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Ladies, Are You Wishing You Had A Man In Your Stocking This Year?

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Holidays are tough for singles, especially when you're over 50. It seems like everyone out there is a couple or a family celebrating the holidays together. What's even harder is they all look so happy.

You end up feeling like you're the only one in the world left out of all this holiday cheer.

That's because we can paint a picture in our heads of the only way we truly believe our holidays should be... a handsome man at our side as we open gifts and celebrate the beginning of a new year.

These can be lonely times for you if the only way the holiday season can be meaningful and fun is with a guy in your life.

So this year, if you aren't dating someone, how about giving yourself a break? See if you can figure out a way to turn those holiday blues into holiday happiness without a guy in your life.

Here are five ideas to get you started.

Holiday Happiness Idea #1 -- Pamper Yourself

This year, why don't you ask your family and friends for gifts that are going to allow you to feel pampered, as in massages, manicures, pedicures or facials? Let someone take care of you for a couple of hours.

Remember, you are sexiest and most desirable to a man when you feel good about you. And who doesn't feel great after a soothing massage or a new nail color?

Holiday Happiness Idea #2 -- Go Out And Have A Good Time With Your Girlfriends

Start by making a list of every unattached woman you know. Next, pick up the phone to see if one of them is free to go to a movie or dinner.

I used to have a single friends folder that I could go to whenever I felt like doing an activity but didn't want to do it alone. Start your own today and use it now during the holiday season to get yourself out of the house and into the holiday cheer.

Holiday Happiness Idea #3 -- Start Putting Your Dating Fairy Godmothers To Work For You!

During this time of year with parties happening everywhere you turn, most of us come in contact with more people than usual.

Choose 5 friends and ask each one to keep their eyes open for a great, single guy they might be able to fix you up with. He could be at their office party or their yoga class.

Remember, friends forget you are single so you need to keep reminding them to always be on the lookout for a great match for you.

Holiday Happiness Idea #4 -- Do Something Crazy, Like Book A Cruise With Your Sister, Friends, or Family

It's nice to have a man in our lives, but we can have fun with or without one.

Treat yourself to a winter vacation to give you something to look forward to. Cruises can be relatively inexpensive these days, so what's your excuse?

Okay, you won't be watching the sunset with a guy but you can be having a good time, laughing with your friends and who knows... There might be a great single guy on that ship just waiting to meet you.

Holiday Happiness Idea #5 -- Get Online And Start Looking For Your New Guy Tonight!

Men are online at all hours of the day and night. You can always find someone to chat with whether or not you end up dating him.

For fun... try a niche dating site that caters to a smaller pool of singles, or go on one of the free ones like Plenty of Fish (and yes, there are plenty of quality fish for you to choose from on there)!

So as you can now hopefully see, while waiting to find Mr. Right, there are still plenty of ways for you to have fun. Be creative and get the wheels moving. Start thinking about all the ways you can still have fun this holiday season.

Post your comments here and let me know what you decide to do to create your own holiday happiness.

Lisa Copeland is the Dating Coach who empowers strong women over 50 to attract quality men. For more information, visit www.FindAQualityMan.com.

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