When I was at work the other day, I got a text from my boyfriend. At first, I wasn't sure what I was looking at. It was a picture, but it was hard to see what it was. I clicked on it to enlarge, and there it was: It was a picture of poop, floating in a toilet.
I was ecstatic.
This was an historic kind of moment, and I wanted to share it with someone. Grabbing my phone, I intended to show my co-worker, sitting behind me. Halfway out of my seat, I realized it probably wasn't the greatest idea. (Still not my worst, either).
"Is this some weird kind of scat fetish?"
I should probably tell you those turds belonged to his 3.5 year old son, who is in the midst of potty training.
How did this become my life?
It started a little over a year ago, when I first met my boyfriend. Both new to stand-up comedy, we met at an open mic. I thought he was hilarious, adorable, smart, charming. He had a job, a car, and his own place. (You wouldn't believe how difficult it was finding someone who met those three basic requirements.)
He was everything I wanted in a partner, except for one major obstacle: He had a kid.
Full disclosure: I never wanted a relationship with someone who had kids. In fact, it was kind of a deal breaker. I could barely handle one adult relationship -- how could I deal with a child? In my mind, dating a man with kids meant not doing what I want, when I wanted. It meant sacrificing time, attention. It meant I couldn't be selfish. That's not an easy admission. But, after some serious self-reflection, I decided to break my own rules and give the relationship a chance.
Once we had been seeing each other for a while, he decided to take the next step and introduce me to his son. I was petrified. I really liked him and didn't want the relationship to end. But what if his son didn't like me? What if he didn't like me with his son? Even worse, what if I didn't like his son?? These thoughts scared the proverbial shit out of me. I wasn't sure if I was ready for that kind of commitment.
I was wrong.
Of course, his son is beyond adorable and I can't believe I ever questioned my decision. I'm having the time of my life. I look forward to seeing him, hearing his tiny (yet very loud) voice shout absurd declarations, mostly about needing more apple juice. Even the dog, who could care less about us, gets excited that he'll be ll be chasing him around the house for a week.
Gone are my days of day drinking and lounging around in my free time. Instead, we plan days and weekends with trips to the park, children's museums, looking for bugs, monster truck shows, spontaneous glow stick parties, and digging in sandboxes. He makes up hilarious stories and has us laughing all the time.
The biggest lesson I've learned has been to trust my heart, not always my head. If I never gave this single dad a chance, I would have been the giant turd.