If you've ever wondered why dating felt like you were driving with one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas or you're wondering why you're not meeting great guys to spend time with, I'd like to share something with you.
Things like having a great profile, knowing how to flirt and where to meet men are very important steps on the dating journey you're taking.
These skills are a big part of what I teach in all my coaching programs.
But they are not the most important as I'll explain.
Most women believe if they just had the right body or lived in a particular city or had more men to choose from, the man and the relationship would be so much easier to find.
I know, because I've been closely observing, teaching and championing unhappy single women over 50 for quite a while.
And here's what I've discovered: Your level of dating success isn't really about your looks or your weight.
If you want to know the truth, it actually stems from your mindset... the fears and limiting beliefs you may have about yourself and the men you want to date.
And most importantly... whether or not you feel 'good enough' to get the type of man you want.
Your mindset about YOU is the ONE single thing that determines your level of success or failure in dating.
When you have a mindset of self confidence, your results get transformed, often overnight, and this translates to big breakthroughs in the number of good men who contact you and how many dates you go on.
I want to give you 2 simple tips you can start using right away to boost your confidence and give it a major jumpstart.
The first is... you want to develop a knowing from your deepest core that you are a GREAT CATCH. And by the way....you are!
Here's how you can get in touch with your AWESOME SELF again.
Take a few minutes and write down a list of at least 15-20 qualities you love about you.
They can be about your physical appearance, or they can be wonderful things about your personality or about things you love doing or are really good at.
By the way, the last two are your passions and men are wildly attracted to women who are passionate about their life.
Next take your list and go stand in front of a mirror. I know it sounds funny but this works.
Share with the beautiful woman in the mirror this sentence....I want to tell you about a great friend of mine who is so awesome.
Next use the phrase she loves her (filling in the blank from your list about your physical and personalities qualities) or she is good at (again fill in the blank from your list of passions)...as you read the list out loud to the woman in the mirror.
Saying the words out loud....is what makes this such a powerful exercise when it comes to remembering just how AWESOME you really are.
Secondly, invest in a couple of dating outfits that make you feel beautiful and amazing. They don't have to be expensive. You just want them to match how amazing you feel inside.
Your confidence is the number ONE trait that will attract a good man to you.
Spend some time doing the exercises I gave you and watch the difference it makes in your love life with the men you want to date.
How did these exercises work for you? Leave your comments below.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.