It's amazing what our minds can do. You know rationally that thinking about the person who broke your heart is the worst possible thing you could do for your emotional well-being. But somehow, the more you try and push the thoughts away, the more persistent they become.
This week, I sat down with Breakup Coach Laura Yeates to get her spin on how to move on from a breakup. She came up with a list of ten thoughtful, practical and helpful tips to make moving on manageable.
Getting divorced is half of the battle. The bigger battle? Divorcing yourself from the untrue and unkind beliefs that you failed and are a failure when really, you just simply lived. Even in fairy tales the princess and prince find obstacles.
Transcendentalists believed that becoming in tune with your spirit and nature is the only way to ensure happiness and prosperity, but you don't have to go sit under a tree to find your happy place.
Maybe this time it'll be a reverse post-breakup event for these two. Taylor will shake it off. She's getting older, maybe she'll get over this one much easier. Everyone needs just a little fun now and then. And Calvin will sing "You Used to Hold Me" alone in his bedroom.
When we are in a place of recovering from a painful relationship, finding a way to let go can be challenging. Here are 10 ways to let go of painful relationships.
I still struggle with numbing. It's too easy after a long day or a rough experience to drown myself at happy hour. Or sleep with someone to avoid feeling lonely. But action by action and sometimes moment by moment, I choose a different experience.
Even if we're not in love, it can be hard to walk away from something, however imperfect, when loneliness is the other option. If you're beginning to realize the relationship you're in is headed for a dead end, here are a few tips to help get you through the worst of it.
Many people complain that abandonment imprisons them behind a wall of their own making. They get caught up in patterns of constant re-abandonment (abandoholism) or avoid relationships altogether to avoid the pain (abandophobism). Others are in a relationship but feel chronic heartache and uncertainty. They're shrouded in shame for feeling so needy.
Each day we're awash in information, much of it advice. Social media, by its relationship-driven dynamic, bathes us in the warm, comforting waters of romantic guidance. But on our clear-thinking days we can sense the illusory nature of all this expert help.
Reflect back on all the things that you used to enjoy doing in your life -- as a young kid, a teenager, even just a few years ago. Write all these things down on a list and make it a goal to start doing them again!
While break-ups are one of the hardest times in our lives, they're also a time to realize who you really are, so keep your head up, buttercup.
When did bearded men start getting all the babes? We've done our own research on the history of beards in America to shed some light on this hairy situation.
What struck me as I read through these essays was how often the women were left behind by their sisters without a warning. Frustration rather than closure played a large role in many of the stories, and the authors were subsequently expected to puzzle out what went wrong.
As it turns out, there is so much more to Taylor Swift than the overplayed chart-toppers that she is known for. Instead of shaming her for musically trashing her exes, we should instead look at the unacknowledged heroes of her albums. Swift's songs cover misfortunes that every young woman can relate to.
Sometimes situations are changeable. But sometimes, not immediately, like a job, or seemingly not ever, like family gatherings. Whatever the situation, we can leave with grace, ease and in the highest integrity.