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Why Peeta And Katniss From 'The Hunger Games' Should Get Engaged

Posted: 03/26/2012 7:32 pm

Unless you are living under a rock, you have likely read "The Hunger Games," seen the movie, or at least heard of one of the two. "The Hunger Games" is a great story that focuses on surviving, but like any good story out there, it also focuses on love. As a Proposal Planner, I interview hundreds of men in my profession and I ask them why they feel that their relationship and the person they're with is the one. Despite how different each relationship is, nearly all men mention six things. And I saw these six things with Peeta and Katniss.

Overcame Adversity

Nearly all men that I work with mention some kind of adversity that he and his partner have overcome. Adversity brings people together. It creates a bond that no one else can understand. It is fair to say that Katniss and Peeta have shared more adversity than anyone will in their life. They fought as a team to keep each other alive, and that is a bond that cannot be broken.

Trust

As in real relationships, Katniss did not fully trust Peeta. She didn't know him well, and they had some unique circumstances to face. But over time, Katniss learned to trust Peeta and open herself up to him. Each man that I help to propose mentions a high degree of trust that he has with his partner. Trust is the foundation on which to build a relationship, and it is a critical thing to look for in a lifelong partner.

Patience and Understanding

Every relationship that survives requires patience and understanding. In any relationship, you can't jump to conclusions about your partner's intentions. You have to seek first to understand and then be understood. During my initial proposal planning interview with the client, men normally mention how patient and/or understanding their partner are. Katniss and Peeta will go the distance in these traits. You see, all throughout the movie Katniss felt betrayed by Peeta. He blindsided her by asking to not be trained with her, he joined the alliance that was trying to kill her, and he did a lot of things that Katniss thought were just ultimate acts of betrayal. But with patience and understanding, it became clear those acts that seemed like betrayal were actually Peeta's clever antics to keep Katniss alive.

Loyalty

Loyalty is always present in the relationships of couples I help plan proposal for. My clients constantly talk about how they know their partner would always be there for them and have their back. It is obvious that Peeta and Katniss know a thing or two about loyalty. They both cared for each other when they were sick or injured, they both had each other's back during the Hunger Games, and at the end of the movie. .. well I won't spoil it if you haven't seen it, but it became obvious that they would even die for each other if necessary.

Be a Better Person

Approximately 99 percent of my clients say that their partners make them want to be a better person. I almost feel like that is the "secret sauce" to a relationship: when you find someone that makes you want to be the best human being you can be. I think Peeta and Katniss do that for each other. They both pushed each other to fight and to be the best competitors they could be. They both pushed each other to help each other find out what they were made of, to dig deep, and to keep pushing.

Forgiveness

The last and final thing that I sense when I interview clients is the ability to forgive. And let's face it, we all know how important that is in a relationship. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. Katniss was able to forgive Peeta for what she thought was betrayal, put it behind her, and help nurse him to health and to victory.

Though Katnis and Peeta are fictional characters, the characteristics of their relationship that were displayed are the fundamental elements necessary for a lasting bond. These six traits make such a strong relationship and connection that, together, they all cannot be ignored and they will go a long way.

Michele is a Marriage Proposal Planner. She owns The Heart Bandits and has been featured in the NY Times, Globe & Mail, Daily Mail, Fox News, Houston Chronicle, and Orange County Register. Contact The Heart Bandits to have them plan your romantic date or marriage proposal. For more information about The Heart Bandits, visit www.theheartbandits.com

 
Unless you are living under a rock, you have likely read "The Hunger Games," seen the movie, or at least heard of one of the two. "The Hunger Games" is a great story that focuses on surviving, but lik...
Unless you are living under a rock, you have likely read "The Hunger Games," seen the movie, or at least heard of one of the two. "The Hunger Games" is a great story that focuses on surviving, but lik...
 
 
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10:49 AM on 03/31/2012
Um, clearly you have not read the books.
Katniss and Peeta do get engaged. But for the wrong reasons.
10:11 AM on 03/30/2012
Can we also talk about how those two actors had liek, zero chemistry. I don't want them to get married!
10:45 PM on 03/28/2012
Please read the books before you post something about this...
Thank you(:
09:04 AM on 03/28/2012
Ummm, I hate to spoil anything here, but they were kinda married by the end of the series... Kids and all.

Peeta: "You love me, real or not real?"
Katniss: "Real."
08:30 AM on 03/28/2012
I have only one thing to say..

"You love me, true or not true?"

"True"
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08:16 AM on 03/28/2012
Except their "engagement" in the subsequent books, which you obviously haven't read, is nothing but a publicity stunt she is forced into by President Snow. You see, the victors of the games never get their lives back. Their loved ones are murdered, they are sold as sex slaves--their entire lives are spent as pawns of The Capitol. President Snow forces the engagement to show that he has complete power over her by using something as personal and intimate as her marriage, and will take that a step further into making any future children she has fight in the games. That knowledge is mulled over many times in the first two books and helps set her mindset of rebellion. She doesn't come to love Peeta in a truly romantic manner until the end of the 2nd book and into the third book. The end of the first book and through much of the second, what few thoughts she gives to romance center around Gale.
07:59 AM on 03/28/2012
Movies never match the books - my belief is that the books are always better. As far as who - lets be real - we need a love triangle to keep the movie going so unless the book series kills that off in book two, it's too soon to talk about.
I do believe this Hunger games movie series will be succesful and I have done a review: yuthink.blogspot.com .
My favorite part of the movie: when my son leans over to me and says: "Now they are all dead because she has all those arrows." Uhm... ok son..... Lol
11:28 PM on 03/27/2012
Two particularly telling problems with this article:
1. At the end of the first book (I haven't seen the movie yet), Katniss has absolutely no romantic interest in Peeta. She stays with him publicly because, if she doesn't, the Capitol will eviscerate her, Peeta, and both of their families.
2. SPOILER ALERT: At the end of Mockingjay, after she's chosen Peeta over Gale, she votes to hold one more Hunger Games with the children in the Capitol, which, to be fair, Peeta was against. However, Peeta represents, to Katniss, hating the Capitol. Gale, to Katniss, represents making a better, more peaceful world. Her choice of Peeta and resultant vote for more horrifically murdered children seems to me to make it hard to spin Peeta making Katniss a better person.
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03:44 AM on 03/28/2012
She only voted for it to let Coin's guard's down so she could kill her. It was entirely Coin's idea and Katniss knew that if she didn't vote for it, Coin would know that Katniss wasn't on her side. There were no further Hunger Games.
08:08 AM on 03/28/2012
I think you flipped the two. Peeta is the one that represents making the world better, while Gale is the one that represents a hatred of the Capitol.
06:37 PM on 03/27/2012
Using only the movie as the foundation of my comment, I have to say is the ending said more than what you took out of it. There was something different in Katniss as she clearly became a different person and her relationship with Peeta was something that was created solely in adversity. I do not think that, if the movie were to continue, their relationship would have a future.
03:00 PM on 03/27/2012
Perhaps you should read Mockingjay...
01:05 PM on 03/27/2012
Wow you need to read the books first!