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On Anti-Bullying 'Day of Silence,' the Religious Right Cheers on the Bullies

Posted: 04/15/11 09:50 AM ET

Today, students across the country will take a vow of silence to protest anti-gay bullying and harassment in schools. The Day of Silence, an annual event organized by GLSEN (the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network), is meant to draw attention to the "silencing effects" of anti-gay harassment and name-calling in schools and to be a way for students to show their solidarity with students who have been bullied.

But all this silence has made the religious right very uncomfortable.

The American Family Association and the Liberty Council have called for boycotts of schools that allow students to participate in the Day of Silence. But the prominent anti-gay group Focus on the Family has gone even further, organizing a rival event -- the "Day of Dialogue" -- for students who want to tell their classmates "what the Bible really says about His redemptive design for marriage and sexuality." The organization is encouraging students to come to school on Monday armed with "conversation cards" and ready to talk about how they think being gay is wrong.

The "Day of Dialogue" is extraordinarily well marketed and designed to seem non-threatening -- participants pledge to "stand up for students around me being teased, bullied or harmed for any reason" -- but it takes its place firmly in the religious right's long and concerted effort to stop anti-bullying programs in schools.

In fact, the "Day of Dialogue," with its playful logo and friendly marketing materials, is a direct successor to the "Day of Truth," an event that was until last year run by Exodus International, an "ex-gay" group that organized the event to "counter the promotion of homosexual behavior" in schools. One of the Day of Dialogue's organizers is Jeff Johnston, an "ex-gay" activist, who says the event is meant to help "people who messed up sexually."

The religious right's campaign against anti-bullying programs, documented in a new report by People For the American Way, has been raging since school districts first started trying to recognize and confront anti-gay bullying. And it has since the beginning focused on the same set of myths.

In an absurd feat of fear-mongering, religious right activists like to claim that anti-bullying programs that acknowledge the widespread bullying of gay and gay-perceived teens, are in fact undercover "homosexual indoctrination." Candi Cushman, Focus on the Family's education analyst and the driving force behind the Day of Dialogue, calls anti-bullying programs "homosexuality lessons," and claims that anti-bullying advocates want to "capture the hearts and minds of our children at their earliest stages." The Family Research Council and the American Family Association have also gleefully peddled this myth.

These activists also often add that anti-bullying programs that include the recognition of anti-gay bullying amount to "special rights" for LGBT students, leading to what Cushman calls "reverse discrimination" against Christian students.

The anti-anti-bullying campaign also seeks to paint gay rights groups as the bullies and opponents of gay rights as the victims of bullying. A Family Research Council official said that bullying prevention efforts would force Christian students "in the closet." One of the leaders of the ultra-conservative Liberty Council called anti-bullying programs a "homo-fascist tactic to stifle any dissent."

And, in perhaps the cruelest part of the movement to protect bullies, religious right leaders have claimed that the gay rights movement, and young gay people themselves, are responsible for anti-gay harassment and the high suicide rate among gay youth. The Family Research Council's Tony Perkins wrote in the Washington Post that gay teens may be led to suicide because they "recognize intuitively that their same-sex attractions are abnormal." The American Family Association's Bryan Fischer suggested "adults that pressure these students to declare a disordered sexual preference when they are too young to know better...share some culpability for those who take their life."

The anti-anti-bullying effort shows the staggering extent of the religious right's campaign to prevent the recognition and acceptance of gay people in all parts of society -- and their desperation as more and more Americans, especially young people, want their gay friends and family members to enjoy equal rights. The Day of Dialogue's marketing is slick and its content carefully focus-grouped, but its true message is clear: as clock ticks on the religious right's anti-gay agenda, the Right's leaders know that intolerance, exclusion, and polarization can start at an early age, but they've "got to be carefully taught."

 

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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
08:44 PM on 04/20/2011
JeremiahA: "Your asking these two questions helps point to the problem. When a person, religious or secular, offer informatio­n, they are labeled bigots and homophobes."

Only when they cherry pick that information and misrepresent it in order to further their bigotry. Since you mentioned it elsewhere in this thread, I'll assume that by "dangers and risks", you mean HIV. Yes, gay men contract HIV at a higher rate than do heterosexuals. African Americans contract HIV at a rate higher than that of Caucasians. But whereas you use the rate of HIV infection among gay men to condemn us for who we are, you would never do that to African Americans as a group. Why? Because that kind of blanket condemnation of African Americans is *ridiculous*, as it also is when leveled against gay men. HIV is transmitted primarily by unprotected sex. But instead of encouraging gay men to have safe sex and/or enter into committed relationships (as you would with African Americans), you filter the facts through your dogmatic glasses and use them to attack us, simply because the alternative doesn't fit within your world view.

Speaking of cherry picking, it's interesting that you have said nothing about the fact that HIV transmission among lesbians is much *lower* than among heterosexuals. Will condemn heterosexuals for their sexuality, based on how "unhealthy" their behavior is compared to that of lesbians? Will you be giving heterosexuals the "full range of information and options, and not limiting the discussion"?
11:08 AM on 04/21/2011
The next time you feel like wasting your time writing about cherry-picking and bigotry when someone was actually simply asking a question for clarification...well, I would recommend that you move away from your computer, take some aspirin, and wait a few days before you respond.

