I'm talking here about the dreaded "N" word -- nursing home. I'm talking about placing your loved one with Alzheimer's in a care facility. Virtually no one wants to do it and few if any people want to go. This will be one of the most difficult, heart-wrenching decisions you, as an Alzheimer's caregiver, will ever have to make.
We should not view the residential separation of the old from the young as necessarily harmful and discriminatory but rather as celebrating the preferences of older Americans and nurturing their ability to live happy, dignified, healthy and autonomous lives.
Divorce is ugly and painful. Voiced or not, when you commit to being "one" with each other, divorce is a tearing apart of that oneness and it hurts. Even the amicable divorces can leave deep scars for the couple splitting up, but also for the children.
Alzheimers is a disease that takes the story of your life and throws the pages of memory up in the air. Many blow away. But some land right in your hands.
Personal care attendants have complicated jobs that involve daily, and often intimate, support for an older population that is increasing in numbers and has increasingly complicated health and social care needs.
While we made immense progress from the days where discriminations against Americans with disabilities was legal, not enough has been done to help these hardworking men and women take care of their families.
And that is what Gawande emphasizes in this book: choice. The cases he relates are all about allowing the patient to decide: should I have another surgery when death could be less than weeks away?
In Washington D.C., the number one city on the list, a resident could spend $3,000 on care services and $2,787 on their mortgage, and still spend less than the $5,933 it would take to live in an assisted living facility.
That... that thing, that whatevertheycallit, they roll in here with all them meals stacked there and they deal 'em out like playing cards. Looks stupid. Why can't I have solid foods? Can't I eat a sandwich? Think I'm 90? Don't have no teeth?
I've been spending a lot of time in hospitals and nursing homes. I can't walk through the facility without slowing down and looking an elderly perso...
While many might consider Medicare the biggest milestone impacting America's elderly population, one could argue that the championing of elder care began with Helen F. Holt (1913-2015), former secretary of state in West Virginia, who passed away earlier this month.
"Mom, where are you? Why is your phone off? I've been trying to get you for hours!" my son said in a voice filled with urgency. Here is what happened....
The truth is that, when you're dealing with a hospital, you have to be vigilant and firm -- right from the very beginning. As crazy as it sounds, you cannot assume that the hospital knows what it's doing or has your parent's best interests at heart.
A senior living facility called "Symphony Square " recently opened up in my neighborhood. It doesn't have a symphony. Nor is it square. So what's with the name? I'm guessing that a consultant was paid big bucks to come up with that enticing moniker. Perhaps the same outfit that named similar local facilities "The Quadrangle" and "Sunrise at Haverford."
Standing back and looking at the situation more objectively, however, it becomes clear that sometimes nursing home placement is the most loving course of action for the person with Alzheimer's.
Even though we are no longer best friends, we still love each other and I will show Clare affection for as long as she lives. And I know that Clare will show me affection for as long as she is able to do so.