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08/19/2014 05:28 pm ET | Updated Oct 19, 2014

Seasonal Dating?

A guy friend of mine recently told me that you shouldn't breakup with your mate in the winter, as it's cold outside and no one wants to be lonely when it's chilly. I say chilly because it never really get's cold in Los Angeles. I thought he was a little crazy until I was in New York and a girl told me that she doesn't get serious with guys in the summer. She said that she likes to be free when the weather is nice and then will find a boyfriend in the fall. So now I'm convinced that I was just out of the dating world too long to know that singles date in seasons.

I love autumn and it's my favorite time to fall in love. The leaves changing and the crisper nights makes me feel all snuggly and lovable. I had never considered the dating rules of single in the summer and taken in the winter, but I'm willing to give it a try. It's mid August and I'll keep my guard up not to get too involved with any dudes until September. I think I can make it two more weeks.

Harvesting season is when the fruits and vegetables are at their best and are ready to be picked. Maybe fall is the perfect time to harvest a new relationship. Since the Summer Solstice singles have spent their sunny days tanning up and slimming down so they look their best by the Autumnal Equinox. They are ready to be picked. Seasonal dating is starting to make sense.

When April hits and it's time for spring cleaning, don't just wash the blinds, break up with your lover too. That seems a little flip as maybe you really love the guy who had kept you warm all winter. Perhaps you do need a little break from his hibernation and are ready for freedom. Either way, he might be planning his single summer and you won't know what hit you on Memorial Day.

I decided to do some research on the term "Seasonal Dating" and found out that it's a financial term referring to customers buying early with no payment due until the season for which the goods are sold. That sounds like a good plan to me. Date now, pay later. We can have all the benefits of dating without owing anything. Like being there when they need you or dealing with any of the bad that comes with a commitment. It's easy for the finance world to seasonal date as the financial world has proven it doesn't have a conscious.

So beware if you are a couple while entering the winter months as you are stuck with that mate until the snow melts and you shed your winter weight for the summer single beach months. This is apparently how some people plot out their calendars. Personally, if I meet a great guy in the summer, I'm not going to wait until Labor Day to think about hanging out with him again. I also have no qualms about dumping a dud in December. Dating is tough enough without adding seasonal rules to the game. If a mate is ripe for the picking, don't wait until a picker gets there first.

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