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A Father's Perspective on the Contraception War

Posted: 02/21/2012 12:50 pm

In recent weeks, the nation has talked more about contraception than at any other time during my 58 years of life. Many Republican office holders and outspoken Catholic bishops call the discussion one of religious liberty.

For me, it is a matter of whom I trust. As the father of two young adults, I trust them to make thoughtful moral choices about contraception and sexuality far more than I trust John Boehner, Rick Santorum, or the (all male) parade of Catholic bishops.

My wife and I worked hard to raise our kids -- one son and one daughter. Anyone who knows us will recall it was joyous but definitely not always easy. We made mistakes. They made mistakes. And now out of college, they are great young adults. They have jobs. Working hard to make a difference in the lives of others. Great friends. And they are thoughtful about relationships. We could not be more proud.

I am delighted that the struggles of generations that came before them have meant that contraception is available to them and their romantic partners.

Why would any a parent wish otherwise?

One of the best features of the health reform law now slowly being implemented is that private insurance is required to cover -- at no additional cost -- certain key items of preventive health care. My company and hundreds of thousands of our activists -- advocated for the inclusion of contraception, and we were pleased when the Secretary of Health and Human Services agreed.

We fought to limit the number of employers and employees who would be discriminated against under a religious employer exemption, and were pleased when the Obama administration stuck to the principle of universal coverage. For there are literally hundreds of thousands of employees of many faiths and of no faiths who work in religious organizations.

But the Catholic bishops are not satisfied. They do not trust the employees of their own religious organizations to make faithful decisions. They would not trust my son or my daughter or their partners or friends. They want to make these decisions for them.

And now much of the Republican leadership -- such as Speaker John Boehner, Senate Minority Leader McConnell, and presidential candidates -- have taken up the challenge, and support legislation that would allow ANY organization to disallow coverage of any medical procedure or service that it asserts causes it moral qualms.

That is, Boehner, McConnell and their kin want to empower the largely male leadership of corporate America to join with the entirely male power structure of the Catholic hierarchy to decide whether contraception -- and much more -- is an available choice for the young adults of the country.

Why would I possibly trust these men to make responsible choices for my young adult children? Do they know them? Do they share their values?

While I am utterly appalled at the rhetoric spewing from the mouths of these mistrustful, power-hungry men, I am not surprised. These same men have opposed contraception for decades. Among the Supreme Court rulings they hope to eventually reverse is the pivotal case of Griswold vs. Connecticut, in which the Supreme Court ruled that a state could not outlaw the use of contraception, as Connecticut then did.

Who doubts that much of the Republican right long for the ability to outlaw contraception as part of its social agenda? Thousands of people have petitioned presidential candidate Romney to answer the question of whether he supports Griswold vs. Connecticut. Total silence has been the answer.

Much has been made of the right-wing assault on women, with attacks on reproductive rights, contraception and the very definition of rape. And there surely is such an assault.

But this assault is not solely on women, as all people -- single people, men and women, married people, socially active people, and parents -- have a fundamental interest in putting the decisions about the availability of contraception in the hands of those who make sexual choices, rather than the powerful men who seek to control them.

I say to Boehner, McConnell, the bishops, and all those who seek to control the young adults of our country, you have not earned my trust. My kids have. Back off and let them decide.

 
In recent weeks, the nation has talked more about contraception than at any other time during my 58 years of life. Many Republican office holders and outspoken Catholic bishops call the discussion one...
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SecularAdvocate
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03:50 PM on 04/13/2012
America - get yourself a national health service, then you won't have to listen to any employer bleat about what healthcare the government is forcing them to provide.

America's problem is a lack of imagination about how healthcare should be provided.

You're in a circle of "it's part of the employment package, so the views of the employer are relevant".

Get over yourselves. Employers should pay their employees for the services they supply. From their pay the employees should pay into a national insurance fund, the proceeds of which are allocated by government, which is, and it's weird how Americans need reminding of this - "of the people, by the people and for the people".
02:59 PM on 04/13/2012
If a religious-affiliated employer knows their employee will use part of their earnings to pay for contraception, can they stop paying them?
10:47 AM on 03/16/2012
Also Mr. Kieshnick talks about "ugly rhetoric" as if it only comes from those opposed to the hhs mandate. In fact some of the ugliest rhetoric has come from an article in the Huffington Post which refers to Catholicism as "barbaric". Of course that is okay for the mainstream media, yet they whine and cry about Rush Limbaugh.
10:43 AM on 03/16/2012
What Kieschnick fails to understand is that this is about religious liberty not contraception. And it is rather telling that he frequently refers to the republicans as "men", corporate leaders as "mostly male" and the Catholic bishops as "all male": Kieschnick and others who have bought into the huff'n'puff of radical feminism-infected with marxism (which seems to be the dominant philosophy behind the huffn'puff post) seem to have this crazy conspiracy theory about men being out to control women.

