must live on.
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phnxrth
06:38 PM on 01/27/2011
I think about the barrage of unpleasant messages kids get now. Prayer is something of their own if they so choose, just for them. No one else has to know.Children have an easy relationship with truth, which prayer helps protect.

Frankly, I believe God answered many of my childhood prayers. I think a prayer can be something as simple as, God, please help me or please be my friend.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
08:27 PM on 01/27/2011
Working and Achieving material thins will not add one cupid onto the Lord.

But it will confuse, frustrate and make hard a life of simply Being which is far more important than the Rich trickling down crumbs to the worker. Leaving him all the debt, low wages and lack of work for all the sweat and genius he provides to industry to feed his family and shelter them.

But the children are the future and I pray for a happy, healthy, friendly and spiritual life for them. No one of academic, work or entrepreneurial achievement without reward for their effort.
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merrymay
02:44 PM on 01/29/2011
I always loved praying and going to Church because no grown up owns God. Children love God because God's bigger than people and all our screw ups. Imagine a universe where big adults need fear or respect nothing above themselves!! No thanks!
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phnxrth
04:51 PM on 01/29/2011
fanned & faved.
Today my prayers go out for those in Cairo who want decent lives.
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JohnFromCensornati
The End is near
04:32 PM on 01/27/2011
"All children, even the youngest child, can learn God is always there for them"

This should not be referred to as learning.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
08:32 PM on 01/27/2011
Yes, but learning Christ taught DEED and GRACE and they are the Son of GOD by reading "red letters" or Romans. Is not bad when they are young and old. Better than Sunday School Programs preaching the Old Testament and starting and stopping with GOD the father, son and holy ghost.

This is the WORD and should be taught, but nicely and warmly is fine, but picking up the Cross for righteousness is the DEED of right action is like "establishing justice" of the Constitution itself.

Many are told and even read over what that means. Then twist the words for CASH and Profit creating misery and unhappiness of injustice and non-righteousness
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JohnFromCensornati
The End is near
10:41 PM on 01/27/2011
This should not be referred to as learning.
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phnxrth
04:52 PM on 01/29/2011
John, your comment is actually disruptive, which is right on the line of abusive.
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JohnFromCensornati
The End is near
06:44 PM on 01/29/2011
Nuh uh.
This user has chosen to opt out of the Badges program
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06:48 PM on 01/29/2011
Oh please. Grow up.
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John Shuck
They are lying to you about who wrote Shakespeare.
04:17 PM on 01/27/2011
Nothing is more important than prayer? How about family? How about education? How about a functioning government? How about food? I could go on, but I think you get my point. Also, at what age do you propose we start this prayer? Most young children wouldn't have any idea what they were saying. This blog sounds more like a book review.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
08:35 PM on 01/27/2011
Breathing exercises, energizing exercises, concentration, meditation the practice of prayer is for every AGE, young and old
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Herkv
Caught in a loop . . .
01:19 PM on 01/30/2011
Cayuse: //Breathing exercises, energizing exercises, concentrat­ion, meditation the practice of prayer// Which of these things is not like the other?

But prayer works! I know. I pray to a bag of flour. I kneel before my cupboard and ask it for help. I don't worship it, of course, that would be silly. It's just a bag of flour.

But it answers my prayers. If I ask for money to help pay the bills I will get an answer. If the answer is yes, I get money from somewhere - a customer pays me or I get more work. If the answer is maybe or wait it may take a while, but I get the money. If the answer is no, then I get nothing. Isn't that how it works for you?

For every old grandma in an intensive care ward who recovers when prayed for, there are a hundred who just die no matter how much you pray. Every airline passenger on 9/11 was praying - but it didn't do them much good, did it? The "other" prayers for destruction won the day.

When you're feeling completely helpless in the face of adversity, and there seems to be not one thing that you can do to ameliorate the situation, prayer can make you feel as if you're actually doing something constructive. But the rate of success isn't very good.

Isn't that how it works for you?
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ninetailedfox
banning people.....so childish
03:00 PM on 01/27/2011
Someone made a good point to me once. Becky Fischer, the televangelist for kids, acts like she doesnt have any of her own. Now you can just imagine what is going through my mind when i realize most fundamentalists have a do as I say not as I do attitude towards children.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
08:38 PM on 01/27/2011
The great teachers taught each man, women and child to know themselves and the Spirit of GOD within. Much can be learned in their classical words as the new teachings of helping others to find their own way.

But one must judge the tree by the fruit it bares. Not intellectual discussions, but practice of Prayer and spiritual practices
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ninetailedfox
banning people.....so childish
02:58 PM on 01/27/2011
After all the child abuse cases from misguided christian parents, somehow, this article is anything but comforting. I remember a child coming into my workplace and being forced to recite the bible. I quit my job after five years because I had enough of the hypocracy.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
08:41 PM on 01/27/2011
I am being force to say the Pledge Allegiance at work. Having trouble with the same hypocracy. With 2 unprovoked wars, occupation, drones, torture. What is that teaching our children. Forget not that many children are trying to serve their country for all of the wrong behavior, injustice and non-righteousness
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ninetailedfox
banning people.....so childish
02:54 PM on 01/27/2011
This brings back bad memories. My honest opinion is religion and spirituality is something for adults, not children. Also, because of my experiences, I told my son many things about christianity, that I hope he never goes through.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
08:46 PM on 01/27/2011
You make me LOL :), not for what you said, but it reminds me of TV Sunday School Teaching what they taught me as a child.

Yet, they do not teach DEED and GRACE which is what all should know. Not saying GOD the father, son and holy ghost and preaching and eye for an eye of the Old Testament instead of the WORD of GOD as taught by Christ in the "red letters" and Romans of the New Testament.