Mixed Marriages In Politics

Recently, "mixed marriages" and "blended political families" have been in the news. I'm talking about Democrats and Republicans being married to each other. For example, Governor Schwarzenegger supports McCain, and his wife, Maria Shriver, is for Obama. We've also seen some famous uncles and cousins supporting opposing candidates. We're all familiar with the saying, "Politics makes strange bedfellows." I also think "bedfellows make strange politics."

Whenever I see the odd couple of political pundits -- Mary Matalin and James Carville -- on TV, I can't help thinking, "What's going on with the two of them?" I realize it's not that uncommon for spouses to disagree about politics. I'm sure there are Republicans married to Democrats. There are bound to be families in which one spouse is for Clinton and the other for McCain or, maybe, one is for Huckabee and the other is for Obama. I might have gone too far with that last example. In fact, if there are any couples reading this who are Huckabee/Obama supporters, I'd love to hear from them.

My point is that when Mr. and Mrs. Citizen disagree politically, it's just a healthy aspect of our democracy. But Matalin and Carville are professional politicians. They don't just disagree. When each of them describes the other's party, they describe evil. They attack each other's basic values. How can they be married? How does it work? "I hate everything you stand for. Could you pass the salt please, honey?"

And how did Arnold handle Maria coming out for Barack Obama just days after the governor endorsed John McCain? Again, it's not the same as the husband and wife down the street who support different candidates. To those who are (incredibly) claiming that McCain is "too liberal," how does it look for the wife of his muscle-bound endorser to be campaigning for Obama? I'm sure Governor Schwarzenegger took it in stride. He probably said something like, "This is America, and this is California. So, in this greatest land in the world, you can support whoever you want, Maria. I'm not angry. Now I'm just going to go work out and bench press our Hummer."

We've also witnessed the race for Kennedy endorsements. Caroline and Ted endorsed Obama, and then quickly Robert F. Kennedy Jr., Kathleen Kennedy Townsend and Kerry Kennedy endorsed Hillary Clinton. Then, Ted's son Patrick and RFK's widow, Ethel Kennedy endorsed Obama. I worry about how they're all going to get along at their next Thanksgiving dinner or touch football game.

This whole idea of political endorsements has gotten out of hand. On the Democratic side, both candidates will now try to get anybody with any connection to the Kennedys. Look for an announcement like: "Man Who Once Sold JFK Pack Of Gum Backs Hillary."

Any of the Republicans would be happy to have the headline, "Ronald Reagan's Brother Makes Endorsement." Then if we bothered to read the rest of the article, it would be something like: "Fred Reagan, the brother of master plumber, Ronald Reagan, of Omaha, Nebraska, has endorsed..."

Recently, John McCain was so anxious to get rid of the non-endorsement of Rush Limbaugh, that Bob Dole sent Limbaugh a letter praising McCain. How unseemly was that? The former Senate Majority leader courting a radio host? What's next? Is a presidential candidate going to celebrate the endorsement of TV's Oprah Winfrey? Oh, yeah, I forgot.

Endorsements are vastly over-rated. The concept presumes that we can't and don't think for ourselves. Is the union member really going to vote for somebody the union officially supports if he or she doesn't like that candidate? How many people are going to change their minds because a karate guy/actor endorses someone?

If Matalin and Carville are so smart, if Arnold and Maria have so much influence, how come they can't even convince their own spouses?

Lloyd Garver has written for many television shows, ranging from "Sesame Street" to "Family Ties" to "Home Improvement" to "Frasier." He has also read many books, some of them in hardcover. He can be reached at [e-mail]

Comments

[knerd]

Lloyd--

Thanks for bringing together in one place the questions, musings and concerns I too have had in these Martin and Lewis matches made in some strange political heaven.

In the case of Carville and Matlin, I have concluded that their private arguments are steeped in self-awareness and humor. Otherwise, those beautiful children of theirs are in for a rocky journey through some intensive therapy later on.

I just hope the two pundits have made a real healthy and open compromise between their TV/Campaign personas and their private and normal human lives.

Punditry is show business.

[KarlRoves3rdchin]

Matalin is much more 'involved' than her significant other. The fact that Matalin worked for Cheney FOR YEARS and Bush as well makes me quite suspect of Carville's 'opinion' of Democrats. Personally, I think there is criminal activity going on there…swapping information and so on. It’s called espionage and treason!

In truth, both Matalin & Carville are EVIL and really bad for this country, period!

[Kundera]

The Clintons agree on politics, and I'd guess they're situation is a bit more sticky.

[BetterDeadthanRedState]

I don't know about Arnold and Maria, but I think Carville and Matalin's marriage was based on espionage. The question is not, how do they get along, but how do they get any sleep. I'm sure they both lie awake all night long hoping to catch the other revealing campaign strategy while talking in their sleep.

[darcy]

"If Matalin and Carville are so smart, if Arnold and Maria have so much influence, how come they can't even convince their own spouses?"

In the case of Matalin and Carville, I think because they make a lot of dough disagreeing with each other. In the case of Maria Schriver, it's bizarre. How can the governor's wife not support the governor's party? Only a Kennedy could get away with that.

[Hume]

This issue suggests a larger, but related, phenomenon, I think: Metaphysical Uber-politicization -- the act of reducing life values to the opposition of competing Republican and Democrat world-views.

It is one thing for an individual to act politically in this life, performing such action as one kind of value activity amongst others, but it is quite another thing to believe that only political value exists.

In the current US American culture, I would argue, the metaphysical universe of values has contracted, swallowing up life by too shallow politics. More and more, one encounters the totally politicized individual who sees all of life's issues through the gnat's-ass aperture of US politics (Lilliputian Repubs battling Lilliputian Dems on the thin point of fictional substance, concocted by ad people).

This universe is thicker than any of the politicos can imagine.

We humans suffer to survive the stupidity of our governments.

[igelje]

"If Matalin and Carville are so smart, if Arnold and Maria have so much influence, how come they can't even convince their own spouses?"

Err, maybe because they're their own people?