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Experiment With Another Year of Life

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Every New Year all of us reflect upon our lives. We attempt to grow, learn and become inspired to improve ourselves. I share this as the many of you that have this discussion with myself each New Year. I will work out more, I will read more, I will spend more time with friends and family, I will push myself to limits beyond where I have been before.

Many of us are on a quest to find that place of serenity to balance the overburdening pressures in life. We begin the year with an ardency that could light monuments. A part of us feels each January as if there is a fresh slate to accomplish dreams and goals we have always conceived or failed to have the discipline and time to complete. Some of us are seeking to heal from injuries to the soul and spirit caused by loss and change. Others are razar focused on triumphant next phases of success.

We have an annual accord with Amazon.com or the bookstore to purchase the latest best sellers on diets, exercise, meditation, relationship consultation, fiscal management, and career advice. Motivational speakers and experts voices fill our heads with encouraging examples and personal experiences that we can accomplish and overcome anything we set our minds to; that we can maximize our potential against any odds. Is this all reality? Or are we setting ourselves up repeatedly to fail?

Each of us may only reach into our own lives to find that inspiration. A discovery may just be within yourself that takes you to where you are dreaming of being. Perhaps deep counseling is necessary, but perhaps, just perhaps if we test ourselves, we may just awaken and resonate both frightening and distinguishing aspects of our inner spirits. Each of us has them, even at our darkest times, or when someone or some experience has seemed to zap all of what we have out of us. We need to teach ourselves to rely on ourselves more, to dig within to find that what our true desires are. Even if the goal is to simply eat less carbs, but typically our goals and needs are much more significant than this if we are truly honest with ourselves.

It is only then that others can help us, and that inspirations that have left a mark on our memories can make sense. Once we find this inspiration within us, assistance can actually transform our efforts into actionable results and lead us to finding the comfort and completion that we are looking for. I clearly do not know this because I am an expert. I have witnessed some really spectacular people that will never be authors of books or their stories known in a public way. Some of the most fascinating people overcome some amazing obstacles, and they really have themselves to thank. A hammer is needed to drive a nail into a block of wood, but you still have to pick it up, and aim, and provide the energy needed. The hammer is a tool, not the creator of the result. We are all risk takers; even the most conservative of us wants to be. We may just not know how to connect the dots to figuring ourselves out, and as a result we form bad habits, that become our own norms and ways of functioning. Eternally we vow to ourselves to make that change. Everyday we feel something. We feel happy, we feel sad, we feel energized, we feel tired. None of this is right, none of this is wrong. What is wrong is for any of us to not be the pioneers of our own lives. I encourage us all to make the New Year's resolution to spend more time discovering and experimenting with your own self. You just may find that permanent change or growth you are looking for is not in that book or television show, but right there inside.