Love knows who we are and where we live. It needs no introductions. Our names were written in the book of love before we came to earth and will remain there forever after. No one comes to earth without the capacity to love, be loved and be transformed by love. No matter how many times love betrays us, hurts us or abandons us, something within us is more determined than ever to go to battle and win the coveted war -- love.
It is astounding to see the number of people taking such an active role in pursuing love. It has become a career path of sorts. Cyberspace has become the new playground for singles to meet and connect -- all from the comfort of home. Magazines and media bombard us with an endless stream of advice on dating and mating, finding and keeping, and all the other techniques and methods of forcing love to happen. Yes, forcing love to happen. The mystic and poet Kahlil Gibran reveals, "And think not you can guide the course of love. For love, if it finds you worthy, shall guide your course." Love is a mystery, not a methodology.
Love is a human obsession and nobody is more obsessed than a single person in search of the perfect one. When single people get together it is no surprise that the conversations always revolve around love and relationships. Being privy to these conversations myself, it has gotten my inner detective working over time. For example, if all of us have a complimentary half/soulmate -- where are they? Why are some people love magnets while others seem to end up in the desert Sahara? Is there a reason for all this and if so -- what is it?
I once heard a quote that intrigued me: "Being single is nature's way of forcing you to love yourself"-- this quote has so many layers of meaning and depth. I'll go one step further and say that being single is a profound opportunity for self realization. An opportunity to determine your worth and value, to define your boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not, to understand that the highest expression of love is to become more of who you are, to realize that love does not require you to compromise your self respect, dignity or self worth, to reflect on what you believed you had to give up in order to get what you thought was love, and to know the depth of your capacity to love deeply, truly and completely.
Being single is not a permanent condition but a preparation. You are in the most profound initiatory and adventurous phase of your life -- building a relationship with your soul. Be willing to stop moving, talking, planning, searching, looking. Instead honor and embrace the path you are on even if that means being alone for a while. Love will come at the appointed hour and whisk you off your feet, doubt not, for the divine person you are preparing for is also being prepared for you.
Finally, we do not decide when or how or who we fall in love with, because there is more to our journey to love than meets the eye. The wisdom of Rumi tells us: "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
Brienne Walsh: An Open Letter to the Women Who Are Telling Me It's My Fault I'm Not Married
The 50 Best Things about Being Single - iVillage
Best friend and lovers are caused by not developing opposite attributes. For instant, a person who is extroverted will have a lover or best friend who is introverted. The introverted becomes dependent on the extroverted to do the talking and vise versa. Magnifying each other is the attraction. That's why many people remain in abusive relationships, it's the magnification of opposites which attracts.
I've been alone for over 34 years continually finding characteristics In me I didn't recognize until I saw it in someone else. Every time I see something in someone else I don't recognize in me I look within for it and bring it to the surface for comparison then learn to control it. That keeps me from being people dependent and keeps me "Living the Good Life" alone and without a constant need of sex.
A tadpole can't began to shorten it's tail and grow legs until it reaches a preestablished state, neither does the caterpillar weave it's cocoon until reaching it, so neither does man began the sequence of self-unification until they have experienced the emotion of every characteristic demonstrated by us. Once there, I'm informed but haven't experienced, we reach the state beyond pleasure we call heaven, supposedly, is my next stage in my evolution.
...my soul and I went to couples counseling, I was surprised to learn I was always right, it was my soul's fault all along...
You noticed the beautiful dog in the picture too...love dogs, especially one that looks like that!
Off for a lovely walk with my dogs!!!
I love your comment and its so inspiring! I hope you had a lovely walk with your dogs.
In Light,
natasha
I am always open to the wonder and beauty and romance of life, whether single or not. : )
Have a beautiful day!
What a beautiful post...your comment is true and complete.
Keep celebrating each day!
natasha
Perhaps I failed to file a change of address with the love office, because it sure doesn't seem to know where I live. :)
You gave me a good chuckle...love the humor!
I agree totally!
Even stayed with it for the ending.
Felipe nagualed Liz at the boat
“If you run away from me, you run away from all the possibilities of your own life.”
...and in the end.... after her spiritual guy tells her imbalance is balance after all .. she goes for it.
Gives up her single-hood that she so indulgently pursued and boated off with Felipe -as an eternal couple heading into the sunset.
I guess I've been "building a relationship with [my] soul", and become too cynical to believe this any more.
Thank You for your comments. I'll share something with you. One of my cousins had been in a relationship for several years, it was a rocky relationship throughout, and the midst of a break up he found out that she had hooked with one of his best friends. It devastated him and he too became cynical. He was single for good ten years, yes ten years, before he met his current girlfriend. They have been dating for a year and a half. My point is this - life has its own timing and logic - we sometimes can't figure out why things are the way they are. All we can do is continue living, enjoying the things we have been blessed with, nurturing our relationships with friends and family, and making sure that we are healthy and happy to be alive.
Blessings to You!
natasha