I am shocked--shocked--that Monica Lewinsky considers the Internet the major contributor to her ruined reputation; shocked that she considered her situation similar to Tyler Clementi's; and shocked at her timing.
When a student walked past my brother and yelled the "r-word" (retard) at Kevin and his classmates, I knew I had to stand up for my brother. I avoided physical confrontation, but I used my most powerful weapon -- my voice.
Being kind, being nice, treating others the way you want to be treated, and not hiding behind a computer screen to tear down others anonymously -- it all sounds too simple. At the end of the day, your offline personality should reflect your online demeanor.
When parents allow themselves to get distracted by surface misbehavior, they push their children away at just the time that the young person needs to be held most closely. In the heat of the moment, don't take anything your child says personally but do remember how desperately she needs your love and support at this time in her life.
And as long as we continue to call it a "hazing scandal" or "football controversy", we signal our willingness as a society to let it slide. Let's call it what it is.
For the last year and a half, I have worked closely with the DC Office of Human Rights to conduct an audit of school bullying prevention policies following the passage of Washington DC's Youth Bullying Prevention Act of 2012 (YBPA).
I can honestly say Mitch is one of the closest friends I have ever had, but Mitch is not my "friend with an intellectual disability," he's just my friend.
With decades of gender equality initiatives and the widespread groundswell for women's empowerment, is this what we really want for our next generation of women?
Being labeled a bully or a victim may itself do harm to kids. Labels imply fixed qualities in people -- that people's personalities cannot change.
Sadly, what begins as one person's inner turmoil can ultimately affect many. As the old expression goes, "The boss yells at the man, and the man goes home and yells at his wife, the wife yells at the kid, and the kid kicks the dog." Until someone breaks the cycle, the hurt keeps getting passed on.
The teasing from his teammates started slowly, but then one day some boys on his team pants'd him by pulling down Ben's pants on the playing field, in front of the whole team.
Have you ever felt defenseless at the hands of someone else? If so, how does it feel? Fear often sets in first, intimidation next; forced to submit, we often feel trapped. Trapped in a metaphorical cage with nowhere to run can be terrifying.
October 16 is the fifth annual #SpiritDay organized by GLAAD (formerly the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) to "go purple" and take a stand against bullying and show support of the LGBT(lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) youth.
What do we do tomorrow? When the purple is back in the closet (so to speak) and kids are still at risk and homophobia and transphobia are still real and present and bullying and killing our youth?
If just one person had decided to #BeBrave and stand up for me, and stand up to my bullies when I was too weak to do so, it would have changed my world.
Making snide comments about skinny women is no different than bullying a woman into believing she's too fat to be attractive. I know we like to support the underdog, but the underdog becomes relative to who's being bullied. This is why I find the term "reverse bullying" redundant.