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Child Loss

Why I Talk About My Stillbirth

Alana Rosenstein | Posted 05.27.2015 | Women
Alana Rosenstein

When I was pregnant or trying to conceive, I hated hearing stories about pregnancy loss and stillbirth. It wasn't just because I felt sad for the families involved (though I certainly did); I wanted to pretend that such losses didn't happen to women like me.

5 Ways to Support a Family Expecting a Rainbow Baby

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

If you know a mama expecting a rainbow baby, one of the most beautiful things you can do is sensitively validate her feelings, and empathetically follow her lead. I am so grateful to my family and friends who've done just this, and in doing so, have allowed me to celebrate the rainbow in my belly, honor the angel in my heart, and cherish the sweet child in my arms.

Trying to Celebrate Mother's Day When The Mothering Is Rough

Carrie Goldman | Posted 05.08.2015 | Parents
Carrie Goldman

I don't feel like the World's Best Mother. I feel like a mother who is filled with doubts right now. A mother who is asking questions for which there may not be clear answers.

Mother's Day After Losing a Child

Phyllis Sudman | Posted 05.05.2015 | Parents
Phyllis Sudman

I never got to celebrate a Mother's Day with Simon. He arrived just before Thanksgiving and left right after the New Year. However, the legacy he left for our family and others will forever be celebrated and cherished on days like Sunday.

7 Ways to Remember the Hurting Mothers This Mother's Day

Lexi Behrndt | Posted 04.30.2015 | Parents
Lexi Behrndt

This life can be unkind, but together, we can make it a little safer place for the hurting mothers on this Mother's Day. If you have a hurting mother in your life -- whether they be a friend or family, make this day a little easier to bear for them. Remember them. Acknowledge them.

Wes the Extra Ordinary

Ashbey Riley | Posted 04.08.2015 | Parents
Ashbey Riley

During his last moments, when it looked as though he had taken his last breath and his parents crumpled with grief, he rallied and breathed again to give them more time. This was the kind of wonderful boy Wes was.

Happy Birthday, Jack! Anna Whiston-Donaldson On Losing a Child

Melanie Bishop | Posted 05.18.2015 | Books
Melanie Bishop

Today Jack would've turned 16. Had he not been swept up by a flooding creek in a friend's backyard in September of 2011, Jack would be with his mom and dad, sister and cousins and friends tonight, celebrating his sweet 16.

Our Silence Only Strengthens Our Suffering

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 05.16.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

If you stay silent, I can pretty much guarantee it will be difficult to find the support and love you will so need in this lifelong journey of loss and recovery.

Things to Know When Your Friend Loses a Baby

Tara Shafer | Posted 03.28.2015 | Parents
Tara Shafer

Mourning loss is healthy. It promotes integration of normal and understandable grief. When women are unable to access helpful social networks, however, complicated grief may present.

How We're Celebrating Our Twins' Third Birthday When One of Our Birthday Boys Is No Longer Here

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 03.16.2015 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

I own the heartache of Micah. I celebrate Micah, speak his name, and share his story in ways that bring me peace. I love that I can now confidently and calmly say: It is Micah and Zachary's birthday.

Learning to Live Again After Losing a Child

Dr. Gail Gross | Posted 02.28.2015 | Parents
Dr. Gail Gross

No parent ever completely recovers from the loss of a child. After all, this child was part of you and when your child dies, it forever alters the way in which you define your past, your present and your future.

The Miracle On 34th Street- 1 Year Later

Patrice Bendig | Posted 02.05.2015 | Good News
Patrice Bendig

The most appropriate thing I can do to commemorate Weston's transplant anniversary is to urge others to be part of a miracle for a family waiting for the life-saving gift of organ and tissue donation.

There's No Strong like Preemie Strong

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 01.18.2015 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

What is it like to be a preemie? What is it like to be alone in a plastic box for days, weeks or even months, when developmentally, you're still supposed to be engulfed in your mother's warmth? What is it like to be forced to breathe, eat and live when your body is not physically ready?

The Other Quiet Mom

Nancy Davis Johnson | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Nancy Davis Johnson

Stories that end with "and then they couldn't find the baby's heartbeat" generally stop a conversation. So these recollections tend to be kept inside, ratcheting up the aloneness that feels like it can smother a mother who has lost a child.

Three Is The Magic Number

Lauren Stevens | Posted 12.09.2014 | Parents
Lauren Stevens

The doctor left the room, and I went in to use the bathroom, the sound of the woman in the adjoining room's healthy baby's heartbeat echoing off the cold tile.

Once My Child, Always My Child

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 11.26.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

Micah is my son and always will be. I will never "move on." I love Micah just as much as I love Zachary. Micah is gone from our arms, but not from our family.

Talking To Children About Pregnancy And Infant Loss

Tara Shafer | Posted 11.24.2014 | Parents
Tara Shafer

I still think a lot about that searing winter when the dead and the living were juxtaposed, each clamoring impossibly to be understood. I remember the white-hot grief and the blunt-force trauma of my sudden loss, and also the sweet presence of my little boy, playing with blocks.

What NOT To Say After Miscarriage or Child Loss

Seleni Institute | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Seleni Institute

When someone you love loses a baby, you may feel helpless and uncertain about how to respond. And you might not get it right. If you've never experienced such a loss yourself, how can you know what your friend or family member needs at this terrible time?

Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

10 Things Parents Of Preemies Need To Know From Day One In The NICU

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 09.15.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

Do not let anyone intimidate or shame you for being your baby's advocate. You are not annoying. You are not stupid. You are not going to jeopardize your baby's care. Your baby needs you to speak up for him/her, respectfully.

5 Things My Son Is Learning From His Father

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 08.12.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

Fatherhood is full of ups and downs; it's rarely a smooth ride. Life has thrown my husband, Noah, some of fatherhood's most joyful and tragic experiences.

When Mother's Milk Was All I Had to Give

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 08.09.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

The one way I could nurture my fragile babies was by giving them my milk. Making milk was my one source of empowerment, when all of my motherly duties and responsibilities were taken away and given to clinicians.

Armchair Analysis: Was Your Relationship 'Good' Enough to Warrant So Much Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

If you're wrestling with what to share or not share about your relationship, here's what you should know: The reality is, everyone has imperfect relationships.

What I Really Want To Say When You Ask Why My Son's Hair Is Long

Jennifer Canvasser | Posted 07.12.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Canvasser

Before you judge the mother of a little boy with long hair, take a step back and consider the bigger picture. What has this family been through? What has this little boy been through?

The Nurse Who Stood Beside Me Through The Very Worst

Heather Spohr | Posted 07.09.2014 | Parents
Heather Spohr

We begged and plead and prayed and clutched hands for the worst three hours of my life. And when the doctors told us there was nothing more they could do, she helped pick me up off the ground when I collapsed.