Well today, our 20 year marriage ended in courtroom 2-D. When we came to this decision months ago, I felt like the world had ended. In truth, I was afraid of what life would look like now without you. But now, standing here, it seems much more survivable.
I made my case to our therapist and my then-wife, "We've lived as roommates for a while now, we can do another two months so our kids can reach the summer before we throw their entire world into this."
Ads like Honey Maid's, however, place moms like me and dads like my ex potentially on the defensive, maybe even to be labeled bigots. But why should I ever need to defend myself for wanting to make sure that my children know that their dad is 'Dad' and their mom is 'Mom.'
I litigate for a living, but if I do my job really well, you never step foot inside a courtroom. If you step foot into a courtroom, you have already lost. You have abdicated your parental authority to the state rather than compromise with someone you once loved.
I answered his questions honestly and let him know that no matter what, he did not do anything to cause this. I encouraged him to look at the brighter side and told him that the divorce would never change how we felt about him.
Now that it's September, and school bells are ringing again, are you ready to support your child in making the transition to a new school year? If you are separated or recently divorced, here are some tips we've collected over the years.
Getting ready for a new school year can be stressful for any family. This can get even more challenging for families where the parents are separated or divorced.
Whether you go off the rails in public, tell your in-laws the unhappy truths of the marriage, or take a golf club to your ex's car, you're in danger of losing your dignity and self-respect. Nothing wrong with advocating for yourself, but ugly behaviors do nothing but demean you. Here are the top five ways to your better divorce.
Divorce fiction is hot. There are categories for women's divorce fiction and teen divorce fiction and kid divorce fiction and even men's divorce fiction. Parents buy kid divorce fiction to help kids cope as their lives get turned inside-out.
Children derive security from parental love, support and protection. Even after divorce, if the children feel both parents are still there for them -- participating in their lives and providing love and guidance -- they can thrive.
Divorce is a grown-up experience that can bring us to our knees. In addition, it can hurt our kids very deeply as they have neither our years of experience, nor our understanding.
I perused their wedding album countless times, but on one occasion I paused and flipped back through the pages, eagerly looking for my myself in their pictures, any picture. 'Why can't I remember what I wore that day? Was I a flower girl?'
As a child I fought hard to overcome the day-to-day challenges divorce introduced into my life. My parents were perpetually at odds, and while the war waged on between them I often wondered how to find my place in the world.
Two days before my mother died from cancer she asked, "You won't be contacting your father, will you?" They had been divorced 37 years but their animosity toward each other never waned. "Really? This isn't important right now mom."
I always knew that divorce ends marriages, but what I didn't know, was the way in which it would dissolve my family.
I was six. She was 26. I was a chubby, dishwater-blonde tomboy. She was a lithe, brunette model. I wore football jerseys. She wore patchouli. The only thing we shared in common was a love for her boyfriend -- my dad.