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Nancy Doyle Palmer

Nancy Doyle Palmer

Posted: February 28, 2011 11:11 AM

As anyone with any experience with an addict will tell you -- it's time to stop listening to Charlie Sheen. As each network eagerly hawks their exclusive with this terribly ill man, it's time to turn off the cameras and let people who care about him to try to help him. And to stop enabling, empowering and encouraging his downward spiral.

In most cases someone spewing the delusional, grandiose and revenge-fueled pushback of what can only be called a cornered man would be talking this way to the Starbucks barista, the clerk at CVS, the ER nurse or the last person on his cell phone list of favorites who will take his calls. Charlie Sheen's rantings, however, still make headlines. But it's the same sad story -- the last gasps of someone who has let go of every rope, lost every friend and played out every last favor -- the desperate anger of a lost soul with only one choice left. Stop taking drugs or die.

It's horrible to watch anyone go through the very predictable levels of dependency and its consequences, which, trust me, are the same with every addict -- but unfortunately Charlie Sheen makes a boatload of money with a TV show that seems to mimic his "winning formula" of bravado and self-denial. So he thinks he's powerful, invincible and wronged. We've heard it all before -- go to any Al-anon meeting if you don't believe me.

Charlie Sheen needs our sympathy and our best wishes, but he does not deserve to be heard anymore. Please stop giving him a platform and a microphone. He is not well, and it's the cruelest kind of exploitation.

 

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As anyone with any experience with an addict will tell you -- it's time to stop listening to Charlie Sheen. As each network eagerly hawks their exclusive with this terribly ill man, it's time to turn ...
As anyone with any experience with an addict will tell you -- it's time to stop listening to Charlie Sheen. As each network eagerly hawks their exclusive with this terribly ill man, it's time to turn ...
 
 
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06:58 PM on 03/02/2011
I could not agree more with Ms. Palmer's most recent column on Charlie Sheen. It displays a keen sense of wisdom, empathy and dignity in contrast to the general media's constant dawdling with their sick and disgusting attraction to drug addiction behavoirs. Meanwhile, there is a plethora of other developing news stories receiving scant attention. Let's move in a different direction that will enable both the Sheens and our media to reflect a far more positive perspective.
07:34 PM on 03/01/2011
Thank you for your post. Especially sad that the media did not find time and resources to go to Wisconsin this weekend and cover the situation there. Sending strength to anyone who is dealing with addiction or mental illness and their families and community. It is a hard walk from the depth of pain to health. May Sheen and others choose to live.
03:33 PM on 03/01/2011
thank you
02:38 PM on 03/01/2011
I totally agree, people need to stop enabling him. Apparently he is testing "clean" and that very well may be true but that does not mean he is "sober", making wise decisions, or emotionally well. Hearing him and seeing him in these interviews is truly tragic, I will no longer read or watch any of his interviews as they are truly disturbing and exploitative. Hopefully he will find recovery in some form and begin living a life free of addiction in all it's manifestations. Arguably one of the hardest steps to take is ceasing the drug use but it is only half the battle toward freedom from active addiction. However he finds recovery and through whatever means he feels works for him he needs to start being honest with himself though that may be a tall order considering the legions of sycophants he surrounds himself with and the public's rabid appetite for celebrity train wrecks...I hope he finds the help and strength he needs.
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Jazmo
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12:42 PM on 03/01/2011
This is refreshing, coming from a journalist. I can't watch it anymore, I can't imagine how much pain his family is in and it's just exhausting to try to keep up with him. Stop giving him a platform for his ravings. I don't want to say he's beyond help, but he's certainly not interested in helping himself. And if it's true that this is sober-Charlie we are seeing now, that's even more frightening.
Norm
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10:14 AM on 03/01/2011
This man has been tested and is evidently off drugs, but anyone who has seen him (and he is hard to avoid) knows something is very wrong. He reminds me of a bipolar relative. Watching him is painful and watching people dissemble seems to be the latest American blood sport. People should write the networks to ask them to quit airing this stuff. Their preoccupation is simply disgusting.
09:44 AM on 03/01/2011
Totally agree with your post. It is not nice the keep showing how this dude is so mentally disturbed.
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Bridgette Angelos
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06:16 AM on 03/01/2011
I watched once and don't need to see anymore. I believe because Charlie is so anti AA, something about the program hit home so I will pray he finds his bottom and will continue to feel utmost empathy but not sympathy.
02:44 PM on 03/01/2011
I would have to agree with your assessment on his Anti AA philosophy. Thankfully the seed has been planted, he may not be ready for a program, yet, but the program will be ready for him when he is...I like that about empathy as a opposed to sympathy because that is truly what still suffering addicts need, someone to relate. Hopefully he will start seeing the similarities and not the difference.
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Bridgette Angelos
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03:03 PM on 03/01/2011
dishiatd, I agree, I too believe the seed has been planted which explains his behaviour and attitude towards the program and am a firm believer in empathy when it comes to any kind of addiction, sympathy merely gave me a green light to continue my destructive behaviour and one more emotion I could milk till the cows came home! Awesome to talk to you......and will gladly be your third fan!
03:56 AM on 03/01/2011
Very well said ms Palmer. You expressed my sentiments exactly. It's a really horrible sight and we have to stop watching
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02:54 AM on 03/01/2011
As long as he brings in ratings (which he will), the media will not turn their back on him. It's like when Michael Jackson died or anytime Lady Gaga does something stupid...it may not be news in the strictest sense, but people will watch. Media outlets are corporations like any other business; they're looking for the profit. Celebrity news has become the opium of the masses, and most media outlets know it. Maybe turning the camera off will help Sheen, but as long as there are people who will watch, the media know it's a quick ratings draw.
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candcje
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12:20 AM on 03/01/2011
Ms. Palmer, those are my sentiments exactly! WE need to stop enabling him and giving him an opportunity to voice his drug-induced nonsense. He needs help and he needs it now. People in his circle need to hold an intervention. There are plenty of stars out there who spiraled, went away for a year or two and came back clean and strong. They need to step in now like someone did for them.

