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Leslie Grossman

Leslie Grossman

Posted: August 16, 2010 12:16 PM

It's a little embarrassing to share my addiction to Big Brother -- the summer reality show on CBS that drops 14 strangers or houseguests into a fake house on a TV set for three months to compete for a $500,000 prize. I could blame my addiction on my husband, but I have to admit I'm hooked. It can be considered mindless entertainment, but believe it or not, Big Brother is loaded with what 'to do' and what 'not to do,' if you want to be a successful leader and win!

I especially love last week's dramatic episode where Rachel, the brilliant chemist from Las Vegas, who looks like an over-cosmetized "girl with big boobs" by her own description, gets evicted. She is a terrific competitor, has won several HOH competitions and is in a showmance with Brendon, who has a PhD in Physics, but who is a high school swim coach (try to figure that one out). Their strategy to win was more like "you and me against the world" and it certainly didn't work.

But I want to focus on Rachel, who I believe had the smarts and drive to win, but her leadership style caused her to be a loser. In my opinion, three of most important characteristics of successful leaders -- and winners -- are communication, collaboration and courage. Rachel failed at all but courage. Her communication style was aggressive and dishonest and she never truly listened to what one person said to her. Her collaboration was limited to her showmance partner. In addition, she was a stereotype of the worst kind of woman leader in the workplace -- the female bully boss. Rachel was against all the women in the house -- pretty much assuming they were all weak players -- and undermining them at every opportunity. She cried when she didn't get her way, and demanded apologies from the women if they showed enthusiasm for their own victories over her (rare as they were).

Rachel pretty much displays all the characteristics of a bully boss -- verbally abusing her competitors, attempting to humiliate them in public, putting others down with snide remarks and harsh, repetitive, and unfair criticism. I'm sure it makes for good TV and higher ratings. However, if you've ever experienced a bully boss at work you know how excruciating it can be. I was actually contemplating giving up my secret summer pleasure to avoid the pain I was feeling, just by observing Rachel in action on TV.

Fortunately, the Big Brother houseguests gathered their courage and booted her off the show and good triumphed over evil. Pop culture can sometimes be a valuable teacher, especially in the summer, when it's too hot to go outside. Reality shows like Big Brother can offer a respite from the weather, but not necessarily from office politics and leadership snafus.

 

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07:16 AM on 08/21/2010
In reference to the comments that I didn't research properly by watching the Big Brother live feeds, I do apologize. After living my own life, sleep is a priority. I do believe in research, but not in reference to Big Brother. While some may disagree with how CBS edits the show, certain things remain the same. Bully bosses in the workplace or on Big Brother may act like winners, but they never win in the end! Stay tuned!
11:48 AM on 08/18/2010
Clearly you have not watched the live feeds or you would know that the biggesdt bullies in the hoouse are Ragan and Britany. So prehaps you should stop making judgements off of a highly edited CBS broadcast.
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07:53 PM on 08/18/2010
The problem with this comment, and Lola's and Vivcca's, is that most of us have lives, and thus no time to waste watching the live feeds. (Really, you could spend that time reading a good book.) I'm not arguing with your conclusions that Ragan and Britney are the real bullies in the house. I've been calling Britney "Bitchney" in my columns for a reason. Even on the edited show, she's a nasty, catty cobra. But watching only the broadcasts, all busy people have time - or the interest - to do, doesn't show Ragan as a bully. I'm not saying he isn't, just that CBS hasn't shown it. I certainly wish they'd included on the broadcasts Rachel's tale of waking up covered in puke with her hands stuffed full of cash. It says "Hooker" so clearly, and yet she told it herself. CBS viewers couldn't possibly regard her or Brendan the same after hearing that story. What does he see in her?

I am always grateful when my readers share stuff from the feeds, for a clearer picture of who these people are.

