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Giving Birth With A Borrowed Womb Is Not What Makes You A Mother

Posted: 09/21/2012 1:55 pm

In Sweden right now four women are recovering from major surgery -- all part of the search for the ideal of motherhood.

The two older of the women are the mothers of the two younger ones. Each daughter has been surgically given the same uterus from which she herself was born -- and from which she hopes to give birth to her own children.

The first news reports about this procedure discussed it as a medical triumph, and headlines were dotted with adjectives like "Pioneering," "Groundbreaking", and "Success".

I am here to add another: Troubling.

The history of all transplants is one of weighing risk against reward. The risks are many -- there is risk from surgery itself, particularly the anesthesia; from infection and complications after surgery, from years of anti-rejection drugs, all of which have side-effects; from the rejection of the organ if the drugs fail.

When deciding to transplant something life-saving, like a heart, liver or lung, the reward, by definition, justifies the risk. When the "organ" is a hand or a face, as has been made possible much more recently, the reward becomes quality of life, and while this equation is less clear, ethicists have generally approved this new line.

But when the reward is the ability to carry a baby? Is this a value statement we, as a society, really want to make?

Arthur Caplan, head of medical ethics at Langone NYU Medical Center thinks not. "There are dangers here," he told me over the phone. "And too few answers."

Caplan began researching those dangers about a decade ago, after news of a failed uterine transplant in Saudi Arabia, the first attempt in the world. (The uterus had to be removed after 99 days because of circulatory complications.) Caplan, who was then with the Hastings Center, an ethical think tank, was one author on a 2007 report called"Moving the Womb" that listed the unique questions raised by transplanting this particular organ.

In addition to the usual risks of transplant, his report explained, the fact that a uterus is life-giving but not life-saving brings knotty complications. How will families view a child born in such a way -- as that of the donor, or the recipient? In a world that is still struggling with the rights of egg donors, sperm donors, birth parents and gestational surrogates, can we responsibly add uterine donor to that list?

What, in turn. are the long-term psychological implications to that child? The long-term health implications? What is the possibility of rupture to a uterus that has undergone a transplant? While advocates have correctly said that the risks here are less daunting because the organ can easily be removed if the transplant fails, what if it contains an embryo or a fetus when that happens?

All good questions. But none get at the heart of what I feel is the most important , overarching, unstated but deeply ingrained, problem here -- our essential view of motherhood.

The reason a woman would request a transplanted uterus is because she doesn't have one. Of the two Swedish recipients, one lost hers to cancer and the other was born without. Only one half of one percent of infertility in women is caused by a lack of a uterus, which translates to between 2000 and 3000 women in Sweden who might be surgically given one.

And why would they want one? To have a baby? No. There are other ways to do that, including gestational surrogacy, through which one can potentially have a biological child. (At least in those states where it is legal and those cultures which allow it.) The real reason for uterine transplants, then, is to grant a mother the experience of carrying and giving birth to a child.

Is that worth the risk?

To some women -- starting with the two anonymous patients in Sweden -- clearly it is. And how I want to assure them that they are wrong.

"Motherhood and the defining elements of being a mom have been romanticized," during this age of technology, Caplan says. "There is a tendency to expand the definition to include the experience of pregnancy, the naturalness of pregnancy, the non-medicalization of pregnancy." Uterine transplants, he says, are the end game of the thinking that giving birth is "an empowering female experience and the defining moment for a mother."

Let's forget for now the irony that giving birth post-transplant is the epitome of medicalized and unnatural, and look instead at the core of the belief that you need to carry a child to mother one. That dismisses the bonds between adoptive parents and children. It also dismisses the role of fathers. And it burdens far too many mothers, in that it takes us one step further along the spectrum that has women feeling "less-than" because they had a C-section or asked for an epidural. What technology should be giving us instead is affirmation of the fact that there are countless ways to have a baby, and that all of them are essentially irrelevant to actually becoming a parent. What makes you a mother, a parent, is loving and raising a child.

Are birth and pregnancy magical and transformative? Yes. For some people.

Are they worth four abdominal surgeries (the two that have already occurred in each donor-recipient pair, the C-section that will be necessary to deliver children from the transplanted uterus, and the one that will eventually remove the organs for good so the recipient need not take immunosuppressants for life)? I don't think so.

When we are drawing ethical lines, do we want to cross the one that declares "it is worth measurable risk to life to accept the skewed definition of a 'real' mother? I hope not.

