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Sex and Seniors - STDs A New Reality For The Elderly

Derrick Y. McDaniel | Posted 04.06.2016 | Fifty
Derrick Y. McDaniel

Sex, sex and more sex. Lately it seems wherever I go (speaking event, supermarket, funeral etc.) I get asked questions about seniors having sex. In ...

#TalkToMe: Grandmother and Granddaughter Share Memories -- And an Extra Foot Bone

Lou-Ellen Barkan | Posted 04.05.2016 | Fifty
Lou-Ellen Barkan

In the context of a long and full life, the best reward is spending time with my grandchildren. And it's not just freedom from responsibilities of diaper changes and homework and boyfriend trouble; it's the joy of sharing exactly these same things, knowing that the wisdom of a lifetime is valued.

10 Things I Have Learned From People Who Have Alzheimer's

Marie Marley | Posted 04.04.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I was a caregiver for my beloved Romanian life partner, Ed, for seven years. Furthermore, I currently volunteer to make weekly visits to three women w...

Is A Life With Alzheimer's A Life Worth Living?

Lisa Hirsch | Posted 04.07.2016 | Fifty
Lisa Hirsch

As my month-long visit comes to an end, my trips each day to see my mom get harder and harder. I can feel my emotions surfacing, taking over as if I were riding a roller coaster. I awake each morning feeling like I could cry. I feel the pain of leaving her.

10 Mistakes to Avoid When Visiting a Person Who Has Alzheimer's

Marie Marley | Posted 03.19.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I've made many mistakes over the months. In fact, I'd say I deserved an "F" in visiting, especially in the beginning. I have learned that knowing what to do and actually doing it can be two very different things.

Are You Caring for a Loved One With Dementia? Try Mindfulness.

Marguerite Manteau-Rao | Posted 03.22.2016 | Healthy Living
Marguerite Manteau-Rao

Love is supposed to be reciprocal. What happens when our loved one stops showing us the love we have been conditioned to expect, when they meet our gaze with indifference, or when they tell us to go to hell? Dementia is an invitation for us to discover the true meaning of unconditional love, using mindfulness and loving kindness as gateway practices.

Brilliant Romanian Scholar Didn't Regret Losing His Mind

Marie Marley | Posted 02.17.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Ed Theodoru had been a true Renaissance man, as were many Europeans of his generation, but he stood out among them because his memory was phenomenal. It was his most distinguishing feature. He remembered everything he read, heard or saw. It was that simple.

How to Survive Being an Alzheimer's Caregiver

Marie Marley | Posted 02.12.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I was an Alzheimer's caregiver for seven years. I was not prepared for the mental and physical demands of caring for someone with dementia. As time pa...

Alzheimer's Journal: Tears for Yesterday

Marie Marley | Posted 02.06.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I was about to burst into tears and sit there sobbing. I looked up at the ceiling and around the room to distract myself. I didn't want to make a scene in front of Ed, the staff and the other residents. She kept right on playing and I kept struggling to keep the tears at bay.

What Your Aging Parents Aren't Telling You - My Neighborhood Is No Longer Safe

Patrick O'Brien | Posted 02.05.2016 | Fifty
Patrick O'Brien

As time passes, neighborhoods and communities change. New homes, shopping centers, and schools can make old ones unappealing and of little interest. E...

When Your Loved One Is Ready for Hospice Care - and You Aren't

Marie Marley | Posted 01.30.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Many painful emotional issues face family members and friends when a loved one becomes terminally ill. These include communicating the diagnosis to others; handling the physical and emotional exhaustion of intensive caregiving; and deciding when or whether to engage hospice care services.

5 of the Most Critical Tips for Alzheimer's Caregivers

Eric J. Hall | Posted 01.21.2016 | Healthy Living
Eric J. Hall

The journey for every Alzheimer's caregiver is different, but it is always challenging. With this in mind, here are some of the most critical tips for Alzheimer's caregivers to remember as they take on the important, yet daunting task of being a caregiver.