Kieschnick rather foolishly accuses the bishops of wanting to "control the young people of our country". The bishops do not want that, they want to be able to run their own Catholic institutions, like schools, charities, and hospital, without undue government interference (in this case requiring them to pay for insurance-plans that violate their beliefs). It is not the bishops who are being controlling, it is Obama that is being controlling and overbearing.

Also Kieschnick makes it look like this is a partisan issue lead by republicans. In reality many prominent Democrats including Vice President Biden, Tim Kaine, Joe Lieberman, Bob Casey, Joe Manchin and Ben Nelson have come out against this mandate.
10:10 PM on 02/25/2012
Why is the government telling companies/religious organizations to provide birth control in the first place? Where do they get that power? Libs, please enlighten me.

What about those that don't use birth control that the gov't mandates? Do they get that money instead?

I thought health insurance was for unexpected, catastrophic circumstances. Since when does birth control fit into that category? Car insurance is for accidents, Home insurance is for fires, floods, etc.
But health insurance is for....birth control? Does the person who engages in sex NOT responsible for his/her CHOICE to engage in the act? I feel this is another "freebie" the Dems are giving away to get elected.
10:01 AM on 03/04/2012
Those who pay for prescription drug insurance expect all drugs to be covered. That is what they paid for what they signed up for. The insurer makes a profit from the premium and should be required to deliver the complete product. Car insurance is sold to make the offended party whole, you pay extra to be made whole for your own stupidity. You expect the insurer to deliver on that contract. The religious beliefs of the corporation should not dictate the religious beliefs of the employee. Especially when that corporation has slick procedures in place to bypass that religious belief in other area. Example, allowing a doctor to resign from the Catholic hospital long enough to perform or prescribe a forbidden treatment then happily welcoming him back into the fold once the deed is done. Accept and widely used practice totally approved by Catholic leaders. It's not a freebie, it giving the person what was bought and paid for with the insurance premium.
09:25 PM on 03/04/2012
If you pay for prescription drug coverage, then, yes, you should get what is covered in the agreement between you and the insurance company for whatever the doctor deems medically necessary. Health insurance exist to cover the cost of medical treatments.
The religious beliefs of the corporation does NOT dictate the religious beliefs (or lack thereof) of the employee. The employee is free to get contraception on their own.
In the 25 years I have been in medicine, I have not seen this “slick procedures†you talk of. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen but, if it does, it is very, very rare.
You are right, it is not a freebie. Currently, most insurance premiums are priced without non-medically necessary contraception. Were it to be so, you would bear the cost of the mandated contraception in the form of increased insurance premiums. Are you willing to pay for college students having sex? If it is stated that your premium covers contraception in this manner, then go at it!!
Profit=earned premium+investment income-incurred loss-underwriting expenses.
Federally mandated contraception coverage for college students at $3000/year would be incurred loss. The company will increase premiums to compensate.
Finally, you haven’t stated where the Federal Gov’t gets its power to mandate this coverage.
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knocklindquist
I still like the term compassionate conservative
08:21 PM on 03/07/2012
1. Why would anyone with insurance expect "all drugs to be covered"? That is not true under any insurance program. None. There are plenty of drugs that aren't covered. And many many variations in levels of coverage between different drugs.

2. In no way does the religious beliefs of the employer (most employers are not 'corporations') dictate the religious beliefs of the employee simply because the employer doesn't choose to pay for certain items or activities.

3. Granting your argument...why should the religious beliefs of the govt dictate the religious beliefs of its citizens?
02:30 PM on 03/04/2012
If health insurance is for "unexpected, catastrophic circumstances" as you say, then you must be against well-baby visits, health check-ups, mammograms, PSA tests for men, vaccinations, pre-natal care, and other preventative medicine. Birth control is preventative medicine. And no, those who do not use birth control don't get any extra money any more than those who don't use prenatal care because they're male or not of childbearing age. Nice logic there buddy...
10:12 PM on 03/04/2012
Insurance is defined as “coverage by contract whereby one party undertakes to indemnify or guarantee another against loss by a specified contingency or peril†(Merriam-Webster). Originally, insurance was to guard against unexpected, catastrophic circumstances as evinced by my prior examples. Health insurance now exists to cover the cost of medical treatments. As such, your examples are indeed for medical care, so it follows that they are covered. I have no problem with this as this promotes health. Please explain what medical disease is being prevented by birth control? Again, where is the personal responsibility? When I was younger/poorer, I paid for my own contraception. If I could I could not afford it, I looked for less expensive contraception. Worst case scenario, I didn’t have sex. Never did I expect others to pay for it. Finally, you still haven’t explained where does the Federal Gov’t gets the power to mandate private insurance companies to provide contraception?
10:53 AM on 03/16/2012
Contraceptives do not prevent disease and they do not guarantee you will not get PG. It is not a health issue, unless a doctor prescribes it for health reasons. If this is so, most Insurance plans would cover that cost. If you consider abortion to be a contraceptive, we have a different argument. You lays you pays
05:00 PM on 02/22/2012
They're NOT saying that women can't make the decisions for themselves, what the religious organizations are saying is not to expect them to provide contraceptions and abortion when it goes against the creed of the church. If the employees don't like it, they don't have to work there. Anyone is free to buy contraception. But don't expect religious-based organizations to provide it. Go somewhere else to get it.
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01:41 PM on 02/23/2012
They're businesses in this case, not churches.
10:44 AM on 03/16/2012
No they aren't. They are schools, charities and hospitals.
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knocklindquist
I still like the term compassionate conservative
08:22 PM on 03/07/2012
I know, I know...where are these people getting their misinformation?