I wish these two women happy pregnancies and healthy children. And I wish we lived in a world where no woman felt defined by how -- and whether -- she gave birth.

 
 
 

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In Sweden right now four women are recovering from major surgery -- all part of the search for the ideal of motherhood. The two older of the women are the mothers of the two younger ones. Each dau...
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shortguy54
Short, balding, brilliant... (well, maybe not so)
04:59 AM on 09/26/2012
Too much agonizing and second-guessing here. Unless the ovaries were transplanted with the uterus what's the issue? After all, its the baker who makes the bread, the oven just bakes it!
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cattack
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05:47 PM on 09/24/2012
The ethics of this procedure are too complicated for me to hash my way through in a HuffPo comment, so I'll stick to plain, old opinion...

My first thought? Wow, why would any woman take such an enormous risk to birth a child? As someone who is adopted (and who will likely adopt), I know deep, down in my bones that parenthood is determined neither by biology nor by the act of giving birth. As far as I know, I share no biology with either of my parents who are, indeed, very much my parents. The woman who gave me birth? I am grateful that she was my birth mother, but she'll never be my mom.

My second thought? What has society taught women about their valuable that makes this surgery possible, feasible, and/or desirable? Is biological motherhood really akin to accepting a new heart rather than dying? Is the value the same?

I don't think so, but that's just me...
11:01 AM on 09/24/2012
THis article should have simply been titled "Giving birth is not what makes you a mother"
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CoachNelly2
10:52 AM on 09/25/2012
Exactly. My counter point was going to be "just because you give birth, doesn't make you a mother."
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guendy
Above all, peace and freedom
10:10 PM on 09/23/2012
Wow. Although I'm not surprised as to how far a woman will go to feel the kicks and hiccups of a baby inside of her. It is an amazing feeling.
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CoachNelly2
10:52 AM on 09/25/2012
But annoying as you're trying to go to sleep and the baby keeps hiccuping on your bladder.
04:52 PM on 09/23/2012
I'm so surprised at how angry most of the comments are, Lisa. I agree with you 100 percent. I have two kids, the oldest is 8 and I hardly remember the day-to-day of being pregnant. I never took a belly picture because what's the point? Once the baby is born, I wanted to frame pictures of their sweet faces, not my engorged midsection. It's not about the wedding, it's about the marriage. It's not about the pregnancy, it's about the baby. Why is everyone so obsessed with that nine-month period of time? It's really not all that spectacular, especially when it results in a lifetime of medical problems. I love my kids but I don't love how my insides are permanently jacked-up as a result of being pregnant and having c-sections.
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PunKinPai
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11:33 AM on 09/24/2012
"It's not about the wedding, it's about the marriage...." How small minded. Some, if not most, people consider every experience in their lives important, including nine months of pregnancy and weddings.
02:10 PM on 09/24/2012
While those experiences possess a degree of importance, I'm confident most people would not place pregnancy and weddings as a priority over children and marriage. And I certainly wouldn't use my future child as an experiment to see if a donated uterus can deliver what he/she needs just so I can experience what being pregnant feels like.
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Amaryllis612
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02:32 PM on 09/24/2012
And this is why the divorce rate is what it is. Too many people care about the short term versus the long term experience.
12:43 PM on 09/24/2012
Yep, I'm a mother of three, and I've spent a total of 27 months pregnant. It's a mystery to me why the physicality of pregnancy is so romanticized these days. For me, the best thing, and frankly, the only good thing about my pregnancies was that it meant I was having a child, and all the joy surrounding the expectation. It's an exciting time, absolutely, but not because of your body (huge, sick, and exhausted), but, instead, because you're about to be a mother to a new baby. That is psychologically exhilarating, and probably similar to the feelings of those about to adopt. The rest - the physical - is just exhaustion and discomfort that ends in agony.
01:22 PM on 09/23/2012
While I agree that this may be going too far, I don't like the tone of the author's view. It feels very critical. If you haven't had a discussion with these women who have chosen to have the implants, then you have no right to judge for them whether it is worth four abdominal surgeries or not. I am not a mother yet, but desperately want to be, even if it means going at it alone.vI would consider adoption or using a gestational carrier if need be, but Ican tell you there is such a strong pull in me to carry, sometimes I don't know what to do with those feelings. I don't know if I'd choose to have a uterus implanted, but I certainly wouldn't judge others for doing so.
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ss1964
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01:13 PM on 09/23/2012
Didn't have children and didn't even know I was being judged! Oh well, better off without children than having them with the wrong man who can 'make me into a woman' by 'blessing' me with children and then those children have to suffer the same crappy childhood that I did. I did them a favor by not bringing them into the world with my genetics and lack of nice, solid family environment.

