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The Top 10 Stereotypical Marriage Wreckers

Posted: 01/29/2012 1:45 pm

Many divorces involve a third party who becomes the catalyst in a broken marriage. It is very common for either the husband or wife, locked in what they see has become a boring marriage, to decide to break up after becoming infatuated with someone new. After working for thirty years as one of the UK's top divorce lawyers, I know they almost always fit a stereotype. Sometimes the new relationship works out -- more often it does not. A marriage under strain is never the ideal time to forge new relationships, which may be far more exciting and attractive in the mind than in real life.

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The toned beefcake or shapely siren at the local gym is paid to get you hot and sweaty. They are therapists and personal trainers rolled into one who flirt to get you to use their services, listen to your problems and then see you at your most intimate, exhausted and scantily-clad. A level of trust and attraction is natural. As the endorphin rush kicks in, this relationship can easily cross the line.

 
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akrazyrunner
Be bold, courageous.Americans are counting on you
04:29 PM on 02/10/2012
#11 A partner who is more willing to give a BJ
CaseyComo
Less jaw, more brain.
12:03 AM on 02/10/2012
Geez, what about the au pair or the nanny? That's a serious oversight.
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Sally Barry
12:46 PM on 02/08/2012
Is the RICH old geezer in there? Because if I was a middle aged man who decided to dump the boring old wife, buy a red sports car, and started using Rogaine by the gallon, I would need SOMETHING to attract the supermodels. Other than long droning stories about alimony payments, my prostate, and how Bob in the office is taking early retirement to keep her entranced.
07:03 AM on 02/08/2012
only whimps wait until they meet a third party...they are affraid to be alone.
04:41 PM on 02/03/2012
Top 11 Stereotypical Marriage Wreckers... another human being.
10:39 AM on 02/03/2012
American women are on a crusade to prove that they dont need men and that they can out man any man, this is why many marriages end.

Belittling and emasculating behavior has been woven so neatly into the American female psyche that the natural chemistry of male/female relationships has been nullified. The self rewarding feedback of healthy opposite sex relationships is a thing of the past.

Women can generally look at marriage as a simple business transaction that can be dissolved at will at any time to their financial benefit. Men are suckers to be manipulated and women have all the accoutrements to do it.

Now that all of the heavy lifting has been done, men are expendable, right ladies?
06:44 AM on 02/03/2012
The reason for divorce is the same reason for the 3rd party. We are all Human. Plain and simple. Monogomy isn't in our nature.
12:57 AM on 02/03/2012
Is this Cosmo?
07:01 PM on 02/02/2012
This is crap. The bottom line is that the "3rd Party" is NOT a catalyst. The catalyst is selfishness and an unwillingness to honor your marriage. Those that cheat cheat in their heart before they cheat with another individual. Why are we letting those that cheat on their partners off the hook by blaming a 3rd party?

Personal accountability is completely lost on our culture.
01:57 PM on 02/08/2012
This is the most correct statement on this subject. Its one word Selfish!
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Chris Close
Wisdom never goes out of style
03:38 PM on 02/02/2012
So the first sentence in this article is... "Many divorces involve a third party who becomes the catalyst in a broken marriage. " Funny how we are already assuming the people involved and the way they care or do not care for each other is not the "Catalyst."
03:15 PM on 02/02/2012
check out The Great American Stay at Home Wives Conspiracy says it all.
01:37 PM on 02/02/2012
This list appears to cover all possible people who aren't one's current spouse.
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beachgirl61
01:33 PM on 02/02/2012
My marriage ended due slide #8. Her battery needed a jump start and he jump started more than her battery apparently :(
06:22 PM on 02/01/2012
Why bother getting married, with so much failure and deceptive behavior?

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08:33 PM on 02/01/2012
Never enter an arrangement you need a lawyer to get out of.

My gay friends are pushing for pro-gay marriage here and I tell them I wish government would tell me I can't get married.
09:41 PM on 02/01/2012
Words EVERY man should live by.

It a broken system that should have been 86'd a long time ago.
12:13 PM on 02/02/2012
I agree completely, while I feel that every person should have the same equal rights, I don't understand why we allow our government to have a hand in marriage.
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beachgirl61
01:34 PM on 02/02/2012
Because hope springs eternal, I guess...
09:49 PM on 01/31/2012
My ex spent the remainder of his life calling me and telling me he had made a mistake. He even said that if he had stayed with me, he wouldn't have lost his house to foreclosure in his old age.
He asked me over and over to go back with him. By then, I lived in Florida and had a new life.
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beachgirl61
01:34 PM on 02/02/2012
Uh huh...