I recommend Tylenol.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
12:22 PM on 04/21/2011
These are *your* words, from this thread.:

"And what do you mean by "perfectly healthy and normal"? The reason I ask is that these terms are often used in many different ways. When the CDC reported that homosexual­/bisexual men have an HIV rate 50 times of heterosexu­al men, there was an argument that homosexual­ity should be still regarded as "healthy" if a homosexual man is abstinent. Is that what you mean by "healthy"?”

You were not "simply asking a question for clarificat­ion".
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
12:32 PM on 04/21/2011
BTW, if you'd like additional examples of how you've used these very same CDC stats to condemn the gay community, they are merely a Google search away...
jane bond
a cure for pollution is a cure for cancers ETC.
06:16 PM on 04/19/2011
I wish this was about all bullied teens, we must not forget the straight young girl from Ireland who committed suicide after relentless bullying from jealous girls and some boys, teen suicide is a problem in both gay and straight youths...ALL teens are important minimizing bullying is never the answer, I was bullied as a teen by a lesbian she and 2 of her friends (straight friends) brought scissors to school and threatened to cut my hair off, teachers, guidance councelor told my Mom they would do it....I was eventually assaulted and left the school...this bullying happens across the board no group should be left out in the being made awareness...
jane bond
a cure for pollution is a cure for cancers ETC.
07:07 PM on 04/19/2011
BTW with my experience above, when those teens were ask by My Mother why they wished to do me harm they admited that I had never done anything to them they just hated that "I dressed like I just stepped out of vogue," (their words)... AND OFCOURSE THAT I WAS MORE FEMININE...it's a terrible thing for this to happen to a young person for any reason!!! it was terror for me walking those halls.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
01:21 PM on 04/19/2011
In other words, Christian conservatives want to be able to dish it out, but they don't want to have to take it.

Typical.
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devildog21
"War is a Racket" -Smedley D. Butler MajGen USMC
12:45 PM on 04/19/2011
When you base the premise of your argument on believing that being gay is a "choice", you already lose any and all credibility. The religious ideologues will never be able to understand this, so the idea that they would bring "dialogue cards" to school to defend an undefensible idea, is even more ridiculous than their premise.
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talkstocoyotes
10:13 AM on 04/27/2011
***When you base the premise of your argument on believing that being gay is a "choice", you already lose any and all credibilit­y.***

Remind them that religion is a choice too and ask them if, in that case, they support religious organizations having to pay taxes like everyone else. You won't get much of an answer, but it has a certain amount of entertainment value.
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Peguy
07:28 AM on 04/18/2011
These "Christians" have been so busy lobbing stones at the gay community that some day they will find themselves buried in those stones.
03:18 PM on 04/18/2011
Not fast enough.
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themightyabealrd
screw the real world-I'm an artist!
05:08 AM on 04/18/2011
Most members of the religious right haven't the intellectual capacity to understand the difference between tolerance and championing. The anti-bullying demo does not ask people to adopt a 'Gee, I think gay people are wonderful and I'm so happy they're here!' attitude. It simply posits the notion that accepting the many differences which exist is more sensible and productive than fighting the reality of a world where everyone is not the same. Again, such subtleties elude those whose minds are exceedingly rigid, narrow and fearful. The other day my grandson and I were in a thrift shop where a male employee was wearing a blouse, a skirt and high heels. This was, to a ten year old boy, a bewildering encounter. But I did my best to let him know that, whether we liked it or not, that young man was not breaking any laws and that it was not our place to judge his choices. I really don't like guys in dresses, but I don't feel so threatened by them that I feel obliged to bully or insult them. I tolerate them-it's not endorsement, it's recognition of their right to be who they are.
been2there
Facts have a liberal bias.
03:45 AM on 04/18/2011
Actually, the Bible says very little about marriage. The most notorious line is about women submitting to husbands--and, oddly enough the following line, which enjoins men to submit to their wives, and then for spouses to submit to each other, gets forgotten--but actually, very little is said about how a marriage should be. The Golden Rule, frequent injunctions to be living, kind, and generous--these things show up a lot. They work well in a marriage.
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talkstocoyotes
10:14 AM on 04/27/2011
***The most notorious line is about women submitting to husbands--­and, oddly enough the following line, which enjoins men to submit to their wives, and then for spouses to submit to each other, gets forgotten-­-but actually, very little is said about how a marriage should be.***

And even that might be a forgery.
mamalisa38
I love you Thomas and I miss you like crazy RIP
10:58 PM on 04/17/2011
I just can't imagine what it must be like to spend so much time thinking about other people's sex lives.

