Since I wrote the article Seven Signs It's More Than Just Cold Feet and toured with my solo show Bad Bride I have received a number of emails from strangers asking for advice. I wanted to share one of those messages (edited for anonymity) and my reply because I think the conversation may be helpful for others that feel stuck in a relationship.
Two days before my wedding, I was laying in the bathtub, crying because I felt bad about my body. "I am bad, I am wrong, I don't deserve the love of a great man, I don't deserve a spectacular wedding day," was the thought reel playing on loop in my head. Talking to my fiancé that night, something finally clicked.
Some claim that you don't see a person's true colors until you start planning your wedding. Most of the time dealing with all of the personalities is much harder than dealing with the actual planning itself. For some reason, I've found that weddings have a way of turning even the most mild-mannered, normal human beings into Gary Busey.
You've all seen the movie Bridesmaids. The tea party bridal shower with the giant cookie, and Kristen Wiig's meltdown scene is the thing that sticks with me the most. Weddings can get extremely stressful for the wedding party, since a lot of the responsibility in making the bride feel special rests on them.