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Loving Yourself Well

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I'm Starting With The Man In

The Mirror

I'm Asking Him To Change

His Ways

And No Message Could Have

Been Any Clearer

If You Wanna Make The World

A Better Place

Take A Look At Yourself,

And Then Make A Change

-- Michael Jackson

Loving Yourself Well
Throughout my first book, You Are Not Your Illness, I demonstrate to the reader that they are not their body, thoughts or emotions, but we are all observers, (or we become more aware) of our bodies, emotions, and thoughts.

So, on this Valentine's Day, bear in mind that all of your relationships

Ultimately each relationship you have with another person reflects your relationship you have with yourself. How well (or poorly) you get along with yourself will be directly mirrored by how quickly you come back to self, to the centered space that abides within us all.

You know, the part of us that is the still observer of our thoughts, emotions and experiences. This may sound silly, but when was the last time you looked in the mirror at yourself
and said, "I love you"?

We spend countless hours in front of the mirror reviewing our looks, focusing on our flaws and trying to create a perfect look... whatever that is. All of us are unique in our own right and mirror work gives us back that knowledge and wisdom.

What is mirror work?
It's when you face yourself in the mirror, look into your eyes, and say, "I love you." You may even tear up when you experience the magnificence of your true Self.

You may be surprised how this simple process can have a profound affect on your well-being as its influence follows you throughout the day.

I do the following exercise daily. It grounds me and helps me gain back my personal power.

Exercise:
Whenever I am in front of any mirror and say "I love you, Linda," a smile forms on my lips and my eyes start to twinkle.

Physically, I start to experience changes within my body and it feels good when I breathe in deeply the love and appreciation I have for myself. Why wouldn't I want to feel happy?

Saying "I love you, (put in your name)" doesn't cost anything and we gain so much from this daily practice.

Imagine saying, "I love you," to yourself 10 times a day. What do you think will happen? You would start to love yourself even more than you do now.

Are you ready to give yourself some love today? Every time you are in front of a mirror,
(especially when you wake up in the morning), say "I love you, (put in your name), I really, really love you," no matter what you first look like in the morning.

It only takes a brief moment to nurture and support you.

Wherever you are right now, you can do this.

This article, along with my past articles, offers practical tools that you can use to actually improve the quality of your life. Each article has had general and specific information and exercises, if applied, can make your life more joyful and balanced.

I have one wish for you this Valentine's Day, is that you use the information and exercises in such a way as to claim your own loving and a life filled with health, intimacy, and creative self-expression.

Love the One You're With,

Love,
Linda

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