I suspect I won't ever be able to fully succeed in making everyone happy. So, in revisiting my petition after all the kerfuffle, I've gotten some clarity. These are the two goals I hope my petition can reach.
Unless you live in cave, these ubiquitous photographs of the famished female form will negatively affect most kids to some degree. The popular narrative that says otherwise is wrong, and is not supported by research.
In trying to make sense of this all and uncover its roots, I now see the subtle cues that indicated my susceptibility to anorexia. Most obvious is my neurotic perfectionism.
I am a recovering anorexic, and this is my story. I've thought about it every day since I was 16-years-old. I've analyzed it, dug deep for its root, and cried over its reality.
By attaching a positive note to your daily body-loving rituals, you begin to associate your body with comforting, delightful things, which strengthens your relationship with your body and helps to feel more at home in your skin.
Now it seems that the show isn't just about the successes and the weight loss of the people involved, but rather a form of entertainment for the viewers. It's no longer about helping these souls, but objectifying their health and well-being in order to gain ratings on the television.
I worry for the girls out there who are like I was -- who are suffering from the same self-esteem issues that most teenagers do and are being told they are ugly not only by their teasing peers, but by adults around them who are crusading for change.
The obvious assumption for a broad segment of society is that I, as a 25-year-old woman, should not like that I'm going gray.
Why do we allow ourselves to get stuck in patterns of pathological dieting, shaming and self-loathing, disordered eating habits, misogyny and social anxieties over what is, essentially, a couple of napkins held together with string?
So if we one believes that he or she is 'fat,' 'ugly' or 'incapable for losing weight,' how does this affect how that person approaches weight loss? If one believes that he or she is inherently worthwhile, capable, and loved, how does that affect how one eats and maintains weight?
When I look at current fashion dolls, I'm reminded of my experience in high school and that of my cousin. I'm reminded that there are some things that are just a mirage and not worth emulating. Moreover, I'm reminded that there is beauty in embracing all the aspects of who you are, and in staying true to you.
Being part of a community that lifts up the message "God made me, and he doesn't make anything bad" appears to help moderate the impact of the "body loathing" promoted by popular culture, said sociologist Andrea Henderson of the University of South Carolina, lead researcher in the study.
The truth is women are not the only ones who can suffer from poor self-image. And to assume that men don't is absurd.
Instead of worrying about being laughed at or worrying about disgusting others, I should have worried about loving my wife. Because it is not disgusting. It is not gross. Love is love.
Even as I played dress up with my friends, I couldn't picture them using real makeup of their own until they were actually moms themselves. Little did I know how much of a sway the beauty industry and society would have on them.
It's not about being the skinniest you can be. It's about being healthy and that's different for everyone.