When a Loved One Has Alzheimer's: Realization vs. Acceptance

Marie Marley | Posted 01.18.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

These are two different things. It's one thing to finally realize someone close to you has Alzheimer's. It's a completely different thing to accept that fact.

Overcoming Denial When a Loved One Has Alzheimer's

Marie Marley | Posted 01.09.2016 | Fifty
Marie Marley

All too often loved ones of people with Alzheimer's are in denial. Hence they spend their time trying to get the person to 'act normal.' Trying to get them to remember and do things they will never be able to remember or do. This only leads to anger and frustration for the visitor and often for the person with Alzheimer's as well.

5 Resolutions Family Caregivers Must Make -- And Keep

Laura Dixon | Posted 01.07.2016 | Fifty
Laura Dixon

New Year's resolutions get a bad rap, and that's understandable, considering the high rate of failure. As a caregiver for a senior loved one, you may be tempted to forgo the resolutions this year. After all, why add more to your already substantial to-do list? But this isn't such a good idea.

A Nursing Home Aide's Shocking Behavior

Marie Marley | Posted 12.11.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Seeing that depth of affection - you can't fake bursting into tears - from an aide who'd cared for Ed for only one month, I was sure I'd selected the best Alzheimer's facility in town.

Caregiving's Not Just A Personal Issue But Also A Legislative Issue

Nancy LeaMond | Posted 12.10.2015 | Fifty
Nancy LeaMond

Sometimes the pressing issues that are affecting millions of American families are loud; front and center in the public dialogue. Other times, they are quiet; right in front of us, flying under the radar -- like family caregiving, an issue that will touch almost everyone in the country.

A Song for the Alzheimer's Journey

Deborah Swiss | Posted 12.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Deborah Swiss

Alzheimer's caregiving is the toughest job I've ever known but it also vividly distills what's really important in life. For five and a half years, I cared for my mother, Peg Swiss, as advanced Alzheimer's tightened its grip on her brain.

A Man With Alzheimer's and the Dog Who Forecasted His Death

Marie Marley | Posted 12.03.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Peter, my precious little Shih Tzu puppy, was brown and white with enormous brown eyes; his tail never stopped wagging. I was so happy I'd chosen him. Actually, I didn't choose Peter. He chose me. Like the Mona Lisa, his eyes followed me everywhere I went in the pet store.

How to Be With a Loved One With Dementia During the Holidays

Marguerite Manteau-Rao | Posted 11.29.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Marguerite Manteau-Rao

"I am so sad. I want to see my son." I found her sitting in her wheelchair crying out for her one most beloved person in the whole world. Her son had ...

What Other Countries Can Teach America About Caregiving

Sherri Snelling | Posted 11.25.2015 | Fifty
Sherri Snelling

Many of the great tips, inspirations and empowering stories about caregiving come from lands far and away. Since most caregivers do not typically get a chance to take vacations -- especially to exotic international locales -- I thought I would share my caregiving global tour.

A Daughter's Touching Letter To Her Mom With Alzheimer's

Lisa Hirsch | Posted 02.16.2016 | Fifty
Lisa Hirsch

Mom, as I sit down to write my letter I wonder how I can possibly start to share all my feelings with you. So much has changed since you developed Alzheimer's 11 years ago. As I gather my thoughts I realize that you will not be able to comprehend most of what I say.

How I Got My Beloved Romanian Soul Mate With Alzheimer's to Stop Driving

Marie Marley | Posted 11.14.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Without even realizing it - in my denial, I still didn't acknowledge that Ed has Alzheimer's - I'd solved this first serious dementia-related problem.

I Yelled At My Dying Husband, And I'm Still Mired In Shame

Debbie Weiss | Posted 11.12.2015 | Fifty
Debbie Weiss

Two and a half years after my husband George died of cancer, I am still mired in shame and regret because I was such a poor caregiver to him. Images of me angry, yelling at him, continue to haunt me.

Focus on the Roses in Alzheimer's Care

Marie Marley | Posted 11.07.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

To a great extent, our attitudes about long-term care facilities and people with dementia influence how we view them. We must look at the roses and let the thorns pass into the background.