I keep thinking Poor Martin Sheen... This must be tearing him up to watch his son have such an incredibly public melt down. And how is it that Emilio (certainly the cuter of the two) could manage such a quiet life while his brother is such an over-the-top, out of control druggy?
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11:13 PM on 02/28/2011
It's called a train wreck for a reason. Even though it is awful... you... can't.... stop.... looking....
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Raymond Chuang
Trying to bring sanity back
08:36 PM on 02/28/2011
Right now, I wonder is either Warner Brothers Television or CBS writing up papers for a court filing to have Charlie Sheen legally declared insane, which would make it possible to have him committed to a sanitarium for a long period of time. Sheen--in my opinion--needs a LONG stay in a sanitarium not only to treat his drug abuse, but also treat whatever psychiatric problems he's suffering from. After the stay, I hope that Sheen stays away from show business (and all its temptations) for at least two years so he can become sober and sane again.
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07:48 PM on 02/28/2011
I applaud Ms. Palmer's pleas to stop broadcasting Charlie Sheen's addictive rantings. The networks are using this trainwreck for ratings and it's a disservice to viewers. The only reason to even watch at all is to see the ugly reality of what happens to someone who has been using alcohol and drugs for far too long. It's a hideous downward spiral that will entangle anyone who has the misfortune to be close enough to get caught in the whirlpool of despair.

It's simple for this man - get sober or die. His bosses will no longer enable him by giving him a high paying job on tv, his publicist has resigned and soon he will be all alone with only the walls to hear him. I was married to a man with this horrible disease and, ultimately, I had to get out to save myself. Living with someone in this condition is literally hell on earth.

It is hard for me to even watch the clips here, because it brings back painful memories. It's a one-way trip and the ending has already been written. This man needs to be in a psychiatric hospital asap. He needs serious rehab and it's still not a given that he will make it. Many don't. Watching this is like seeing someone in their death throes.
07:20 PM on 02/28/2011
If he is not given press or other media coverage, he will shut up. The more you enable an addict of any type, the more they will want.