Parents who work together and make the best decisions for their child are better off than when a court imposes an order on the family. With that goal in mind, look for a parenting expert or coach in your city. There are also many valuable resources available to you including co-parenting classes and co-parenting books. Finally, don't forget to talk to an attorney in your city for a resource list and tips on how to navigate this process!
Life isn't always easy but it can be with the help or two parents who love their children unconditionally and need to learn some simple tips to develop successful co parenting situations. I believe in you and make sure you set a great example and speak nice because your kids are watching, listening and learning from you all the time. Be great because I know you can.
I am of the opinion that the more clarity and definition you have in your co-parenting plan the better. For many of you, the co-parenting plan will be put away in a drawer and rarely, if ever, looked at again. For all of you though, thinking these issues through and really taking them seriously will make a world of difference, and may even help you attain the closure you desperately want and need.