NOBODY is saying they can't get contraceptives. NOBODY.
01:13 PM on 04/13/2012
If employees of catholic universities use their earnings to buy contraceptives, should the employer be permitted to stop paying them?
03:12 PM on 02/22/2012
Although I'm sure these men have this agenda, and that their supporters expect them to follow through, these emotional "values" wedge issues are nothing but tools for the rich and powerful to hook in voters while they pick their pockets and clean out the Treasury.
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Kingpleasure
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02:15 PM on 02/22/2012
Article quote:" Put the decisions about the availability of contraception in the hands of those who make sexual choices, rather than the powerful men who seek to control them.

Yes indeed!
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12:56 PM on 02/22/2012
As usual, the Republican right continues to astound. As the party of smaller government (though it grows significantly larger under Republican Presidents), they want to eliminate Social Security, Medicare, federal funding for local schools and a host of other social programs. At the same time, they insist on the right to invade the bedrooms of the United States, to control how women treat their bodies, and in what ways.

Incredible is not strong enough to describe the anomalies in all that.
11:55 AM on 02/22/2012
As a father of two young adult daughters, I wholeheartedly agree with your blog. I trust them to make better decisions for themselves than these guys.
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knocklindquist
I still like the term compassionate conservative
08:24 PM on 03/07/2012
Fortunately, none of "these guys" is trying to take any decision-making away from anybody's daughters. They simply don't want the govt to force their religious organizations to pay for those decisions that they are morally opposed to. That's it. Everyone is still free to make whatever decision they want. You wanna use contraception??? Go for it. You want an abortion?? Knock yourself out. Have 2 or 3. Just don't make the Catholic Church pay for them. That's it.
11:22 AM on 03/16/2012
Amen
07:56 PM on 03/31/2012
Fine the Catholic church doesn't pay for contraceptives and they can then lose all federal funding. Why should I pay for benefits for an organization whose religious beliefs don't line up with my own?
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alphakat333
11:43 AM on 02/22/2012
Bravo. An excellent piece. Most people have a similar perspective, however, those within the Repub=Religion camp seem incapable of moving beyond their echo chamber.
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knocklindquist
I still like the term compassionate conservative
08:27 PM on 03/07/2012
This piece is an excellent argument against a "straw man"...that is, a fabricated position that is easy to destroy.

You see...no one in the republican or religious camp is talking about limiting contraception. Nobody. Not one. Not any of the republican candidates for President. Not any of the current republican House or Senate members. Not any of the Catholic bishops. Not one.

Where is this strange argument coming from???
10:24 PM on 03/19/2012
No, but its ok for them to redefine rape so women cant get treatment for it, and make it legal to let women die instead of terminating a pregnancy, or make it illegal to abort a dead fetus even if it kills the mother to continue carrying it, or make it illegal for them to have a miscarriage and if they do investigate them and charge them with murder. No they aren't trying to control women's reproductive rights AT ALL. OH NO, they just want the government to allow them to force their religious beliefs on everyone LEGALLY. Im sorry but a brainless zygote in not more important than a 26 year old woman.
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CenaW
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10:49 AM on 02/22/2012
Looks like it is time to open the discussions about recinding religious tax exemptions.
They are becoming political organizations and should be subject to all the tax laws and all the civil laws every organization is.
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IsotelusMaximus
Resist we much.
11:41 AM on 02/22/2012
At least they do some good within the community such as hospitals and such. It's the non-profits that do nothing but try to influence legislation that we need to snuff out.
07:53 PM on 02/22/2012
The argument that a religious person or group cannot vocalize what they would prefer is against american jurisprudence, and is a distortion of the concept of separation of church and state. You are denying their right to participate in their government because of their religious orientation. that is un-American. it actually is about protecting religion from the government rather than the other way around; pick up a book over the subject, or at least read the supreme court's explanation of separation of church and state.
07:59 PM on 03/31/2012
They can vocalize all that they choose, however, they should not be able to deny medical services or medications that are lawful because it goes against their religious beliefs. If you want federal tax dollars then abide by federal decisions.
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CenaW
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10:47 AM on 02/22/2012
I am disturbed that the Republicans are naming this a Democratic war against religion when it is a law to protect people from religious beliefs, beliefs that are particularly harsh to women and children.
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alphakat333
11:44 AM on 02/22/2012
It's just their lame and baseless attempt to reframe the debate in a way that benefits them politically. The only ones dumb enough to buy it are their own rabid base.
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knocklindquist
I still like the term compassionate conservative
08:34 PM on 03/07/2012
Your interpretation of the situation is probably misinformed.

