Our fear of offending, of not doing the right thing, of being misunderstood or considered not "fun," not "game," or not a "good team player", that fear is greater than our fear of pain. Of being violated. Of conceding where we don't want to concede. Of being overpowered.
The California Supreme Court has denied Bill Cosby's petition in the case filed against him by Judy Huth, so it looks like that case is going forward. Huth's lawyer, Gloria Allred, has announced that she intends to take Cosby's deposition within the next month.
We cannot build and maintain a society in which our beloved and revered celebrities' victimization of their fellow man becomes the norm. We have yet to see a conviction and it is unlikely that we ever will.
For lawyers who specialize in helping clients suppress information that could prove embarrassing or worse, several recent developments just made their job a lot harder -- which is, of course, a good thing from the standpoint of the public interest.
Is it not obstruction of justice when one pays a victim or a witness not to disclose important evidence of a crime?
My vote goes to April Ryan of Urban Radio Networks. Major Garrett comes in a close second for the insulting nature of his question about the four Americans held in Iran, but at least he was on subject.
This is not some middle-of-the-night rant about white guilt or self-loathing. But before I'm the proud descendent of hard-working Europeans et al, I'm a stubborn and imperfect follower of a colored carpenter who was murdered by the State and other social elites for pointing out these very sins and calling bullshit on them.
We live in a world where we have to wait until there is a taped recording of Cosby ADMITTING to drugging these women to have sex with him for us to finally believe them. These women didn't come forward toting their rape kit, they came with their own testimony and it wasn't good enough.
If the display or broadcasting of creative works were reliant on a virtue rubric, then our museum walls would be nearly empty, our radio waves and streaming would run rather silent, our bookshelves would be quite bare....or chock full of posted disclaimers....?
Age is supposed to be coupled with wisdom, right? Here are five cases where it clearly is not -- and it's why I just wish these celebrity scandals involving older people would simply go away.
While none of us is above criticism regardless of who we are, the fact is Cosby's current predicament is a classic example of why all of us should tread with caution before we become too overly harsh in our judgment of others for what we perceive to be their shortcomings.
In a case like Cosby's where we now have an unsealed court document that may act as a corroborating piece of evidence and lend credibility to some of the stories, there should be a remedy for these women to have their day in court.
Belief's pragmatics have a way of seeming least pragmatic when they happen to be our own. Those who are most eager to vituperate and pillory Goldberg (example here) should realize that they themselves probably exhibit a similar pathology in various aspects of their own lives.
After cop videos, #blacklivesmatter, Charleston massacre/eulogy/flag -- oh, and a Black president -- Matalin and LaMarche debate if we're starting the biggest conversation on race since the Kerner Commission. Also, who will be the bloviating blond's Joe Welch or are Trump and GOP nativist base inseparable?
We all victim blame. Even after years of education and training in this area, I still do it all the time, and have to consistently be aware of my thoughts when I hear of a sex crime. Which is exactly why we need to be aware of this and try to recognize when we go there and choose to think differently.
I was texting my best friend, asking for strength from a screen in light of his palpable absence. I felt alone. I felt unbelievable. I felt wrong.