The "temporary incompetence" of clients due to their emotional state and the attorneys' paternalistic attitude toward clients create a lack of understanding on the part of both the attorney and the client. This is the legal equivalent of a ship that hits rocks, runs aground, veers off course, and possibly sinks.
We all know that lawyers should strive to seek justice, so to speak, for their clients. But to really seek justice for a client, a lawyer needs to treat the other side, and their story, with respect, fairness and empathy. Only then can a lawyer truly serve his or her client's best interests. That is the irony.