1. Bend down to talk to me. Just an FYI I'm not a child, there's no need to crouch down and talk to me like I am one like the gentleman below... 2. Talk to the person I'm with instead of me. Just because I'm in a wheelchair doesn't mean that I can't hold a regular conversation.
Young adult challenging the preconceptions that I am faced with due to the fact that I am a wheelchair user.
This post was published on the now-closed HuffPost Contributor platform. Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, send us an email.
Hello everyone! 🙋 I recently watched the short videos that Scope and Channel 4 did about some of the things that you really shouldn't do when you are talking to someone with a disability. It inspired me to do this blog of my top 10 things to not do when you are around someone in a wheelchair.
1. Bend down to talk to me.
Just an FYI I'm not a child, there's no need to crouch down and talk to me like I am one like the gentleman below...
2. Talk to the person I'm with instead of me
Just because I'm in a wheelchair doesn't mean that I can't hold a regular conversation or make my own decisions. It's cool though, I'll just sit here while you ask my mum if I want sugar in my tea...
Advertisement
3. Jump out of my way as if I have no control over where I'm going or whether I'm about to drive into you or not.
Honestly, I am in control of this wheelchair and I promise I wasn't about to ram into your ankles. Although after that completely over the top reaction I'm now quite tempted...
Advertisement
4. Give me dirty looks when I pull into disabled spaces
Just because I'm in my early 20s doesn't mean that it's not possible for me to actually need to park in a disabled space. The joy I get when I see their face as I pull my wheelchair out of my car. Yeah, see...
5. Point me out to your children
This is one that my mum noticed more than I did. When kids look at me because they are genuinely curious I don't actually mind. But if it's parents pointing me out...that's not ok guys.
Advertisement
6. Talk to me like I'm deaf
It's my leg that's the problem. My ears are fine.
7. Take picture of me when I'm sat on the tube
This is an actual true story. I was sat on the tube and some woman took a picture and forgot to turn her flash off. Maybe she was taking a picture of other people or the floor of the carriage. But I'm not convinced, her shiftiness after the whole incident was just too odd. Being chased by the paparazzi before I'm even famous...
8. Try and guess what my condition is or why I'm in a wheelchair.
It's estimated that my condition affects one in 20,000 people. I can pretty much guarantee that you won't guess. Oh...you're still gonna try? Oh ok...
9. Ask me "what I did I do to myself?"
Unless we're counting a genetic mutation that happened in the womb I didn't "do anything to myself". Just because I'm in a wheelchair at the age of 21 that doesn't mean that I've broken my leg.
10. "My brother's friend's cousin is in a wheelchair. Do you know them?"
Seriously. That doesn't even warrant an answer.
Also on HuffPost:
Child In A Wheelchair? You Might Relate To These
Support HuffPost
Our 2024 Coverage Needs You
Your Loyalty Means The World To Us
At HuffPost, we believe that everyone needs high-quality journalism, but we understand that not everyone can afford to pay for expensive news subscriptions. That is why we are committed to providing deeply reported, carefully fact-checked news that is freely accessible to everyone.
Whether you come to HuffPost for updates on the 2024 presidential race, hard-hitting investigations into critical issues facing our country today, or trending stories that make you laugh, we appreciate you. The truth is, news costs money to produce, and we are proud that we have never put our stories behind an expensive paywall.
As Americans head to the polls in 2024, the very future of our country is at stake. At HuffPost, we believe that a free press is critical to creating well-informed voters. That's why our journalism is free for everyone, even though other newsrooms retreat behind expensive paywalls.
Our journalists will continue to cover the twists and turns during this historic presidential election. With your help, we'll bring you hard-hitting investigations, well-researched analysis and timely takes you can't find elsewhere. Reporting in this current political climate is a responsibility we do not take lightly, and we thank you for your support.
Thank you for your past contribution to HuffPost. We are sincerely grateful for readers like you who help us ensure that we can keep our journalism free for everyone.
The stakes are high this year, and our 2024 coverage could use continued support. Would you consider becoming a regular HuffPost contributor?
Dear HuffPost Reader
Thank you for your past contribution to HuffPost. We are sincerely grateful for readers like you who help us ensure that we can keep our journalism free for everyone.
The stakes are high this year, and our 2024 coverage could use continued support. If circumstances have changed since you last contributed, we hope you’ll consider contributing to HuffPost once more.