We've all felt it: flaring anger, bubbling jealousy, dizzying guilt. It can be triggered by almost anything.
10 tips to help you get through this devastating time.
My friends are starting to ask me about the marks, the red nose and ears, the dry, red frostbitten hands. They're beginning to suspect something; that perhaps you're not the wintery wonderland you started out as.
Apparently, it's not only infidelity that drives men and women online to reveal salacious details of their past relationships. All it may take is a regular old breakup (or at least that's what you consider it to be) and your personal life could be out there for the whole world to see.
Divorce can be one of the most stressful events in life, second only to a spouse dying. In fact, a divorce can become such a complicated and nasty affair that many people have joked that a spouse dying is a less stressful event because at least you don't have to fight the deceased in court!
Before splitting up, I remember hearing about other people who'd been through a divorce and kept their married names. It baffled me.
Sometimes we wish we could erase Valentine's Day from the calendar. When we're single and feeling lonely or devalued, going through a break up or grieving the loss of a relationship, there's nothing that feels more like a black hole on the calendar than this Hallmark holiday.
It's over. You've broken up, hired attorneys, filed or are already divorced. You thought that you were successfully moving on, but it's Friday night and you're facing what feels like another long, lonely weekend alone.
Don't take this title the wrong way. I'm not implying that I've just been dumped. That's not the deep dark place this article comes from. HAHA what would give you that impression?!
A few years ago, I was lounging on a yacht in the Virgin Islands with the man I was sure I was supposed to marry. We locked eyes and I longed for him to whisper in my ear something tender and romantic. Then he started talking about hamburgers.
On a December Friday night, I gave up any hope that he would come do this work himself, come have the tactile experience of breaking up; the unpowerful part where one must box up one's belongings and remove them as one has chosen to remove oneself.
The man I loved, the person who was the cornerstone of my life, who said I was the cornerstone of his, had moved on after a small argument. I needed some kind of validation for all the time, energy and money spent, hope and promises made.
I decided to stop dating and take a year of celibacy. I was going to work on me, because the "me" in a relationship always disappeared. I gave "me" up to accommodate my partner and ultimately lost any semblance of who I thought I was.
Rejection tends to turn us inward in a negative way -- causing us to feel unworthy, flawed, not good enough, unlovable, frustrated, confused, angry, sad, etc. -- which can get us painfully bogged down in paralyzing self criticism.
It all started with a hand-me-down from my mom when I got my own place.
How to know if a friendship is just going through a rocky phase or if it's time to throw in the towel.