It is a shame that CBS doesn't edit the show more clearly.
06:58 PM on 08/17/2010
You lack credibility in that you'd make a judgment on a person from watching a very edited TV show. Watch the feeds, or read the feeds on JokersUpdates.com The Mean Girl bullies in the house are Ragan and Britney. Rachel is just over-emotional and not sneaky, she just let's it all out. (Which is actually refreshing considering what is really going on in that house.) Not only are Ragan and Britney manipulative bullies, but they are vile. There is little of what they say that can be aired on primetime TV, it's so vile. (Not something employers appreciate.) Next time, do your research.
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06:25 PM on 08/17/2010
Hey Leslie, did you actually watch the show or did you have a secret text from Britney who wrote your article? It would be nice if you actually watched not only the shows but the feeds as well - you just might change your mind or at the very least, broaden your views on the players.
05:21 PM on 08/17/2010
Let me preface this that I am no fan of Rachel, shes a bit brash for my tastes. Yes Rachel was voted out this past Thursday, but "Bully Boss"? Really? Have you watched any of the live feeds with the fake talk show Britney and Ragan started? Did you see how Britney voiced who she was voting out? Or Ragan for that matter? Britney and Ragan use the typical "Mean Girl" style of bullying. And it is constant and sickening. The show is edited before it airs, watching BBAD and the feeds really gives the the true nature of the house guests. There's not much to admire about about this years cast.
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06:26 PM on 08/17/2010
Agreed Missy...and fanned!!! (now fan #2) ;)
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07:56 PM on 08/18/2010
"A BIT trash"? What does it take to qualify as total trash? Because Rachel is total trash. I am NOT defending Britney nor Ragan. And yes, likable players this year are pretty much non-existent, as with last year, when Casey seemed like the only person you'd ever want to ever eat dinner with. (Which, after the show ended for the summer, I did.)
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09:54 PM on 08/16/2010
Where has there been a shred of evidence that Rachael is within a thousand miles of being 'brilliant'? And chemist? I'm really doubting that story. The woman is a narcissist, a loudmouth, and not very bright. She knows nothing of relating to a group, and she's showing us everyday who she is: a Vegas cocktail waitress/hostess, brash, loud, no class, style or substance. Comparing her to a boss in the workplace is a stretch.
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09:48 AM on 08/17/2010
I think the writer was being ironic when she referred to Rachel as a brilliant chemist.
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05:26 PM on 08/17/2010
Oh, I've had bosses that were as bad as Boobiac, and some who were worse.
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09:29 PM on 08/16/2010
Brendan does NOT have a PhD. He CLAIMS he is to start working on one, although he certainly seems too dim for this to be believable.

As for Rachel being a "brilliant chemist", well first off, she's not a "brilliant" anything. Secondly, she's a "VIP Cocktail Waitress". There's another name for her job: prostitute. Her self-told tale (not broadcast by CBS, but shown on the live feeds" about passing out from too much Tequila while"partying" with a "client" and waking up covered in vomit and with her fist stuffed full of $100 bills is not a tale many "chemists "tell, though it's a common tale for hookers with fake hair and boobs. Why Brendan would still be "in love" with her after hearing this disgusting story, WHICH SHE HERSELF TOLD, casts total doubt on his having any brain at all.

The only thing "brilliant" about Rachel is her day-glo fake hair.

But your points about her as the "bully boss" are well-taken. She is a paranoid narcissist: everything is ALWAYS all about her, and she's convinced that every woman, and some of the men, were after Brendan for themselves.

But then, I've written several columns on the dopey woman so far, and am sad to hear now I will have to write about her once more this week. Gack!
07:02 PM on 08/16/2010
Brendon does not have a PhD in Physics but he was offered a fellowship in his quest to obtain one, according to him. Rachel supposedly has a degree in Chemistry but also referred to a yarmulke as a "Yom Kippur". Enough said.
05:29 PM on 08/16/2010
I didn't know Rachel was coming back into the house. That is a horrible idea. And more importantly, truly unfair to the remaining houseguests. They worked to get her out, which was a smart move for everyone left, and she should not get the opportunity to come in for no other reason then to spread lies and stir up trouble.

Filmex, I completely agree with you about Britney, if she is booted because of Rachel's return, then she should feel cheated. I hate when they bring HG's back, not fair to the remaining. I also don't like the sabatour angle at all. Lame. It feels like they are just making up ridiculous twists because the original sabatour was the first one kicked out.

The houseguests are paranoid and nervous just by being in the BB house, they really don't need anyone coming in to 'mix it up'. That is what I liked about this show at the start, they had to deal with their own mind games without the outside world. That made it an entertaining show.
03:26 PM on 08/16/2010
Rachel is everything you say, and worse. She continually lied about what she had said in the past, and it was hard to tell if she was simply dishonest, merely had a terrible memory, or was actually delusional.

That she took great joy when Brendan attacked Ragan and Britney for "tag-teaming" her, when in reality regarding the discussion in question Britney had bent over backwards to refrain from entering the conversation, was astounding.

More incomprehensible was CBS' decision to bring Rachel back to the BB house this past weekend for 24 hours (while Brendan was removed from the house) to spread even more lies and deceit. It appears this arbitrary action by CBS has totally corrupted this season. By spreading lies and rumors, after having been removed from the house, it appeared as if it may very well cost Britney her spot in the game.

Enzo lied to Rachel about Britney, and Rachel in turn lied to Enzo about Britney, all of which was passed on to Brendan upon his return. Fair is fair, and for CBS to allow the detestable Rachel, of all people, to return after she had been eliminated, has spoiled the game.

Britney will probably be going home on Thursday, and once she has viewed the tapes, it's hard to believe she won't feel cheated, having wasted her summer in the Big Brother house.
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02:57 PM on 08/18/2010
I did not know that Rachel went back. I don't watch the live feeds. I can spend the $ on bird feed and not have to listen to the birds utter vulgar words to one another. :-)