If you really want to be a good student of the Buddha and you're willing to take on a difficult learning assignment, here's a radical suggestion: love your problem people. They can teach you lessons that wonderful people never can.
Each tradition is valid. Each holds special significance to its followers. All provide Light and Truth to the world and seek to hold sacred the Mystery of Life. Yet, each must respect, value and so make room for all other traditions.
When I walked in, it looked like a cozy tea room parlor. Several sober women amidst of sea of not-at-all-sober men whisked me upstairs and closed the sliding door. A door with panes made of paper. They guided me to the grandmother's room down the hall -- off limits to men.