Who is someone you'd do anything for?
I always wanted them to be happy. I never wanted to see them in pain.
I felt happy when they were happy. I felt pain when they were in pain.
When they were in pain, I didn't want to see them in pain. It hurt to see them in pain. And I didn't like that. And then I wanted them to not be in pain. And I wanted to do whatever it took to make them happy again. To make them ok again.
Their happiness was a priority to me. I wanted to do things that would make them happy.
I wanted to know them. I wanted to know all of them. I wanted to know all of them, their good, their bad, and I wanted to accept them with my whole heart.
I wanted to know them, to understand them, to accept them, to like them, to love them.
And I wanted to show them that I knew them, that I understood them, that I accepted them, that I liked them, that I loved them.
I said to them both "I'd do anything for you" and I felt like I meant it.
I was thinking about this the other day and then I thought of something else.
"Would I do anything for me?"
How much of an effort do I make to make myself happy? How much of a priority is my own happiness when I'm in pain? How often do I show myself that I know and understand and accept and like and love myself?
Surely, if there's someone I'd do anything for, that someone has to be me?
I was speaking to a friend the other day, and this friend was telling me about how nice they'd been to people, how much they'd helped people, how important it was to help people when they needed help.
They never said anything about helping themselves. Everything was about other people.
It's nice to help people. Obviously. But how often do we want to help other people, stop them from being in pain, make them happy, and conveniently forget about ourselves?
If other people are worth our help and our acceptance and our love, then surely we're worth our own help and acceptance and love?
When will you give yourself your own help and acceptance and love?
I'll tell you when.
When you believe you deserve to.
How can you justify knowing that you'd do anything for someone else, but that you wouldn't do anything for you?
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