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Without God, a Grade of Incomplete

Posted: 05/24/11 01:14 PM ET

This is the time of year when school is wrapping up, and some people are even preparing to graduate from one life stage to another. But first, they have to get all that work done and completed. Will it actually get done? The pressure is on.

Little children in school are taught the importance of completing their assignments. In college, if you don't write your final paper, you get a grade of "incomplete," which seems to imply that when you finally write that paper, you will be complete.

But then we become grown ups, and we discover that most of our important jobs are never complete. We may finish up one aspect of a project at work, but that leads to another one. A student may complete a homework assignment, but the teacher has a job that is never complete. Many of us have jobs that are never complete at the end of the day, or even the end of the year.

Take parenting, for example. Parents of small children will look at the parents of teenagers and say, "Tell me it gets easier!" But parents of teenagers will tell you that it just gets more complicated. Parents of adult children tell me that the job of parenting is really never done. Kids move out, and then in many cases, they move back in. But even if they live in their own place, it's not as if our children ever graduate from needing their parents.

You don't one day suddenly complete the job of parenting. It continues even after your children have children, and are doing that job themselves, with those same incomplete results.

In life, we don't get a gold star for getting the big jobs done. Rather, I think God gives us a gold star for hanging in there, still working, in the incompleteness of life.

For in the end, people are not complete, until God completes us. One day, we will meet the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end. We will see God face to face, and finally be complete.

But until then, there's nothing wrong with taking the occasional incomplete.

In the meantime, I pray that the God of all patience will stick close by me in the incompleteness of life's work, giving my efforts purpose and meaning, if not completion.

 
 
 

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04:56 PM on 05/26/2011
For me, I didn't feel complete until I understood that my consciousness will not survive the death of my brain, and all the superstitious religious nonsense I was taught growing up was not true. It is really sad that people have this warped bigoted outlook that other humans are not fully human if the don't accept spectacular claims about the supernatural that can't be backed up by evidence. How about accepting that even those who don't believe in a god are not lost, or sinners, or evil, incomplete, or less that fully human.
06:44 PM on 05/26/2011
Thank you. When I was able to let go the superstitions that had been pounded into me, I was finally able to become whole.
03:34 PM on 05/26/2011
This may not quite rise to the same level of offensiveness as Cardinal Cormac Murphy O`Connor's recent declaration that atheists are "less than fully human" but that headline comes across as a bit condescending, to say the least.
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bholly72
02:00 PM on 05/26/2011
"For in the end, people are not complete, until God completes us."
And what evidence is there that this is true? Or is this just a subjective feeling that has been translated into some sort of universal law?
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Dan Jighter
01:53 PM on 05/26/2011
"Rather, I think God gives us a gold star for hanging in there, still working, in the incompleteness of life.

For in the end, people are not complete, until God completes us. One day, we will meet the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end. We will see God face to face, and finally be complete."

And how do you know that God gives us this "gold star", completes us? How do you know we will meet "the alpha and the omega"? How do you know that God even exists in the first place?

I personally think that life is just incomplete and that is what it is. There just is never a gold star, so to speak. That sucks, but it is what it is.
01:41 PM on 05/26/2011
This is silly article, which in essence is just padding to make the main point. It is an outrageous assertion to say that one has to have God to be complete. If the author needs an invisible sky fairy to complete her life then something is sadly lacking.

"In the meantime, I pray that the God of all patience will stick close by me in the incomplete­ness of life's work, giving my efforts purpose and meaning, if not completion­."

Does God care about your works? Some interpreta­tions of scripture assert that works will not get you to heaven.
01:31 PM on 05/26/2011
I don't need to believe in some god to feel complete. In fact, I feel more complete now as an atheist than I ever did as a theist. Pastor Daniel, I am glad you feel good and complete with your beliefs, but you really shouldn't presume that everyone 'needs' a god to feel complete. To do so will only serve to earn you an 'incomplete' in basic humanity and tolerance for the irreligious.
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10:47 AM on 05/26/2011
It is high time that Homo sapiens grew up and started taking responsibility for "completing" itself and being responsible for its own actions. This will never happen if we have god or Jesus around to enable us in our immaturity.
06:18 AM on 05/26/2011
The day I held my first g-grandchild was the day I felt my life was completed. I need no other.
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DangerousTalk
National Atheist Examiner - http://exm.nr/j1EA0c
10:55 PM on 05/25/2011
You never got the Gold Star? As a parent of a toddler, I am pretty sure that at some point my job as a parent of that toddler will be complete. Then I will start my new job of being a parent to a kid. When that job is complete, the next job will begin. None of this however has anything to do with any deity.

Life is not about completing stuff, it is about the journey. I hate to be the one to tell you this Lillian, but there is no pot of gold at the end of that journey. There are no leprechauns and there are no deities. They are just imaginary. I don't really think you completed the whole imaginary friend stage in life. I think you get an incomplete there. No Gold Star for you. Sorry.
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busterggi
I'm a Sally Randian
04:51 PM on 05/25/2011
I don't care about meeting the alpha and omega, I'd rather meet pi - preferrably cherry.
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Red Leaves
Well, well, what matters it? Believe that too.
03:12 PM on 05/25/2011
If you need validation from an imaginary friend to feel that you have led a complete life, fine. But please, don't try to foist this dreck on the rest of us, darling.
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02:37 PM on 05/25/2011
Incomplete ? Hardly, more a work in progress, and when my 'work' is 'complete' I'll know that I contributed, in some way, something positive to humanity. That gives my life 'meaning and purpose'.
01:36 PM on 05/25/2011
Religion has a firm hold on its believers by continually playing on their fears. When someone begins to find the strength to stand on their own they are labeled as prideful, sinful, and incomplete without God. The age of superstition is hopefully closing soon Lillian. As science progresses and life expectancy increases exponentially the fear of death will begin to fade. People will demand evidence and intelligence, "faith" will begin to carry a negative reputation. The "sins" and repercussions of religion will be brought into light. The same old story that you have been told for 3000 years will lose its influence.

To anyone on the fence reading this article. You are complete. Life is a miracle in itself. Don't waste a single moment thinking that you exist to please a jealous and violent god who demands blood sacrifices. Ask for proof. Live every second of your existance with purpose, knowledge, and grounded in reality.
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way2sunny
09:16 PM on 05/25/2011
That comment was real and true, thank you for posting it :)
01:34 PM on 05/26/2011
Well said.
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Herkv
Caught in a loop . . .
01:32 PM on 05/25/2011
You give up the Easter Bunny. You give up the Tooth Fairy. You give up fairy tales and you give up your stuffed animals. It's all part of maturing and becoming an adult. But it isn't complete. You aren't an adult until you give up your mythological sky people.
12:25 PM on 05/25/2011
First, if you feel being a parent is a "job", your doing it wrong. My 2 year old has taught me more about myself then your God has. I don't need an imaginary friend to complete me, or my life. My real friends do the job just fine.