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What To Do When Your Grown Kid Won't Talk To You

Next Avenue | Yagana Shah | Posted 07.19.2016 | Fifty

SPECIAL FROM Next Avenue By Jill Smolowe In the painful days after my husband’s death in 2009, I crafted a eulogy that concluded with a tho...

The DE-structive Effects of "Constructive criticism"

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 06.28.2016 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

My mother insists on giving me what she calls constructive criticism. She thinks it's her job to tell me everything I'm doing wrong. For instance, wh...

18 Things Kids And Parents Should Know Before Kids Leave The Nest

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.17.2016 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

That got me thinking. What are the basic life skills should we be teaching our kids before they leave the nest? What should they know? Here are a few.

Overeating Is an Abandonment Issue: How to Heal it

Susan Anderson | Posted 05.25.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Susan Anderson

I love to eat, and then eat. It's just the consequences I hate. What's a potato chip but a prelude to the whole bag? What's an M&M but a tease for ...

Why I've Called A Moratorium On Texting My Kids

Iris Ruth Pastor | Posted 05.07.2016 | Fifty
Iris Ruth Pastor

I am calling a moratorium on texting my adult kids, except for purely informational tiny tidbits. One reason is that autocorrect can wreak havoc with mother/adult child relations.

ADVICE 14: How Do I Break Up With My Parents?

Brent Stoller | Posted 05.03.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Brent Stoller

As an only child, I was always very close with my parents. My mother relied on me solely when she and my father fought. Girl time. Growing up, I always said I'd move next door and live there with her forever and always be her best friend. Now, I live about 10 miles away (if that), but I work full time, pay my own bills, and live with my boyfriend.

Moving On

Paula Kay Glass, BS, MEd | Posted 04.18.2016 | Parents
Paula Kay Glass, BS, MEd

Boxes are packed and trucks are loaded. My youngest son is smiling from ear to ear, excitement and eagerness plastered across his mischievous grin as my heart is pulled in two. I've watched all morning as he, his father, brother and friend have made numerous trips up and down the stairs hauling box after box, pieces of furniture and clothes to load.

Why My Kid's Birthday Pushed Me Into A Major Meltdown

Dawn Q Landau | Posted 04.23.2016 | Fifty
Dawn Q Landau

I realized that these past 24 years raced by at record speed, and well, that can only mean that the next 20+ years will do the same. Right? I've heard that time moves much faster as you age. So, if you're doing the math along with me: when my son has his 44th birthday, I will be nine months away from (oh God, I can't think it!) 74... which is just shy of 75!

The Empty Nest

Paula Kay Glass, BS, MEd | Posted 04.08.2016 | Fifty
Paula Kay Glass, BS, MEd

What is wrong with me? Most people are changing bedrooms into man caves or celebrating the fact that they were able to raise a human from a baby into adulthood without harming them or losing them for an extended period of time. All I think about is the empty chair at dinner and the gaps in my duckling lineup.

Remodeling Our Estate Plan

Inga | Posted 02.16.2016 | Fifty
Inga

You know you're getting older when you catch your adult kids walking around with a tape measure envisioning the remodel after you're dead. Actually, i...

Dreaming Of The Days When My Grown Sons Adored Their 'Mommy'

Dawn Q Landau | Posted 01.19.2016 | Fifty
Dawn Q Landau

If I could go back and enjoy another day when my little boy held my hand and squeezed it, or simply threw his arms around my neck because he liked to burry his face in my hair. I'd sit a little longer, reading a favorite book; I'd play in the yard a little longer. I'd savor it.

5 Ways to Become an Ally for Your Aging Parents

Stacey Gordon | Posted 01.15.2016 | Fifty
Stacey Gordon

In a long car ride with my musically savvy teenagers, I happily listened to the bands they enjoy most, bands with names like "Vampire Weekend" and "...

Becoming a Becoming Mother-in-Law

Amy L. Freeman | Posted 11.02.2015 | Women
Amy L. Freeman

I, as perhaps you, have always hoped that each of my three children will, as adults, find positive, supportive partners with whom to share their lives. But holy heck, I still fell off my chair when my eldest son, at the tender age of 22, called me to announce his engagement.

