Single parents often hear the advice that they should wait at least six months before introducing a potential new partner to their children. I believe it's important, before you invest that much time, energy and emotion in a relationship, to see if your potential new partner and your children accept each other.
As difficult as breaking the news can be, managing your child's behavior during and after a separation or divorce can be extremely challenging.
Divorce is difficult. No matter how common, it is one of the most challenging of life's experiences. It's not just your marital status that changes -- your entire life shifts. When divorce is personal, everything you've read, heard or seen takes on a new angle. Divorce for me was an alien concept, and the realities that came with it were not something I was prepared for. I had to re-identify myself, my role as a person, a woman, and a mother.
We did not ask for our parents to break up. I know that's not entirely fair to you. Because this is your relationship and your life too... but remember, when you signed up to marry my dad, you signed up for us, too.
Our daughter isn't a possession or a puppet. She's not a pawn or weapon. She's a little girl who never asked for divorced parents and she needs to feel equally important and cherished at both homes. She needs to see her parents love each other and work together as a team.
Always feeling like the bad kid growing up, Colin felt everything was his fault. "My father was abusive to my mother. He was always angry. She was always crying. That is all I remember of my childhood.
Some kids take divorce relatively easy and others, not so much. Perhaps if my daughter had had a sibling to absorb and process the change with maybe she would have taken it better. Perhaps if she weren't so smart she would have handled it better. Perhaps if she were older....IF, IF,IF.
Placing children first should be the primary goal of every divorce, but sometimes there is a real lack of guidance for parents who are trying to navigate this challenging experience. As a result, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers has developed a helpful publication.
In the midst of chaos and grief -- divorcing couples often discount the impact their divorce has on their youngest children. In my therapy practice, parents will often send their older children to therapy, but will report that their little ones are "doing just fine."
Marcie is my daughter's stepmom, or as we say in our family, her second mom. We've never really referred to her as stepmother unless we were trying to...
Divorce is ugly and painful. Voiced or not, when you commit to being "one" with each other, divorce is a tearing apart of that oneness and it hurts. Even the amicable divorces can leave deep scars for the couple splitting up, but also for the children.
Your choices and behavior have far-reaching consequences when you're parenting through a divorce. Being able to partition your feelings and your reactions to problems between you and your ex is essential, so that you can be a role model for your children.
Alzheimers is a disease that takes the story of your life and throws the pages of memory up in the air. Many blow away. But some land right in your hands.
If you're divorcing, it's very likely that your world is being rocked like no other time in your life. You may feel shell-shocked, unmoored, enraged or depressed.
Lena was an anomaly in our kindergarten class. Not because she was a bit bigger than the rest of us. And not because she wore those cool tennis shoes that light up at every step. No, she was different because sometimes she was picked up by her dad and sometimes by her mom.
t's been said, timing is everything. And with divorce season upon us, it's a good time to consider how kids, at different stages including adulthood, experience their parents breaking up. You might be surprised by what the experts report.