Be careful of who you surround yourself with. If your friends, bf, family, whoever, cannot get in formation around the idea of loving and supporting you, in the words of Bey, eliminate them.
Earlier this year, a remarkable video, "We Are #WomenNotObjects" received significant attention for raising awareness of the...
Sometimes I think about what I wish someone would have said to me at that age to lighten the burden of my poor self-image. Like, "Your worth is so much greater than your physical body", or, "You are such a hardworking student", or, "You are beautiful because of how you make other people feel".
We have been warned against this our entire lives by a world based on masculine power, perceptions and desires -- which somehow women have taken into our bodies as our own reality. We are taught to fear our depth, and women are shut down to examine the possibilities of it within themselves.
Some of the things we can do to cultivate a positive body images within ourselves:
Look at you. You're incredible. Seriously! I know you're reading this right now so your beautiful eyes are sending messages to your brain about what they've seen. You didn't have to ask or nag, they just did it. Amazing!
There are a lot of things I was concerned about when my mother told me we would be going wedding dress shopping on her next visit. I was afraid that s...
Bodies are such a gift, and the choices we make with them aren't always comfortable or easy. But they are deeply personal. To all the women out there, I hope you know: the only thing that will always be too small is the size of everyone else's perception of what your body should look like.
Can't imagine wearing a bikini in public? Or a miniskirt? Even shorts? True, you could continue to wear maxi dresses until they go out of style. Or you can say "F*** it" and do what this mom did: Pose nude for an art class and learn to love the gorgeous and unique body you have.
You'd think by this day and age it would go without saying, but a woman's intelligence, expertise, and character cannot be determined by the hemline of her dress. I'm sure for many this statement couldn't be more obvious. You might even think it's an absurd thing to point out -- an echo of a less enlightened era, which we've left behind as a society.
The next time you hear the word "fat" used or perceived as the ultimate way to insult a woman, do your best to react neutrally. As we collectively make this a practice, we will remove the negative charge of being called fat. In doing so, we free ourselves from the shackles of an obsession with thinness.
Whether someone inherits a bad body image from their family, or learned it from our crazy culture, it is possible to heal. In my therapy practice, I have worked with women of all ages and from all walks of life and I have found that if there is desire and willingness, there is hope to break the legacy of bad body image.
This is an experience I underwent several years ago, after a slew of tests revealed potential allergies to numerous foods. As a vegetarian of 26 years, it seemed unfathomable that I would have to restrict my eating even further to now become gluten-free and vegan.
The women's restroom in any place--a club, a restaurant, an airport, a mall--is a hub of anthropological activity.
So, just for today, love who you are. Just as you are. Because you are beautiful. Because you are strong. Because you are compassionate. Because you are worth loving.
On social media I watch and read people talking about appearances every single bloody day and its simply boring. Why are we so concerned and body obsessed? It's sad we continue to talk about fat, skinny, round, triangle shaped people, okay maybe not triangle. But seriously when will the madness end? We as women see it all over the internet every f*cking day. I am seriously concerned for our entire society.