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Message to Mitt Romney: No More Passes...Talk to Us About Bullying

Posted: 06/12/2012 1:12 pm

I am deeply concerned.

Last month, Presidential candidate Mitt Romney was given a pass after The Washington Post published a troubling story about an incident in high school, in which Romney had allegedly bullied a gay student, chased him down with friends and tried to cut his hair. Despite Romney's blurry response to the report (he said he couldn't recall the incident), it appeared to be an isolated event, and, to many, not worth commenting on. The thinking was: everybody does something stupid or hurtful at some point when they're younger; and even if the story was true, the assumption was that Romney had most likely learned his lesson as an adult.

But now comes this from the Boston Globe:

"Former governor Mitt Romney’s administration in 2006 blocked publication of a state antibullying guide for Massachusetts public schools because officials objected to use of the terms “bisexual’’ and “transgender’’ in passages about protecting certain students from harassment, according to state records and interviews with current and former state officials."

A subsequent New York magazine blog post goes on to list a few other unsettling disclosures:

--That, according to The Atlantic, although in 2002 and 2003, Romney signed proclamations supporting a gay pride march by the Massachusetts Commission on Gay and Lesbian Youth, "he abruptly threatened to shut the entire commission down in 2006."

-- And that, in the very same year, "he vetoed a $158,000 budget item that would have funded counseling for victims of sexual violence in the LGBT community, along with suicide prevention."

If any of this reporting is even remotely true (and, once again, the Romney camp has not answered the allegations directly), then candidate Romney needs to start giving us some straight talk about bullying, and he needs to do it now.

If we've learned anything in the past year from our anti-bullying campaign (see here and here and here and here), it's that the bullying epidemic in our nation rises above debate. We are not discussing fiscal policy or trade laws or taxes here -- we are talking about a life-or-death issue for America's children, and it needs to be addressed point blank by the Romney campaign. We cannot consider having a leader in the White House who turns his back on the realities facing kids today, especially those whose sexual orientation may be different from what he prefers.

I understand the art of the political pivot. I understand why, at this point in his campaign, Governor Romney needs to appeal to his conservative base. I even understand why, like many candidates in the thick of a race, he has begun to step away from his previous statements, in this case moving from a claim during his failed 1994 Senate run that he was more gay-friendly than Ted Kennedy, to a candidate today who proposes a Constitutional amendment banning gay marriage. (I don't respect it, but I get it.)

But this is unacceptable. Citizens of every political stripe in this country should hold candidate Romney's feet to the fire about his frightening track record on bullying, and demand answers about his actions as governor. As we've written about during our anti-bullying campaign, one of the great tragedies of this issue is that bullied kids often isolate themselves from the grown-ups in their lives, which leads to furthest desperation and, in the worst cases, suicide. Now is the time for those grown-ups to step forward and press Mitt Romney to get real about bullying. This is not about religion or sexuality or politics. Bullying is a weapon that kills children, and a President needs to be a leader who will help stop the dying.

 

