In the past three weeks alone, I have spent ten hours at Yale Health, our student health center. The medical professionals think I have an eating disorder -- but they won't look past the number on the scale, to see the person right in front in them.
Yes, I agree, talk about health is key, as is a focus away from body image and on being a good person. But the fact is, we really don't want our children to be fat -- not only because it is unhealthy, but because in our uber competitive world, a fat person is less likely to be hired, or to be asked on a date -- and yes, all of that matters. Unfortunately, what's outside matters too.
Gawking can be fun. I love muting the TV and watching the Red Carpet fashion runway show before the Oscars. Hey, we know this isn't real life -- it's Hollywood and it's fun. I almost don't like it when the 'stars' try to be too real -- after all Hollywood is supposed to transport us right?
Life isn't only about slender beautiful models being the only ones entitled to laugh with joy, dance with abandon, and have fun and love fully. All kinds of people deserve to. And that's just perfect!
It's weird to think that I started out like this, too. That we all do. A brilliant jumble of sensors sensing excitedly all at once.
When will female bodies just be left alone? Must we always be on display for everyone to see, judge, measure and discuss? Is it really that difficult to offer a kind word to each other?
In more recent months, an uprising has begun to form at long last. In a society where shows like Fashion Police are celebrated for cutting people down, isn't it time we take a stand?
I don't even know how I know of this number. Only that I know it, and my friends know it, and my mom knows it. Somehow, somewhere along the road, I was taught that if I want to have a flat stomach and tight tushy, I need to limit my calories to 1,200 a day and do cardio.
Most of us don't really mean to be bullies to ourselves. It's not really something that you consciously and willingly decide to do. You weren't born in a self-sabotaging state, which means that you acquired those habits and behaviors. And if you learn to self-hate, you can learn to self-love.
I may have been overjoyed with how amazing my body looked, but I never felt as though I was "living."
We need a different approach. Teach someone to love their body and respect it at any shape or size, and then the healthy habits will follow.
Mixing young girlhood and sexuality and selling it to male sports fans is ... just creepy.
I see the endless chatter from women about the post-baby body. Apparently I have one of two choices, embrace it or beat it into submission. The truth is, like many women, I can't be bothered to do either.
Oh, Victoria... you really do know my secret. You know what I like to wear when I curl up with a good book... and my habit of packing too much in my suitcases, forcing me to smash them closed by sitting on them.
If you are not sure if your life and you are more than the size of your body, I can assure you that your life and you are. You are the one and only you that has had your unique set of life experiences, thoughts, feelings opinions and talents. You are your smile, your love of music, nature, art and any and all qualities that make you unique.
B, thank you for letting down your third wall, for sharing your inspiration, your fantasies, your truth with us. Even though I don't know you, I feel we have a little more in common than I realized before, and you are a stunning emblem of what it means to be a woman -- flaws and all.