If any of my midlife friends are caring for aging parents, I advise them to monitor any spending on subscriptions.f
The keys to achieving the so-called golden years are clear: access to health care and a livable income. But we have to do more to assure that our growing elderly population enjoys a dignified and secure old age.
There is no word in English or in any language that I've found for parents who bury their children. It is not because the concept does not exist, but rather because such an act is against the natural order of events. It is not supposed to happen.
Outside her room at the assisted living facility, other residents shuffled by, some with walkers, as silent sentinels in the last act of the drama of life. After 87 years, my mother's body and mind were gone, except for her strong heart. We could do nothing but wait.
There are two key factors - your financial situation and health history - you need to mull over that can help you decide if buying a long-term care (LTC) insurance policy is a wise decision for you and/or your wife.
Dr. Atul Gawande's Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End provides healthy doses of reality - the realities of disease, deterioration, debilitation, decline, dementia, dependence, despondency, and demise.
Over the last decade, reverse mortgages have been aggressively pitched in TV ads as an easy way for seniors to cash in their home equity to pay for living expenses. However, for many, improper use of the product -- such as pulling all their cash out at one time -- has led to significant financial problems later, including foreclosure.
People live a long time with complicated medical and financial issues. Nursing homes are filled to the brim with people who don't die. For heaven's sake stop waiting for your elders to die and get yours and their affairs in order now.
As nuclear families shrink and spread out, it's relationships built on true friendship borne out of chance encounters that increasingly sustain people in times of need.
My grandmother asked me to stay with her until it's over, and I can only think of a few reasons she'd ask me: She knows I'll talk about anything and won't mince words; she knows I will do anything for her if I'm able; and she knows I can be a calming presence. It took me a very long time to become a calming presence; it's still a daily practice.
Placing a loved one in a nursing facility is a highly controversial issue. Many people would rather die than do it. But in some -- not all -- cases, such placement may actually be the best solution for the patient.
Both Brittany and Kara write beautiful justifications for their positions on life (and death), and I admire both women -- Brittany for taking ownership of her life and the way she wants it to end, and Kara for fighting to be present with her family and to find ultimate meaning in her suffering.
What about nursing homes in Illinois? Where does the quality of Illinois nursing homes stack up against the rest of the country?
To put it politely, they say "stuff" rolls downhill. In nursing homes, those at the very bottom of the hill are the nurse's' aides -- CNAs, as they are called.
Twilight Wish, a nonprofit focused on the needs -- and desires -- of low-income senior citizens, is the first national wish granting organization specifically aimed at the elderly.
They may fall, but when they do, our job is to offer them a hand up, and that hand should not be attached to conditions or control.