Fearing for your life every time you walk outside, every time you get behind the wheel, every time you see a police officer, every time you breathe, is exhausting. Living in a world in which your blackness and woman-ness makes you less than human -- a hypersexual, angry or subservient caricature, the constant target of catcalling, rape and assault -- is exhausting.
It should go without saying, but of course destroying property and businesses is wrong. I have a friend who lost everything in a fire set on Monday night. A life-altering tragedy, no doubt. But, equally tragic is destroying humanity and withdrawing dignity -- something that many of us have done while watching the last several days in Baltimore unfold.
I'm always wary of the argument that all problems can and should be solved at home. I think that takes some of the responsibility off of other institutions that can bring about social change yet drastically need reform. But the role of parents and families is an important one -- particularly in the prevention of racial discrimination.