What is with these people? Get over it already and mind your own stinking business.
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Meghan Bee
05:21 AM on 04/18/2011
Most of the time, I assume they're so keen on preventing others from doing because they aren't getting any themselves, but that's just a theory.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
03:17 PM on 04/18/2011
Considering how many anti-gay conservative Christians have been caught in airport bathrooms, I'd say your theory has much merit.
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dustyoh
09:54 PM on 04/17/2011
This is just hateful, pure and simple. Didn't someone once say, "you will know them by their works."
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UnitedStatesOfTara
Maker of Music and Dreamer of Dreams
08:05 PM on 04/17/2011
As a child raised in a Christian home, I had two things drilled into my head- that God is Love, but he hates queers. The hypsocrisy and contradiction were obvious to me, even at that young age. Jesus, the man who was a champion of the voiceless, is now the poster boy for hate and supply-side economics. When I reject Christians' attempts to save me, it is not Christ that I reject- it is his followers.
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JustMyWords
10:59 PM on 04/17/2011
The problem isn't his followers - it's the people that claim to worship him. They may worship him, but there seem to be an awful lot of them that don't actually do the things he said to do.
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DianaLynn1967
It's a great life if you don't weaken!
08:29 AM on 04/18/2011
Or who only do the things that they were going to do anyway.
Jay Haney
My nuclear family imploded when I was 18. I've bee
05:28 PM on 04/17/2011
This one cuts like a knife for me. I am actually straight, but I got showered with a lot of the same epithets every gay kid knows by heart growing up. I also got bullied into Christianity by other students. I could never reconcile their talk of the wonders of being "saved" with the hell they made for me and others (on top of my living in an abusive home). I learned to hate them, a hatred that, more or less, has never gone away. To demean fellow human beings is to deny Christ with your actions.
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Doug Watt
Not ready for 2012
06:25 PM on 04/17/2011
Well said! I'm sorry that you had to experience that.
09:29 PM on 04/17/2011
I second.
12:31 PM on 04/17/2011
Considering the bible is a compilation of books written by nothing more than MEN, I don't take much from such a book as all they are are stories written a very long time ago.. last time I checked it was 2011. God put us here to love and nurture the Earth and her inhabitants. We've done our level best to destroy, pollute and hate.... mostly due to these "holy" books and man "kind" (and I use that term very very loosely). What ever.. when the great mother has had enough of us she will wipe us off of her planet and good riddance!
Jay Haney
My nuclear family imploded when I was 18. I've bee
05:30 PM on 04/17/2011
I would argue that the fact the human race is still here (with huge chunks of them being non-Christian) tells me we still have time, a chance, and a choice. At this point, I am grateful for the continued mercy.
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Soulmentor
"To thine own self be true...."
03:52 AM on 04/18/2011
....as the "religious" types rant on about it being God's wrath, when it will indeed be the wrath of the Goddess.
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Doug Watt
Not ready for 2012
01:44 AM on 04/17/2011
The wonderful thing about this all is that the Religious Right is helping to make the case for us with all their ridiculous posturing these days. The tables have turned to the point where we don't have to do much to explain how what they want to do to us is wrong.The majority of the public gets it now .
Jay Haney
My nuclear family imploded when I was 18. I've bee
05:32 PM on 04/17/2011
The flipside of that incredibly true analysis? So many people have had to pay prices for us to get to this point (see Matthew Shepard) and the Religious Right has managed to export this hatred to other places like Uganda.
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Doug Watt
Not ready for 2012
09:47 PM on 04/17/2011
Good point, Jay.
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Doug Watt
Not ready for 2012
06:19 PM on 04/17/2011
Loan posted this but was censored for no good reason: "That's the good thing. They just keep shooting themselves in the foot. As people find out that GLBT people harm no one whereas the anti-gay bigots are the ones holding elections to deny us rights, scream about homosexuality, etc., the more the tide will turn. You are right...most people get it now, thanks to the anti-gay jerks themselves. "

Yes, I agree completely.
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DianaLynn1967
It's a great life if you don't weaken!
08:32 AM on 04/18/2011
Loan got censored for that? Unbelievable!
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X-JerseyGuy
Bus.Owner/TaxPayer & a Thorn in the Right's side!
12:19 AM on 04/17/2011
This is exactly why I left the Catholic religion and the Republican party! All the time I spent reading the Bi-BULL I never learned the ha tred and Bi-gotry that these people display. Their own g*d they believe in would reject them and send them to He!!
Jay Haney
My nuclear family imploded when I was 18. I've bee
05:34 PM on 04/17/2011
They've already made their own hell, my friend. They just want the rest of us to suffer it with them.
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Meghan Bee
05:27 AM on 04/18/2011
Beautifully put.
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Tracy Fortune
Geek, mother, fair & compassionate ;^)
11:39 PM on 04/16/2011
Can't we change the "religious right" to the "religious WRONG"?

You know, like how the haters have inserted "gay marriage" vs. the truer "marriage EQUALITY"- which does not speak to gender?
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
08:24 AM on 04/17/2011
Wish I could fan you again, but will definitely fan you. "Religious Wrong" is a term I tend to use as well. I'm glad to see others not buying into the language of the oppressors.
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Alexodia
I support gay rights and breathable air.
11:18 AM on 04/17/2011
F&F