I'm guessing that I'm still pretty much a woman.
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guendy
Above all, peace and freedom
10:11 PM on 09/23/2012
Of course you are. Having a child is not for everyone, not all women were born to be mothers. Just like not all men were born to be fathers.
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ss1964
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01:25 AM on 09/24/2012
Thanks. You know, I triple admire men who know themselves well enough to go for the vasectomy knowing that they do not want to be fathers. It is so incredibly rare. I know of four men who have done this and I greatly admire them. Of topic, but great point.
12:12 PM on 09/23/2012
The last line, totally misses the mark.
T the problem is judgemental bigots, not wombs.
If it wasn't wombs, it would just be something else.

Anybody else read "The Sneeches?"
04:40 PM on 09/22/2012
I really like the last line of this piece, "I wish we lived in a world where no woman felt defined by how -- and whether -- she gave birth," but I respectfully disagree with the opinion put forward in the piece. Mothers are defined by having children, not by how they were born. That said, if a woman is willing to deal with all of the complications and is able to find someone to donate a uterus, why not? It is not hurting anyone, and if that is how a woman wants to become mother, then let her. And good luck to her. But I respect the fact that it raises ethical questions and this is definately something to talk about in the medical community.
12:10 PM on 09/23/2012
I think the problem is with the judgemental bigots, not the wombs.
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07:07 PM on 09/27/2012
If people who aren't able to naturally birth children won't adopt, why should anyone else? I don't understand why people are willing to spend so much money to naturally birth a child. There are so many children in foster care, and they need parents too. But people want "their own." What does that even mean? A child is your child if you take them into your home and your heart. Biology is not required, but most people seem to want it. They see the world is overpopulated, they see all these kids being neglected in the foster care system, and still they want "their own." If people who are not naturally able to birth kids refuse to adopt, who will adopt these kids? There are even states that have outlawed adoptions to gay couples. I feel like the world is working against kids in foster care, and a strong argument can be made in support of my opinion. I just don't have the space here to make it.
11:37 AM on 09/22/2012
This is the post I wish the HuffPost would promote instead to a wide audience on this issue. It addresses head-on the science, the political issues at stake, and the dangerous implications of Belkin's kind of moral righteousness (however well-intentioned):
http://fertilitylabinsider.com/2012/09/future-therapies-uterus-transplant/
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09:47 PM on 09/22/2012
EXCELLENT POST?

I enjoy seeing logic override "framing ethics" from non - scientist type pundits. It is just a UTERUS not a magic carpet and simply houses a child for nine months. Im sure we had this dissenting and pontifical attitude towards progress whn they first had heart transplants; except they have now successfully SAVED multiple lives..Why dissuade and try to abort new breakthroughs?

Returning fertility to a woman is a beautiful gift,
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11:03 AM on 09/22/2012
And I wish we lived in a world where no woman felt defined by how -- and whether -- she gave birth.

Thank you for that last line.
10:26 AM on 09/22/2012
I'm just not sure how this is any different from other medical measures taken to give a woman the opportunity to give birth. fertility drugs, IVF, surrogacy, adoption...all are "unnatural" ways to become a mom. and don't take "unnatural" wrong...I have no judgement whatsoever for any mom or how she came to be one, I'm just saying I don't quite get Lisa's outrage since all are being assisted in some way.

And when she questions how people will view the babies born this way (ie who is their REAL mother)...really? Kind of contradicting herself there...their REAL mother is the person who mothers them.
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mark331blue
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09:01 AM on 09/22/2012
Tried to read this. Just couldn't get through it and don't know why. Shrug.
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Djay0252
America needs to Bless God
08:44 AM on 09/22/2012
There are many women out there who give birth from their own and are far from being Mothers
08:37 AM on 09/22/2012
Sorry, she lost me at the statement below. This isn't even a sentence let alone a question. I think I understand what she means, and agree, but this needed to be proofed better.

"But when the reward is the ability to carry a baby?"
10:16 AM on 09/22/2012
it's technically not a full sentence but her tone is intentionally conversational. Insert "Is a procedure like this worth it..." to the beginning...