As the size acceptance movement has grown, plus size women with big bellies and thick butts have been proudly selfie-ing it up all over social media, but for women with lipedema like myself, there has yet to be much of an outlet for expression.
We all know counting calories is a valuable tool in losing weight. But do you know that counting compliments could be just as valuable?
Hold it right there! Before you go down that rabbit hole of despair after you've compared yourself to your cousin's friend's sister Sally (who you talked to once, and wait, why are you even Facebook friends?) let's get real about the social media comparison trap.
Beauty comes in different packages. Fashion and the world will be richer when we realize that illness and beauty are not mutually exclusive.
In an ideal world, all body figures will be equally cherished. But in order to do that, we must first acknowledge the imbalance in what it means to have a "beautiful" figure. Telling curvy people that they are beautiful does not threaten the beauty of skinny people.
I know it's hard to begin accepting your body. You've always been taught that it's not ok to do so. However, if you're at a place where you feel ready to start this process but are having trouble making it stick, let me see if a slight shift in perspective can help.
Truth: You never need to tell a woman that she has gained weight. She knows it. She avoids mirrors, hates photographs of herself, and loses the urge to shop for clothes.
This part of me, I have lent it out, given it, abandoned it... My body is tired, wrinkled, damaged. It bears indelible lines, marks that nothing will be able to erase. It has changed, a lot. It has almost become a stranger. I feel like I have lost contact with it.
With these and other tools I've learned to trust that yoga, dance and other movement are so much more than a physical practice. We heal our minds and spirits along with our bodies as we celebrate ourselves through movement.
As a mental health therapist and individual who has learned how to accept and appreciate my own body, the following are my tips for working towards body peace.
I will embrace the changes my body is going through. I will recognize the life that my body is sustaining inside, and stop worrying about what it looks like on the outside. As long as I am healthy, I will not get caught up on appearances.
Yes, I am fat, but that is my business. My health is not up for debate, and unless you are willing to live my life, you have no right to judge me.
It seems that beauty is only about youth, a predefined set of features when it comes to women. Assumptions or stereotypes of who is beautiful can impact women's lives including their incomes, access to resources and interpersonal relationships.
I'm 26 and I'm going to be getting married in October, and everything in my relationship is great. But recently, I have realized that my thoughts and actions about my looks are getting obsessive.
The first piece of loving your body is accepting your body. Acceptance doesn't mean you have to be in love with everything you see. Acceptance means making peace with the fact that it is a journey.
Originally published on Unwritten by Sara Heath. I wonder if other girls remember the day they got fat, because yes, in a time where body image is so...