There is real benefit to be gleaned from dressing your transitional body well. Looking good now can get you hooked on looking good: It can establish a habitual desire to feel awesome when confronted with a mirror.
Every person has flaws. Nobody is perfect and, quite frankly, who wants to be? Flaws and imperfections make you special, they make you unique and interesting. Flaws shape your character. You don't need to hide them, you need to embrace them.
When I was in high school, my dear friend Emily would address me by saying, "Hey, beautiful!" It always unnerved me back then, though I would never have been able to articulate why.
When someone takes my photo and I ask them to contort in all sorts of uncomfortable positions to get the right shot, or when I'm raising my arm several feet above my head to get a selfie that makes me look thinner, what am I telling myself? What am I telling my daughters?
To say a woman is ugly based on her appearance means you haven't really looked at her. It's ignorance. Beauty is more than meets the eye. It goes deeper than that. There are layers of beauty. Beauty is body, mind, heart, and soul.
I thought that being the shortest girl in the room would define me the same way that being the girl always in heels used to. Only being the girl in heels was my choice.
In the past three weeks alone, I have spent ten hours at Yale Health, our student health center. The medical professionals think I have an eating disorder -- but they won't look past the number on the scale, to see the person right in front in them.
Yes, I agree, talk about health is key, as is a focus away from body image and on being a good person. But the fact is, we really don't want our children to be fat -- not only because it is unhealthy, but because in our uber competitive world, a fat person is less likely to be hired, or to be asked on a date -- and yes, all of that matters. Unfortunately, what's outside matters too.
Gawking can be fun. I love muting the TV and watching the Red Carpet fashion runway show before the Oscars. Hey, we know this isn't real life -- it's Hollywood and it's fun. I almost don't like it when the 'stars' try to be too real -- after all Hollywood is supposed to transport us right?
Life isn't only about slender beautiful models being the only ones entitled to laugh with joy, dance with abandon, and have fun and love fully. All kinds of people deserve to. And that's just perfect!
It's weird to think that I started out like this, too. That we all do. A brilliant jumble of sensors sensing excitedly all at once.
When will female bodies just be left alone? Must we always be on display for everyone to see, judge, measure and discuss? Is it really that difficult to offer a kind word to each other?
In more recent months, an uprising has begun to form at long last. In a society where shows like Fashion Police are celebrated for cutting people down, isn't it time we take a stand?
I don't even know how I know of this number. Only that I know it, and my friends know it, and my mom knows it. Somehow, somewhere along the road, I was taught that if I want to have a flat stomach and tight tushy, I need to limit my calories to 1,200 a day and do cardio.
Most of us don't really mean to be bullies to ourselves. It's not really something that you consciously and willingly decide to do. You weren't born in a self-sabotaging state, which means that you acquired those habits and behaviors. And if you learn to self-hate, you can learn to self-love.
I may have been overjoyed with how amazing my body looked, but I never felt as though I was "living."