Are you aware that the President promised the Bishops in 2008 to exempt the Catholic Church from having to pay for contraceptives?

Are you aware that the President promised that again in December 2011?

Are you aware that women are completely free to purchase and use any contraceptive they want? Or to get any insurance plan that covers it? And that any Catholic can use it if they choose?

The Church only wants to maintain their religious freedom to 'not participate' in its use or promotion. Again...this was a position the President claimed to agree with even two months ago.
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Fit2betied
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10:42 AM on 02/22/2012
I don't trust John Boehner, Mitch McConnell, Rick Santorun, Mitt Romney or most Republicans in Washington to make any decisions regarding what is best for me or my family. As far as reproductive rights go government has no business intruding into this issue at all..

These politicians can't even govern as it is and now they want to intrude into our bedrooms? I don't think so. They want smaller government and to control reproductive issues too? This is a clear case of hypocrisy.

Republicans are completely out of touch with American society in 2012.
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knocklindquist
I still like the term compassionate conservative
08:37 PM on 03/07/2012
This is the weirdest thing I've ever heard. Seriously.

Do you understand that no one in the Republican party or any Catholic leader is talking about limiting contraception? Where have you heard that they are?

Not one republican candidate for President -- not one current republican House or Senate members -- not even one Catholic bishops -- NOT ONE -- is trying to make a single decision about reproductive rights. Not one.

The only only only only issue on the table is whether the executive branch of the federal govt can unilaterally force a religious organization to PAY for contraceptions when they have stood against it for thousands of years. That's it.

Where is this strange argument coming from???
09:53 AM on 02/22/2012
For the sake of argument, suppose the govt mandated that every woman in the US be given access to a gun, regardless of income, education or mental stability. Taxpayers and religious institutions would be required, by law, to provide funding for these guns. See a problem with this?

The rationalization. Well, many women are potential victims of rape and incest. They would benefit greatly from owning a gun, using it for self-defense. These firearms could also be used for population control. Population sustainability is a growing national concern for everyone. In addition, every woman has a right earn as much money as a man. So, if children get in the way, pop. Problem solved.

So you see, to millions of people, there really is no difference between abortion drugs/services and a gun. Both are vehicles by which to destroy life. Ironically, a gun can be considered less destructive as it is more often used to feed a family(life sustaining) or for entertainment purposes.(Target shooting).
*cont'd*

When was the last time you watched a sharp shooter abortion competition?

Forget trying to convince decent, God fearing people that govt mandated, taxpayer funded, abortion drugs and services are moral. You may see it as a "woman's right", but they view it as absolutley sociopathic.
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wisdomteeth
free thinking is better than paying for it
10:23 AM on 02/22/2012
You erroneously conflate contraception with abortion and then try to compare abortion/contraception with gun ownership, which is like comparing apples with furniture.
10:57 AM on 02/22/2012
Look. I'm not here to argue over the morality of the issue. I'm just the messenger.

What would you like do to people who refuse to comply with these mandates? Lock them up? Take their homes? Confiscate their bank accounts? Eliminate them? To those of faith, these mandates are immoral and sociopathic. What part of that do you not understand? Many are willing die for their convictions.

I want no part of this. None.
12:00 PM on 02/22/2012
Many believe that life begins at conception(fertilization). So, comparing abortion drugs to contraception drugs is like comparing poison to a safety helmet.
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CenaW
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10:48 AM on 02/22/2012
Another false analogy from a conservative, really can't your think tanks do better than hand out bad arguments.
12:52 PM on 02/22/2012
Actually, I am a Libertarian. I would not mind at all if you chose to sterilize yourself. In fact, I would happily make a donation to help pay for it.

That said, I stand with those who will not allow govt to trample on their basic and fundamental religious rights.