Attachment Theory

Countless women ask me why pregnancy is such an optimal time to internally nest. Here are some essential reasons why buttressing self-understanding is vital during the mothering metamorphosis.

Because we are a nation at war, we should be especially tender toward the mothers who must leave their children behind as they head to battle.

Everyone who has infant twins experiences their fair share of difficulties, but I can't help but wonder what was lost during that vital first month when the three of us lived apart.

Unconditional love ... Is it possible with a child who does not behave in the usual ways, who rejects you when you try to help, who does not respond when you attempt to redirect him? I say yes!

in order for the attachments to develop smoothly in a new family, there is one key element that predicts relative success--the parent's understanding of their own relationship history.

If we've had or continue to have an insecure relationship with our moms, this would be a great time to begin the process of inner reflection to move toward security now.

When our parents respond to us in consistent, sensitive and loving ways, we form secure attachments with them, and this gives us the confidence to learn, grow and thrive.

You don't need any special gear or to be attached at the hip 24-7 to create a bond. I think instead you need to spend time with them, to get to know them intimately, and to meet them where they are.