All parents need to be aware that when a child expresses love, admiration or respect for their other parent, it doesn't diminish their love for you. Competition for affection between parents, divorced or otherwise, is a no-win road to alienating your children.
Because of my childhood, my daughter will never have to question whether she is good enough. Because of my childhood, my daughter will never have to feel responsible for repairing an unhappy home. Because of my childhood, my daughter will always hear how strong and smart and capable she is.
For stepmothers, Mother's Day can create hurt feelings when the children they're helping to raise head off to their "real" mother's house without a backward glance.
If you're a mother and considering/going through a divorce, this topic ranks right up there on the most dreaded conversations to have. "How to tell the kids" is bad, but what's worse is what will they will say after you tell them. I've asked a few divorced moms to help me and here are the ten most commonly asked questions -- and some really great ways to respond.
Every single thing we say and do are actions which we have chosen to make. What we don't say and do are the result of our inactions, which are also choices. Whether those choices are conscious or unconscious, they are still choices.
April 14 is National Ex Spouse Day. Who knew! I didn't, and now that I'm enlightened I want to positively celebrate my ex. Sounds crazy, huh? You probably think I'm a lunatic to do this given all I've written about recovering from divorce, being a divorced entrepreneur, a single dad, etc.
The Missouri legislature is currently considering the enactment of legislation that would define frozen embryos as human life.
During my 35 years of practice, I have been amazed and delighted to see so many divorced parents "get it right."
On a first date with the last guy I dated before meeting my husband, he casually asked, in between sake shots, "So your parents are divorced, huh? You don't have all sorts of crazy daddy issues, do you?" Why yes, unkind sir. Yes, I do.
It wasn't my choice to get divorced, and for a while I held extreme bitterness at my ex for having destroyed what was, at least on paper, a "perfect" life.
Many fathers who are divorced will agree that the most difficult part is not being with your children every day and feeling like you've become a visitor in their lives.
By: Ashley Tate Cooper, Esq. Partner at Weinberg & Cooper, LLC, Hackensack, NJ email@example.com "...But how do we tell the children?" O...
I did what any curious twelve year old would do and started reading. I hadn't yet had the proper sex tutorial -- and who better to teach you about the birds and the bees than Madonna and a dominatrix named Dita.
Sooner or later the children will be adults and will develop their own connection with (or isolation from) the other parent. How you handle it until then is what the kids will know and hopefully love about you.
It's easy to get tired of being the glue that holds together this delicate balance. The chauffeur, the chef, the maid, the tutor, the event planner. But without all of these things, I'd have no front row seat to their lives and the million subtle ways they grow and change with every experience.
What kids really need from you during and after your divorce or separation is your time, your attention, your compassion and your love. Help them to understand that it is you and the other parent who are splitting up with each other, and that neither of you are splitting up with your children.