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11:07 PM on 06/15/2012
I would have to disagree with Marlo in that it’s more than just Mitt Romney. It’s a national issue that is having far reaching consequences. We have people that are hurting themselves because others are bullying them. Just because Mitt didn’t do anything about it in high school doesn’t mean that he won’t do something about it now. Now that he’s a parent, I think he’s more aware of what he is doing. We do need a leader that is going to take a stand and lead by example. Just attacking the candidate for something that he did in high school isn’t right. I agree with those who say that parents need to get a handle on bullying.
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08:32 PM on 06/16/2012
I think it's silly to attack an action that occurred when Romney was young. I agree with you. However, I think her disappointment comes from Romney not taking the opportunity to express a disdain for bullying. What is he waiting for?
05:07 PM on 06/13/2012
Marlo, get a life. Really? This is what you want to write a column about? Something a jock did when he was a stupid kid?
04:53 PM on 06/13/2012
grow up.
04:48 PM on 06/13/2012
your typical upper classmen acting out..this is where they end up..trying to run your life, your town, your country, they have no tollerance no compassion no empathy
03:40 PM on 06/13/2012
Unfortunately, when it comes to bullying, everyone talks about it and wrings their hands in front of others but no one really cares unless their own child is affected. We had a session on bullying at my son's school after a particularly frightening incident. The 4th through 6th grade parents were asked to attend - that's about 120-130 students so at least 60-65 parents/guardians should have showed up (okay, maybe a bit fewer if we allow for twins etc.). Including the school principal and the counselor their were seven adults (and one child) in the room. I guess no one will really care until someone is killed and then only if its their own child. It's also disturbing how the bullied child always is blamed for what happened as if he or she deserved to be bullied.
02:58 PM on 06/13/2012
What exactly has President Obama done about bullying? Ms. Thomas if you truly care about the subject how about going after those who currently have the power? This looks like another cheap attempt to help Obama get re-elected. The real focus of your anti-bullying campaign should be directed at the public school system. Bullying happens in the school yard right under the noses of those whom we entrust with educating and protecting our children. You can pass all the laws you want, through billions of dollars at bureaucrats and not make a dent in this problem until adults are held responsible for their inaction. The crime here is ignoring the abuse under your nose. Parents, teachers and school administrators know about it yet look the other way or feign ignorance. Spare me your political mud slinging at Romney and address the issue head on at its source or sit down and shut up.
03:19 PM on 06/13/2012
The real question is, has Romney learnt anything since his unpopular dispute as a child? He says he has no memory of this occurance,even though it did happen. Hah! Personallly I like bullys,I like to whip their a--!.
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02:47 PM on 06/13/2012
Bullying is a side effect of participant trophys for soccer player kids. Playdates that have mommys running around with hand sanitizer and baby wipes. Kids have become little sit in the AC cause it's hot outside wimps. First time they run into someone who does not say they are just a special little ray of sunshine must be an evil bully. Nope your kid is a wus
02:29 PM on 06/13/2012
Message to Marlo Thomas:

Get an acting career then you can stop playing journalist-
03:28 PM on 06/13/2012
Dude ...she has been an actress all her life and so was her father. She's already got an acting career! She is married to Phil Donahue (talk show host, producer, etc)
and can play journalist all she wants...know what you are talking about before you comment!
03:24 PM on 06/14/2012
She's taunting Marlow with "acting career" because she knows she was an actress.
04:49 PM on 06/13/2012
dont mess with Marlow shes a great person
02:29 PM on 06/13/2012
This is not a governmental issue. It's not a political issue. It's a parental issue; It begins and ends with the parents. We've tied the hands of our teachers so they can't discipline the kids. We've tied the hands of the other students, so they can't defend themselves without being punished through expulsion. So now it's on the parents. Buck up and do the damn job.
02:16 PM on 06/13/2012
Marlo, Obama says in his book that he pushed girls down and he pays female staff less than males. This makes him the better choice?
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Eegaadzoooks
08:36 PM on 06/16/2012
That is just a ludicrous statement. I have his books and I've read his books and no where is there such a statement. You've just got to stop watching Rush, Hannity and Fox!
01:58 PM on 06/13/2012
Let you who is without sin cast the first stone.
01:06 PM on 06/13/2012
Would anyone here agree, neither of the candidates currently, should be the ones we're forced to vote for in November...? I don't know who the right person could be, maybe the ones that really could do the best job don't want the job ......
So we're back to where we started.....which of these 2 should we vote for...it's like who might do the least worst job...
12:46 PM on 06/13/2012
Let the truth prevail, Marlo, and hopefully our political leaders will listen. If enough people speak up
we can change things.
12:21 PM on 06/13/2012
I don't know about you,but I would be ashamed to have someone like Romney as President.
And knowing this guy...he's probably not going to talk about bullying again...
12:11 PM on 06/13/2012
People continue to ignore the fact that what was done was NOT because the kid was gay. His own family said he was not a know gay until much later in life. Before everyone gets all upset this is not to say that bullying is ok. I am much against it as most people and believe we should do everything we can to prevent bullying of ANYONE but this has turned into a gay issue and it goes so much further than that. First get the story right and then lets move on and do something about bullying so it makes the case for all. This is just to make a case against Romney and it is sad that when it is turned into a political talking point it may get lost in the fray. Have not seen anything about the point where Obama did the bullying of a girl to look cool. And that was in his words. Lets work on stopping the political bashing and get to the problem.