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Your college roommates may have been a piece of cake, but the second time around may not go as smoothly for anyone having to share living quarters. If it's been a long time since you've shared a bathroom, the one person in the world you will get to know -- and fast -- is your roommate. Even if you bond instantly, there may be moments when the smallest of issues will get on your nerves. Don't let problems fester until you explode; address them as they happen! Communication, more listening than talking, is the key to a successful relationship.
According to Sue Fox, author of Etiquette for Dummies, "Familiarity often leads to shortcuts in considerate behavior and communication, especially in a roommate situation." You can address the potential problems by creating boundaries, making agreements, setting limits, and voicing expectations beforehand. Does this before you move in together. Fox goes on to say: "Privacy is another sticky issue for roommates, especially if both are friends to begin with. Address how and if food should be shared and honor whatever the agreement is." Start with the basics:
• Equality. Make sure both names are on the lease, and share responsibility for whatever might go wrong.
• Money Matters. Have the rent automatically debited from both bank accounts every month so neither roommate has to worry about an eviction notice. The same goes for monthly utilities.
• Borrowing. Don't borrow your roommate's belongings unless absolutely necessary. Always ask permission, and return the item in the same condition and in a timely manner. Nothing causes more strife between roommates than borrowing issues.
• Be Considerate. Your roommate may or may not be your friend, but he or she will be your business partner. Treat that person with tact and consideration at all times. Remember the little things we learned long ago: no slamming doors, no phone calls after 9 P.M., and by all means, no loud music late at night.
• Communal Rules. Who buys the household supplies should be established from the start. Setting up a petty cash fund isn't a bad idea for items such as soap, toilet paper, and cleaning supplies.
• Keep Your Home in Order. Chances are, one of you will be neat and the other messy, but your mom doesn't live here, you do! The orderly one will have to learn to tolerate his roommate, and the slob will have to learn to pick up after himself.
• Less is more. There is no way to duplicate all the comforts of your former home. The less you bring, the less you will have to keep track of.
Think the Golden Rule when it comes to roommates: Do unto them as you want them to do for you!
Lisa Mirza Grotts is a recognized etiquette expert and the author of A Traveler's Passport to Etiquette. She is a former director of protocol for the City & County of San Francisco and the founder of The AML Group (www.AMLGroup.com), certified etiquette and protocol consultants. Her clients range from Cornell University and Microsoft to Nordstrom and KPMG. She has been quoted by The Sunday Times, the San Francisco Business Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and USA Today. She has appeared on various radio and television stations, such as ABC, CBS, and Fox News. To learn more about Lisa, follow her on www.Twitter.com/LisaGrotts.
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