The truth is that, when you're dealing with a hospital, you have to be vigilant and firm -- right from the very beginning. As crazy as it sounds, you cannot assume that the hospital knows what it's doing or has your parent's best interests at heart.
A senior living facility called "Symphony Square " recently opened up in my neighborhood. It doesn't have a symphony. Nor is it square. So what's with the name? I'm guessing that a consultant was paid big bucks to come up with that enticing moniker. Perhaps the same outfit that named similar local facilities "The Quadrangle" and "Sunrise at Haverford."
Standing back and looking at the situation more objectively, however, it becomes clear that sometimes nursing home placement is the most loving course of action for the person with Alzheimer's.
Even though we are no longer best friends, we still love each other and I will show Clare affection for as long as she lives. And I know that Clare will show me affection for as long as she is able to do so.
I must learn how to get on with my life without having Clare by my side. I must accept that Clare and I are no longer a "we." Those "we" days are gone. I know that.
And I don't know about you, but I want to keep my loved ones in their homes as long as possible. Let's start to change the way we think about caregiving in a way that doesn't force one to sacrifice her (and hopefully his!) own health to help others.
There's a wide array of housing options available to seniors, but what's appropriate for your mom will depend on her needs and financial situation. Here's a rundown of the different levels of senior housing and some resources to help you search.
Evaluating a nursing home for your loved one is as fraught as buying your first home, but without any of the joy. Here's quick advice for when you are doing your own evaluation:
Over the past five years of living with mom's dementia, I have seen time and time again that despite the complete confusion and craziness that comes with this disease, my mom's brain may not remember the details, but her heart always does.
As a member of her team, I helped Ethel live the rest of her life in the way she had envisioned for herself and detailed in her Life Plan.
I've never felt so conflicted as I did when I packed up 40 years worth of family possessions from the only home I ever knew. Watching your parents age and being the one on the front lines of denial -- I'm not moving, I don't need help, etc. -- slaps you awake into a reality no one wants, or is prepared, to face.
Question: Dear Steve, Hi - I have a question - my mother is in a nursing home, Medicaid pays for the home - she must turn over her social security a...
I asked Jennifer Krychowecky what she gave up during her nine-year journey caring for her mother, Linda Krychowecky, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease at the age of 59. Her response was eye opening.
Anyone can die leaving debt behind. Spouses and families should help prepare or revise estate plans to address current credit issues and create an action plan for the possibility of remaining debt after the borrower dies.
If any of my midlife friends are caring for aging parents, I advise them to monitor any spending on subscriptions.f
The keys to achieving the so-called golden years are clear: access to health care and a livable income. But we have to do more to assure that our growing elderly population enjoys a dignified and secure old age.