We often spend so much time focusing on the surface level of a relationship, yet the true key to healing is to go to the root of the problem. It is easy to dismiss a spouse and give up hope on the relationship because of the "facts on the ground," but once we actually probe beneath the surface, we discover why the relationship is failing and how it can be revitalized.
You don't grow out of ADHD. It's a lifelong thing. But these days I don't mind that so much. The disorder has its upsides: creativity, a tendency to view the world from odd angles. And the blaring anxiety I used to feel just trying to get through the day is slowly quieting, turning into the regular white noise of a life.
To get to a certain level of "me-time," I have to do several things, all of which help me depending on the circumstance. A lot of these tips involve organizational skills, time management hacks, and doing things in advance to prevent negative things from happening later on. (When did Noah build the ark? Before the rain.)
During the early Salkin years, I often took head trips in elementary school. My mind and I escaped the institutional brick walls for a day at the beach, body surfing in aquamarine waves, lost in the opiate haze of a daydream. An adolescent problem I had thought until my seaside getaways continued through my teenage years and beyond.