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Aging Parents

You have options and keeping your loved one at home, where they want to be, might be the best one.

Ellie Hollander | Posted 11.15.2016 | Impact
Ellie Hollander

Caregiving runs through my veins. I've cared for my mom, my sister and my dad, all through the last days of their lives. I know the stress, the agony,...

How To Give A Loved One Permission To Die

Eva Moon | Posted 11.08.2016 | Fifty
Eva Moon

We were gathered at my grandmother's home for a final visit. Coming together for this was sad but it was also more joyful than I could have imagined. We sat with her and shared stories, photos, laughter.

Caregiving: The Reluctant Invasion

Jean Lee | Posted 10.06.2016 | Fifty
Jean Lee

My parents married on a five-day furlough during WWII. Mom and Dad remained passionate about their relationship until their last breaths 60 years later. They communicated well. When disagreements arose, they agreed to disagree.

What Men Against Breast Cancer Want You To Know

Kandice Ferrell | Posted 10.05.2016 | Impact
Kandice Ferrell

An oncology study by the Vanderbilt Ingram Cancer Center, confirms what many cancer survivors already know -- patients with strong support networks are not only more likely to survive, they also experience reduced occurrences of cancer resurgence.

I Got Botox for my Babymama

Kathleen Dennehy | Posted 08.11.2016 | Women
Kathleen Dennehy

Dear Reader: This is the backstory of This Old Mom, and happened in 2012. Clarification: Babymama is NOT my biological mother, but a birth mother we...

How To Survive The Communication Minefield Related To Eldercare

Lindsay Pyfer | Posted 07.19.2016 | Fifty
Lindsay Pyfer

For years, I saved articles on how to determine whether an elderly person needs more help or a change of living situation. But when the time came to intervene with my own mother -- widowed and living alone -- I was utterly unprepared for the emotions that flared and the strain it put on our relationship.

5 Strategies For Staying Healthy When Caring For Your Parent

Sharon Kurtzman | Posted 07.09.2016 | Fifty
Sharon Kurtzman

July is my father's birthday month and I've recently returned from my latest trip to visit him in Florida. Over the past year he's faced a string of health challenges and though we live 700 miles apart, I manage to be his medical advocate and go-to girl.

Sometimes I Hate My Mother -- But I Care For Her Anyway

Laura Dixon | Posted 06.24.2016 | Fifty
Laura Dixon

'I love my mother -- but sometimes I hate her, too.' Saying those words out loud -- or even to yourself in your head -- can be a painful acknowledgment that even late in life we can't always make our relationships with our parents work out the way we want them to.

Compassion, Control, Dignity, Respect

Jane Marks | Posted 06.20.2016 | Parents
Jane Marks

The question before us was "Are we caring with compassion or control?" I was sitting in a session at a recent geriatric conference in the north east. The speaker threw out this question... and I must admit, in all my years of being involved with, concerned about and responsible for providing care to someone "chronologically superior" (Yep, another new term since "old, aging, senior, and elderly" are the latest terms to become politically incorrect.) I had never thought of it in quite that way.

Watching My Mother With Alzheimer's Slowly Slip Away

Lisa Hirsch | Posted 06.14.2016 | Fifty
Lisa Hirsch

Many moons ago my mom's world was sunny and bright. It was filled with excitement, love and joy. She had no idea that one day her entire life would vanish, as if it never existed. Truth be told, neither did I, for I had never heard of Alzheimer's.

The New Wrinkle I Just Discovered In My 'Aging Gracefully' Plan

Leslie Blanchard | Posted 06.06.2016 | Fifty
Leslie Blanchard

With no distinct or discernible signs of my own mental impoverishment, my loved ones will be completely clueless. If I start to unravel, how will they be alerted to the utter gravity of my condition in order to render aid? It appears as though I've got to pull my act together a bit.

Preparing for the Death of a Parent

Craig Ballantyne | Posted 08.17.2016 | HuffPost Home
Craig Ballantyne

Before my father passed in 2008, I was fortunate enough to spend almost every day with him during his final summer. We went on dozens of long drives through the countryside, comparing faraway cornfields to the ones close to his farm, and tracking down old tractors.

What Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You

Patrick O'Brien | Posted 05.26.2016 | Fifty
Patrick O'Brien

Just like our parents worried about us getting sick or hurt, there comes a time when we as adult children start to worry about the health of our parents. Perhaps we notice changes in their energy, memory or coordination. At some point, health issues can make it very difficult to live alone.

Both My Parents Were Diagnosed With Alzheimer's On The Same Day

Jean Lee | Posted 05.17.2016 | Fifty
Jean Lee

Nine years ago both of my parents were diagnosed with Alzheimer's on the same day. My sister and I moved them out of the home in which they'd amassed heaps of everything that would not biodegrade throughout a 60-year marriage. I handled the bulk of the clean-out. Things were lost. Important things were lost.

Balancing the Checkbook, and Much More, For an Aging Parent

Michael A. Whitehouse | Posted 05.10.2016 | Fifty
Michael A. Whitehouse

Settling the affairs of a parent who recently has died presents a family with emotional and practical challenges. Primary among those is attending to the family finances.

Listening to An Aging Parent

Susan Fishman | Posted 04.28.2016 | Fifty
Susan Fishman

Sometimes I think when we exchange those little glances and giggles about our dear old loved ones -- even when they show us glimpses of brilliance -- the joke is really on us. Maybe when we reach the age of "old," in between the crazy babbling and the far-off stares, we know exactly what we're doing, and what we're teaching.

Thank You, Mom, For Not Always Being There

Posted 08.08.2016 | Parents

Most Mother’s Day cards thank Mom for always “being there.” But for many of us, there’s more to it than that. What about the moms who weren’...

Your Answers To The 4 Most Common Medicaid Questions

Anne Tumlinson | Posted 04.21.2016 | Fifty
Anne Tumlinson

I get this question a lot and it often goes something like this: "My mom has some income from Social Security and less than $10,000 in savings. I've got a full-time job I need to keep. Mom was doing fine until recently, but now she's in and out of the hospital.

Alzheimer's - The Power of Touch

Lisa Hirsch | Posted 04.14.2016 | Fifty
Lisa Hirsch

I have read that physical touch is one of five ways people communicate and receive emotional love. It is also stated just reaching out and taking some...

What Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You - I'm Gambling Too Much

Patrick O'Brien | Posted 04.04.2016 | Fifty
Patrick O'Brien

A weekend bus trip to the casino might sound like a fun and social activity for your retired mom or dad. But if these trips are frequent and seem to t...

The Daddy Diaries. Chapter 49. Parents Day and #TalkToMe

Dimitri Ehrlich | Posted 04.04.2016 | Parents
Dimitri Ehrlich

To say that my parents influenced who I am today would be an understatement. I'm not saying I had a storybook childhood. It was more like an acid trip, led by some nice hippies.

Is A Life With Alzheimer's A Life Worth Living?

Lisa Hirsch | Posted 04.07.2016 | Fifty
Lisa Hirsch

As my month-long visit comes to an end, my trips each day to see my mom get harder and harder. I can feel my emotions surfacing, taking over as if I were riding a roller coaster. I awake each morning feeling like I could cry. I feel the pain of leaving her.

How Aphasia Helped Me Communicate With My Mother

Cathy L. Mason | Posted 02.05.2017 | Fifty
Cathy L. Mason

My mother's hands became her primary form of communication. She and I talked, of course, but it was often a swing-and-a-miss type of situation. Her embarrassment at not being able to identify a table, a door, or even her beloved dog caused many tears of frustration.

What Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You - My Neighborhood Is No Longer Safe

Patrick O'Brien | Posted 02.04.2017 | Fifty
Patrick O'Brien

As time passes, neighborhoods and communities change. New homes, shopping centers, and schools can make old ones unappealing and of little interest. E...

5 Lessons In Setting Boundaries That Every Caregiver Must Learn

Anne Tumlinson | Posted 01.19.2017 | Fifty
Anne Tumlinson

It seems like I've been exhausted for 20 years. In just the last few months I've been waking up to the realization that this fatigue is the direct result of too much time and energy doing things that I can't or don't want to do.