10/11/2013 11:56 am ET Updated Dec 11, 2013

Stop the 'Little Voice' in Your Head

If you are like most people, you often hear a "little voice" in your head judging and criticizing you: "What makes you think you can do that?" "You screwed up again." "It must have been my fault." And on and on.

Where does this voice come from, and how can we turn it off?

What is the little voice?

The voice is nothing more than the meaning you are giving something you did or didn't do. For example, you say something at a party and on the way home you give your comment the meaning: I said something stupid and people were probably laughing behind my back. Or you decide to do something you've never done before and you give that decision the meaning: I can't possibly succeed at that.

In other words, you judge and evaluate yourself and the little voice in your head is just you "hearing" that judgment and evaluation.

The judgment and evaluation itself is you giving meaning to an event that has no inherent meaning. I've written on many occasions how we automatically and unconsciously give meaning to all types of events all day long. (See, for instance, The little voice in our head is the result of that meaning-making process.

How to stop the little voice

Because it is possible to stop giving meaning to events, it is possible to stop judging and evaluating ourselves, thereby stopping the little voice in our head.

Here's all you have to do. Whenever you catch yourself judging yourself, notice that there was some type of external event or internal thought that you judged. Notice that the judgment is something you added to the event or the thought.

Once you make a clear distinction between the event/thought and the meaning you added, the meaning will dissolve. Well over a thousand people already have successfully dissolved meaning this way.

There is no reason to continue to live plagued by a little voice that is constantly undercutting you and making you feel bad. Don't wait any longer. Start right now dissolving meaning and notice how the little voice suddenly gets quiet.

Thanks for reading my blog. Please post your questions or comments about how the meaning we give events creates the little voice in your head, and how to stop that little voice. Your comments will add value for thousands of readers. I read them all and respond to as many as I can.

Morty Lefkoe is the creator of The Lefkoe Method, a series of processes that improve the quality of people's lives. One revolutionary process, the Lefkoe Belief Process, permanently eliminates limiting beliefs. To actually try that process, go to

Copyright © 2013 Morty Lefkoe

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