When I went on Phil Donahue's talk show in 1977, the handsome host knocked me for a loop. In the green room beforehand, he told me he wanted to talk to me about my mother (no one ever wanted to talk about my mother -- just my famous father), so I immediately knew there was something ... different about this guy. But that was nothing compared to what happened when the cameras lit up and we were on the air. He asked ﬂirty personal questions. I giggled and flirted back. There was a potent connection between us -- an alchemy -- and the women sitting in the audience knew it. They watched us fall for each other -- in real time.
I believe in love. I believe that it is as important as water and the air and the food that keeps us alive. But as anyone who's ever been in love will tell you, relationships take work. Did you see Ben Affleck's speech when he accepted his Oscar for "Argo?" He thanked his wife, Jennifer Garner, for "working on our marriage for 10 Christmases" -- and then added, "It is work, but it's the best kind of work, and there's no one I'd rather work with."
Almost immediately, a torrent of Tweets blasted across the Internet, some interpreting the comment as a sign that Ben and Jennifer's marriage was on the rocks, others calling it a refreshingly honest statement about intimate relationships. But interestingly, no one said that Ben wasn't right. I thought it was damn romantic - a man who said out loud he cared enough about his relationship to work on it! Just makes me love Ben Affleck more.
Romance and compatibility and sex can all bring out our most extreme emotions -- from exhilaration to terror, from distress to ecstasy. That's why I believe that talking about these issues is so very important, because every couple can learn from each other.
I've had some of the most wonderful guests join me on Mondays With Marlo, discussing matters of the heart -- some of them relationship experts, others just friends who wanted to share their own personal stories. But they all had something powerful to say about love.
So, to keep the conversation going, we've put together some of our favorite clips of advice and insights -- from friends and experts alike -- that we can all take to heart.