Holidays are tough for singles, especially when you're over 50. It seems like everyone out there is a couple or a family celebrating the holidays together. What's even harder is they all look so happy.
You end up feeling like you're the only one in the world left out of all this holiday cheer.
That's because we can paint a picture in our heads of the only way we truly believe our holidays should be... a handsome man at our side as we open gifts and celebrate the beginning of a new year.
These can be lonely times for you if the only way the holiday season can be meaningful and fun is with a guy in your life.
So this year, if you aren't dating someone, how about giving yourself a break? See if you can figure out a way to turn those holiday blues into holiday happiness without a guy in your life.
Here are five ideas to get you started.
Holiday Happiness Idea #1 -- Pamper Yourself
This year, why don't you ask your family and friends for gifts that are going to allow you to feel pampered, as in massages, manicures, pedicures or facials? Let someone take care of you for a couple of hours.
Remember, you are sexiest and most desirable to a man when you feel good about you. And who doesn't feel great after a soothing massage or a new nail color?
Holiday Happiness Idea #2 -- Go Out And Have A Good Time With Your Girlfriends
Start by making a list of every unattached woman you know. Next, pick up the phone to see if one of them is free to go to a movie or dinner.
I used to have a single friends folder that I could go to whenever I felt like doing an activity but didn't want to do it alone. Start your own today and use it now during the holiday season to get yourself out of the house and into the holiday cheer.
Holiday Happiness Idea #3 -- Start Putting Your Dating Fairy Godmothers To Work For You!
During this time of year with parties happening everywhere you turn, most of us come in contact with more people than usual.
Choose 5 friends and ask each one to keep their eyes open for a great, single guy they might be able to fix you up with. He could be at their office party or their yoga class.
Remember, friends forget you are single so you need to keep reminding them to always be on the lookout for a great match for you.
Holiday Happiness Idea #4 -- Do Something Crazy, Like Book A Cruise With Your Sister, Friends, or Family
It's nice to have a man in our lives, but we can have fun with or without one.
Treat yourself to a winter vacation to give you something to look forward to. Cruises can be relatively inexpensive these days, so what's your excuse?
Okay, you won't be watching the sunset with a guy but you can be having a good time, laughing with your friends and who knows... There might be a great single guy on that ship just waiting to meet you.
Holiday Happiness Idea #5 -- Get Online And Start Looking For Your New Guy Tonight!
Men are online at all hours of the day and night. You can always find someone to chat with whether or not you end up dating him.
For fun... try a niche dating site that caters to a smaller pool of singles, or go on one of the free ones like Plenty of Fish (and yes, there are plenty of quality fish for you to choose from on there)!
So as you can now hopefully see, while waiting to find Mr. Right, there are still plenty of ways for you to have fun. Be creative and get the wheels moving. Start thinking about all the ways you can still have fun this holiday season.
Post your comments here and let me know what you decide to do to create your own holiday happiness.
Lisa Copeland is the Dating Coach who empowers strong women over 50 to attract quality men. For more information, visit www.FindAQualityMan.com.
Sometimes it feels like the foundation of your social life is so strong that you no longer find the opportunity to meet new and exciting people. Throw a barbecue or party in which guests bring a friend that no one in the group knows. Alternatively, tag along with a friend the next time their office has a company picnic or function -- this is a great way to meet somebody who you know is responsible enough to hold down a career and who you can 'check out' with an acquainted friend before you agree to a date.
There's no longer a stigma about a woman learning to golf or a man taking a Pilates class, though such activities are still gender lopsided enough one way or the other to open up the dating options for the minority sex. In time you'll be able to go to a local public course and complete someone else's foursome, or cap off an exercise class by going for coffee with some of your fellow students -- both of which will give you the opportunity to meet a host of new people (most likely of the opposite sex). Just make sure you're doing something you want to do -- it would be a shame to begin a relationship under false pretenses.
Organizations such as "Habitat For Humanity" allow you to come into contact with people of all ages and from all walks of life, all of whom have strong, respectable values. And it's not just a great chance to meet a prospective date -- volunteering attracts interesting, good-natured people who themselves are excited to meet new faces and make friends.
Book clubs are great places to meet well-read, like-minded adults -- you can usually find one by calling your local library. Similarly, wine clubs, outdoors clubs and gardening clubs are good options as well depending on your interests. Joining a club allows you to grow as an individual and sets up the opportunity for you to meet someone who shares a common interest.
Singles over 50 are flocking to the online dating world more than any other demographic. It would be a shame to let 20th century prejudices about online dating spoil the opportunities that could await you with a membership. The perception that dating sites attract eccentrics or shut-ins is a dying one, but if you need convincing, just see for yourself the array of adults turning to sites like "Match" and "eHarmony" to help them begin meaningful relationships with interesting people. Here are the top five most popular dating sites for Post50s.
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