How to Deal With Parents Or In-Laws That Don't Respect You

Samantha Rodman PhD | Posted 09.25.2015 | Parents
Samantha Rodman PhD

In counseling, many adult clients come in struggling to connect to their parents. They feel that their parents do not respect them, as I discuss here, and don't treat them as valuable, worthwhile people, or continually infringe upon their personal boundaries.

A Message To My Son As He Prepares For College

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 08.31.2015 | Fifty
Elaine Ambrose

What do you mean you mailed a college application? Get back down on the floor and play with some Legos. Do you want me to make you a sandwich? Or, you can invite your friends over and we'll order pizzas. You can stay up all night, if you want. I'll just go cry in my room, but don't let that bother you.

A Dynamic Way to "Let Go" of Adult Children

Joseph W. Gauld | Posted 08.26.2015 | Parents
Joseph W. Gauld

Why do we as parents have so much trouble "letting go" of our children once they complete their teenage years and need to assume primary responsibility for their lives?

The Truth About Motherhood I Discovered Now That My Kids Are Grown

Dawn Q Landau | Posted 08.07.2015 | Fifty
Dawn Q Landau

The lessons we hand to our children, the messages we believe we are giving, and sometimes the very experiences that we all shared together, are not always seen and experienced the way we intended or believed they were delivered.

10 Things Every Woman Wants Her Mother-In-Law To Know

Iris Ruth Pastor | Posted 07.11.2016 | Fifty
Iris Ruth Pastor

Family unity and healthy interactions, who could possibly be against that? Not many! I've got two daughters-in-law who are precious to me and one more soon to be welcomed joyously into our family. I find myself always trying to be a well intentioned, non-meddling mother-in-law. Sometimes, I even succeed. Sometimes I don't.

'Highly-Sensitive' Mom Is Mean to Me

Samantha Rodman PhD | Posted 07.07.2016 | Healthy Living
Samantha Rodman PhD

Black Sheep writes: My mom and siblings have "self-diagnosed" themselves as Highly-Sensitive People (HSPs), so they expect everyone to treat them as...

Parents Who Drive You Crazy: Four Steps for Handling Emotionally Immature Parents

New Harbinger | Posted 06.05.2016 | Healthy Living
New Harbinger

Emotionally immature parents will drive you crazy if you mistake their physical age for psychological maturity. Acknowledge that you may have surpassed them developmentally a long time ago, and their insensitivities will begin to hurt a little less.

The 6 Secrets Of Communicating With Grown Children

Next Avenue | Elizabeth Fishel and Jeffrey Arnett | Posted 06.04.2015 | Fifty

SPECIAL FROM Next Avenue By Elizabeth Fishel and Jeffrey Arnett Whether technology is a blessing, a curse or a mix of both, it’s surely the ne...

5 Tips To Help You Deal With An Estranged Child

Karl A. Pillemer, Ph.D. | Posted 05.24.2016 | Fifty
Karl A. Pillemer, Ph.D.

In my studies of the lives of older Americans, I learned that almost nothing is as painful to them as estrangement from an adult child. When I wrote a blog post on this topic, it led to an extraordinary outpouring of interest that both surprised and moved me. When we reach the later years, our dream is to be surrounded by loving children and grandchildren.

I Want to Outlive My Child (And 3 Other Horrible Truths About Being a Special Needs Parent)

Kate Welch | Posted 05.22.2016 | Parents
Kate Welch

Guardianship may be necessary, but it is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do for Caleb. It boils down to petitioning the court to acknowledge that he is an incapacitated person. It is effectively taking away his right to make his own decisions, and that is a very sad process.

Dear Family Whisperer: My Adult Children Still Fight!

Melinda Blau | Posted 05.22.2016 | Parents
Melinda Blau

To be sure, some siblings never get over their childhood dramas -- a situation that causes pain for the parents. But many do

The Moment I Knew I Was an Adult

Teresa Lee | Posted 05.13.2016 | Women
Teresa Lee

Ultimately, I think being an adult isn't any one age or any one thing. It doesn't mean that you don't lean on other people when you fall. It just means that you count on yourself first and foremost and don't expect anyone else to clean up your mess for you.