One of the most stressful aspects of the divorce process for those of us with kids is dealing with the inevitability, and sadness, of having to explain the divorce to them.
Tinder tried to match you with your ex. Your cousin. Your old teacher. Gross. Yep, those frown lines keep growing and seem to have set in on your face and may in fact, be permanent.
Love is almost magical, in my opinion. Because when true love happens, everything is really, really easy. Of course, everyone has issues in a relationship. I'm not saying it's going to be perfect. But, when you meet the one who won't break your heart, the relationship will just flow like a river.
Primal fear is what makes going through divorce, separation, bereavement, loss of a job, loss of a dream so difficult. It triggers abandonment -- our first fear -- a fear universal to all human beings. It is a feeling of being left on the doorstep, of feeling left behind.
Here are the four steps for healing the heart:
"I can't make you love me when you don't, " Bonnie Raitt sings. "How am I supposed to live without you," Michael Bolton swoons. "Nothing compares to you," Sinead O' Connor laments. "Love is a battlefield," Pat Benetar told us. Finally, "love hurts," Nazareth informs us.
Let's face it: there's a strange universal satisfaction upon receiving the information that you are arbitrarily happier and more successfully in love than your ex. If you're not the person who started dating again first, you've lost the game.
Love makes idiots out of all of us. And unfortunately part of the risk (and the thrill) of love is that you never really know the future. So rather than trying to be smarter at love, I suggest you learn to relax into its uncertainty
The push-pull starts off very slowly in the beginning. But as the relationship continues, the push and the pull can become a daily fixture in this already intense relationship or at least a regular occurrence for the once happy couple.
Avoid romance, drama, and even action- violent explosions turn some people on (seems reasonable). Instead, check out the kid's side of Netflix- any of the "Air Buddies" movies should work. For a festive c*ckblock, check out "Spooky Buddies"- it might just scare him so bad he'll forget he even wanted to get some in the first place.
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