Evaluating a nursing home for your loved one is as fraught as buying your first home, but without any of the joy. Here's quick advice for when you are doing your own evaluation:
Over the past five years of living with mom's dementia, I have seen time and time again that despite the complete confusion and craziness that comes with this disease, my mom's brain may not remember the details, but her heart always does.
As a member of her team, I helped Ethel live the rest of her life in the way she had envisioned for herself and detailed in her Life Plan.
I've never felt so conflicted as I did when I packed up 40 years worth of family possessions from the only home I ever knew. Watching your parents age and being the one on the front lines of denial -- I'm not moving, I don't need help, etc. -- slaps you awake into a reality no one wants, or is prepared, to face.
Question: Dear Steve, Hi - I have a question - my mother is in a nursing home, Medicaid pays for the home - she must turn over her social security a...
I asked Jennifer Krychowecky what she gave up during her nine-year journey caring for her mother, Linda Krychowecky, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease at the age of 59. Her response was eye opening.
Anyone can die leaving debt behind. Spouses and families should help prepare or revise estate plans to address current credit issues and create an action plan for the possibility of remaining debt after the borrower dies.
If any of my midlife friends are caring for aging parents, I advise them to monitor any spending on subscriptions.f
The keys to achieving the so-called golden years are clear: access to health care and a livable income. But we have to do more to assure that our growing elderly population enjoys a dignified and secure old age.
There is no word in English or in any language that I've found for parents who bury their children. It is not because the concept does not exist, but rather because such an act is against the natural order of events. It is not supposed to happen.
Outside her room at the assisted living facility, other residents shuffled by, some with walkers, as silent sentinels in the last act of the drama of life. After 87 years, my mother's body and mind were gone, except for her strong heart. We could do nothing but wait.
There are two key factors - your financial situation and health history - you need to mull over that can help you decide if buying a long-term care (LTC) insurance policy is a wise decision for you and/or your wife.
Dr. Atul Gawande's Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End provides healthy doses of reality - the realities of disease, deterioration, debilitation, decline, dementia, dependence, despondency, and demise.
Over the last decade, reverse mortgages have been aggressively pitched in TV ads as an easy way for seniors to cash in their home equity to pay for living expenses. However, for many, improper use of the product -- such as pulling all their cash out at one time -- has led to significant financial problems later, including foreclosure.
People live a long time with complicated medical and financial issues. Nursing homes are filled to the brim with people who don't die. For heaven's sake stop waiting for your elders to die and get yours and their affairs in order now.
As nuclear families shrink and spread out, it's relationships built on true friendship borne out of chance encounters that increasingly sustain people in times of need.